I just lost my son in a fatal Car crash. I cant go on. He was just 23. He was the passenger. What do I do

Lindy

I am so very sorry for your loss, I really dont know what to say to you.

The first thing you need to do is to give yourself time to grieve you cant rush that, you must take time out to look after yourself, I'm sure that your son would expect you to get on with your life.

Take a deep breath, rest, eat sleep and live, it will take time, my thoughts are with you, I know that sounds soppy, but they are.

Raynanne

You have my prayers at this time. I will not print a bunch of things here, but direct you to the following webpages:

http://www.theeasierway.com/resourceDocs/losingachild.htm

http://www.athealth.com/consumer/disorders/parentalgrief.html

When I lost my own child I came upon this quote: "A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. But...there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that's how awful the loss is!" - Neugeboren

All you can do is try to make it through the next 5 minutes, then the 5 minutes after that and the 5 minutes after that until they become hours and the hours days and the days become weeks.

lovelymuffcup

Jeffrey,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Please go and see your GP who can arrange counselling for you.

Take care.

pepzi_bandit

omg you poor thing, I couldn't begin to understand what you are going through, (I have a son also in his 20s)
my thoughts and best wishes are with you, I dont know what else to say.....................

ralphers

Your son is still in your heart. Understand that it was his time, for whatever reason, its not your time. Find a local grieving group, they can help you understand your feelings... your not alone.

No one can take that part of him (in your heart) away from you, treasure it, share it, love it.

Sal*UK

I'm so sorry. Why not contact a group like Cruise? Or perhaps a bereavement counsellor? You need help as a family to get through this. Take care - I will think of you in my prayers.

Mumbles

My heart goes out to you. All you can do right now is grieve. When you feel up to it, you should seek some sort of counseling to help you through this challenging time.

You'll never get over it, but you can learn to cope with what has happened.

dan_wel77

Be sure that your son is in good hands right now and accept the fact that your son is gone.. Loosing someone important is hard specially a son.

Joe C

I'm really sorry to hear that.

;o Oh Wow o;

i feel deep sympathy for you, maybe on hsi birthday u can light a candle, i know this seems weird and unusual and it wont replace him, but since you feel so much lvoe for him, why not adopt a child? that way you can share your love and laughter with somebody else

Daphne W

Lord, whose ways are beyond understanding,
listen to the prayers of your faithful people:
that those weighed down by grief
at the loss of this this young adult
may we find reassurance in your infinite goodness.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.

Amen.

You have to search deep with in and know that your son will want you to be happy. Don't think of it as death, think of it as him going home with the lord. Pray every chance you get and do not for a second forget who your son was. I am truley sorry for your loss, and I do not know how I would handle losing my own child. I will keep you in my prayers. Stay strong for your son. God Bless.

HeadLiner

rely on family to help you go on.

old_woman_84

I am so very sorry for your loss. Just take one day at a time--one hour at a time--one minute at a time. I have often thought that would be one of the worst losses one could accept. I hope you have loved ones or friends to share your burden or give you words of comfort. I will remember you in my prayers.

berna

There is a religion,your faith,look at your loved ones..think of the happy years that you been together...in the end it still you ..the one who will decide with what you will be doing for the rest of your life...holding on to the past or letting go..

Gypsy

I am sorry for your loss...

I know the pain that you feel, I lost my son in 1996, he was 16,
all I can say is get thru today, dont worry about tomorrow.
Do what feels right for you.

I am at a loss its hard sitting here knowing what to say but the words dont come.

Remember him for who he was and you take it 1 day at a time. You will be in my thoughts as you go thru this difficult time.

AckAck

Im very sorry to hear of your loss.

But i would advise not to ask for help from a site such as this....its just pure luck that the posters before me seem to be balanced and moral people.

Its only a matter of time before some idiot posts here......if they do,try to ignore the lowlife.

Î”Î§

I am 23 and that is really sad to hear. I don't have any advice to give you. I can't tell you how to feel or what to do.

But I will say a prayer for you and your son right now.

I am truely sorry for your loss. God bless.

sweet tooth

i'm sorry for your loss.
it is very hard to lose a loved one especially a son you had so much high hopes for, many have gone through it
a son is irreplacable even if you have other children
don't be alone , always stay around friends/ family
if you have a faith you can talk to the minister and visit your place of worship and pray. this will help you a lot.
i hope you feel better soon.

Kuriko

Go to a counselor.

PAT

I'm so sorry for your lost and I really do know what your going thru. I lost my son Dec. 11, 2010 in a car crash. He was 23 would have been 24 Dec.20 and only one semester left in college. All I know to do is pray......

Frank

You cry. And you give it time. A lot of time. Life isn't fair a lot of times. When I say not fair, I totally mean it. It is just not right. But there's not anything you can do for your son now. You can only do for yourself, and those others who loved and will miss your son. The first thing is to consider is what your son would want for you. Grieve, and then make up your mind that you still have a life to live. Allow yourself to miss your son, and then make plans for your own life. Research shows that those who make plans and/or goals for their future, live longer and healthier lives ... because they're actually trying to achieve something. I just lost my brother, 37 years old, to pancreatic cancer. You and I can give a lecture about what's REALLY not fair.

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