How do i get a better friendship with my brother?

sweet & sour

I have 2 brothers who are as different as night & day. Even though they have seperate interests they try to find time to spend together doing what the other likes to do.

Kiki006

Take the time to talk with him and get to know what he likes, what he wants to do with his life, etc. Spend time - go get lunch go for a walk, play a video game together (but talk during or afterwards!). The only way to get to know anyone is to spend time with that person. Good luck!

noseygirl

Be honest. Try calling and hanging out together. Spend time together.

ERIC G

If you're the big brother, stop picking on him and beating him up..If your friends have brothers his age, bring him along to meet those kids. Don't tell others his secrets, phobias, fears or shames.
If you are younger, don't pester him or tag along everywhere he goes. Don't whine because he seems to get to do more things before you do. He was growing up before you were born, so he WILL do most things before you.
If he trusts you with a secret that doesn't hurt anyone, that is something special, a bond. Break that trust at your mutual peril Conversely, don't burden your brother with a dark or criminal secret to test his loyalty. If the secret was a lie, you're doubly damned.

Kaia

It depends on your ages. When we were young, my brother and I were never "best friends", but I was always ready to tell him I loved him and was proud of him. When I did have to tell him off, I found it worked best if I asked him if he'd like it if someone did "that" to him. He'd mumbled "no", and that was usually the end of it. The big thing is, you may never be friends growing up because of all that sibling rivalry stuff. You can however, always make sure you're the first to praise him and let him know you think he's pretty cool. Without getting all gooey about it.

Now, we're adults and love each other dearly. We have next to nothing in common, besides genetics and shared relatives, but I listen to him and make sure to tell him when he's "done good", and tease him (gently) when he's screwed up. I know if I needed him, he'd drive to the ends of the earth to be there for me. He knows I'd do the same for him.

Good luck.

SharkPrincess

Find out the things that you both remotely like. For instance, my brother and I used to have a horrible relationship, fighting all the time. But later in high school, I fell in love with The Rock, (the wrestler) and my brother loved watching wrestling at the time. So we both ended up watching wrestling, and even went to a wrestling event in my town together.
Its harder to find common ground especially if you both have really different tastes. But there has to be some tiny spark of something that you both are intrested in.
There is always the helpful food trick. I like cooking, and I know what my brother likes to eat, so times where I cook my brother gets intrested in what I'm making. So when I cook his favorite, he gets to sit down with me and enjoy the meal together.

purple_rme

spend more time with him

charmed3x3

My brother and I have a very interesting relationship. He is ultra conservative, and a capitalist, where as I am liberal, and well..anti capitalism.

But still yet we can call each other and shoot the sh*t and get to know each other, talk about our children, how I'm raising a hippy and his daughter is going to end up being a prom queen.

we have a good relationship

the key...and the ultimate key..is this

and i mean it..hands down

Communicate, talk, talk talk talk talk talk

just-me-asking-u

Not sure what this has to do with "safety".... I would start by talking with him, find out what your mutual interest are. Then maybe plan a "bonding" weekend ( I did this with my brother and his family) or it could just be a "guy thing" outing ( camping, fishing, car show, movie & dinner etc) Then try to keep in touch via phone, e-mail what have you at least once every other week if you both have families and a hectic work load. Make it a ritual to have your "outings" twice a year: once with family and once just for "the guys" (which my husband does with his brothers)
Take turns if travel is involved visiting each other or just go some place different each time.As you get older and your "family" grows include your sons(I did not include daughters only because while the guys are doing their thing- the women can have "quality" time as well) on your excursions. Not only will you be
becoming closer but you will show your children the importance of being close with family.That you can make time (even if it is twice a year) to visit and how to make it "quality" time.
I believe once you start talking to your brother about how you feel and what you are looking for to improve your relationship with him, he will be reseptive to you ideas.
Good luck and remember that "It is not the quantity of time you spend with a person that counts, it is the quality of time."
Enjoy

karlai a

Try to understand him

um yea hi

this question doesnt belong in this category but ill let it slide :)
talk to him, call him, start doing more stuff with him. ask him to go see a movie. ask him for advice about something or for help (it may make him feel you trust/like him). be nice to him. give him a gift on all holidays to show you care. if he does something like say go to the gym, go with him. if he likes a certain hobby that you like go out and do it with him, join a club with him etc. watch tv with him. go fishing with him. ask him to join you on a hike. just doing more stuff with him will help. i hope this helps. i think friendships with your siblings are important because if you fight they are still your sibling, and always will be. good luck! i hope you are able to establish a good friendship with him. :)

precious

since that's your brother , what ever you did ,you should be able too sit him down and tell him how you feel and why you did it.and just tell him that you are sorry and never do it and.unless you slept with his girlfriend, then your f*ck.

babydoll

Talk to your brother about how you feel. Tell him you want to have a great brother to brother friendship with him. just tell him how you really feel. he may feel the same way.

Becky Boo

Do something you both have an interest in, and if you don't have a shared interest, do something he likes, then do something you like, the best way to bond is get to know each other...........GOOD LUCK!

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