18 years old, adoption?

a friend of mine wants to give her baby up for adoption. i won't be 18 until november, but my mother has stepped up and said she would adopt the baby for my friend. i would be helping out financially, i have my cna and i'm going this fall for my lpn, i'm getting an apartment as soon as i turn 18. i'm very responsible, and the mother of the child knows i would make a good mother for her daughter. i have had two miscarriages and find it a blessing. could my mother then sign over legal rights of the child to me? we're meeting with a social advisor soon. until then, does anyone know how this works, or if it's possible to do so? adoption stories more than welcome, i'm looking for an answer though! thanks! :D
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it would be an open adoption, i would show that i could fully handle and support the child. i would be raising her and bonding with her more than my mother, and paying for her childcare and other expenses. i think it's unfair to put an age on maturity.

monkeykitty83

Almost all jurisdictions require you to be 21 to adopt, not 18.

At 18 in some places you'd be able to get a guardianship order (though many would still require you to be 21,) but this seems like an incredible amount of disruption for the baby. First she loses her biological mother, then gets passed to her own mother, then gets passed to you? Infants are aware of who their caretaker is, and this doesn't seem like a good situation for a baby, being handed around like a library book.

If your friend genuinely doesn't want to keep her own baby or cannot parent, honestly I think she needs to look into placing her child into a stable situation with someone who is actually able to take custody. If the child can't stay with his/her own mother, it's kind of unfair to kick him/her into limbo.

snowwillow20

If your mother adopts, then when you are old enough you would have to adopt her yourself, how confusing for a child.
Try to talk your friend in to keeping her child. She will thank you for it later and so will her child.
I am sorry for your loss, you are only 17 and have had 2 miscarriages, that is a lot for a young woman to go through.

mer_359

i mean..you're 18 years old. why do you want to have a baby now? your life hasn't even started...you aren't even old enough to have a legal drink!

i don't know..im preaching to the choir on this one, i know, but to me it's just a messed up view...you're still a kid, how are you going to raise on?

not to mention the fact that there are stable married couples who can't have children

military_mummy

I think you should consider yourself lucky that both of your pregnancies ended in miscarriage. You are too young to be a mother to your own child, let alone someone else`s. I can not see any government agency allowing legal adoption to take place when the adopting parent is an unmarried single 18 year old.

I`m not trying to be rude but as responsible as you may be, it would be unethical for any social system to do that for you.

Joey

With your plan, this baby will be passed around like a plate of doughnuts! Anyway, you're too young. This baby should be placed with a two-parent, stable, loving home.

Robyn <3

Sorry i don't really have any knowledge in this type of situation.
I just wanted to say to the "military_mommy" that that has got to be one of the most irresponsible things i have ever heard..you think its a good thing that she had two miscarriages?? your sick! Speaking as someone who had a child at 18 and recently went through a miscarriage herself..all i can say is i pity your child for having you as a mother you obviously knows nothing about what it takes to be a good mother it's in no way, shape or form your age that defines how well you can care for a child.

danie

I think that's a lovely thing to do for your friend. Your Mom should formally (legally adopt) the child. That way the child is officially hers. Otherwise, your friend could come back at any time for the child.

At 17 you will not be able to adopt. You might be able to adopt the child from your mother later on. The judge would need to approve it and you would have to prove you can support a child physically, emotionally and financially.

Shellie

i looked how to adopt a child before and it said you have to be 25 but thats with an agent or some short like that. but i think if the mother wants you to have the child she can sign her over but with your mom she can adopt her and can sign legal right to you when you are 18

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