ADOPTEES: Why do you tell your story?

Lillie

If I don't who will?

Most adoptees who have any negative emotions at all, are quickly shut down. By their families, friends, co-workers, anyone who loves adoption or just doesn't "get it".

Most adoptees with a negative emotion about adoption have been told so many times to "get over it" and "move on" and "be grateful" are so sick and tired of hearing it that they choose to just remain silent. Or, there's the old fear of hurting those who raised us, or of being rejected, that they just choose to remain silent.

Well I am done being silent, and am speaking up. So people understand that adoption is not win-win-win, that it has very real effects on the people involved, and those who are thinking of adopting might do well to realize that and those who have already adopted might do well to understand that and recognize these signs in the children they are parenting.

Many other things in my life have been traumatic that I probably wallow in more than I do adoption, like the deaths of my parents and my brother's loss of his eyesight and half his brain, but you know, talking about THAT won't HELP anyone else...at least talking about adoption issues might HELP other adoptees, either now or in the future.

kateiskate

Because I have to. It's obvious I'm adopted because I'm Asian and stick out like a sore thumb in a White family.

Mei-Ling

So people can contemplate what I've said and to spare the future generations of having to deal with society's ignorance and unwillingness to acknowledge the ramifications.

Flying Monkey #073177

I have no idea why I tell my story anymore. Honestly I'm not sure why I say anything around here, half the time I'm told to stop talking and the other half the time I am righteously put in my place. Might be time to shut my yap.

Heather B

Because I care so very much about the fate of present and future adoptees and want people to be aware of some of the issues their child may face growing up adopted; particularly in closed adoption.

celtic.piskie

Because i don't want another kid to be the 'back-up' child.

I don't want another hild to be an outsider all their life, to have half the family not want them..

Because the world should know that religious, well-earning, respectable families can break their childrens bones.

kidmindi

Because it is part of who I am.

chrissy

I tell my story because most people speak to me in Spanish, it is obvious I am Colombian and my parents are not. Another reason is that it is just an interesting story and it is part of who I am.

SJM

I'm telling my story at this particular point in time because the MSM recently proclaimed the 'right to adopt', and the uninformed masses applauded the suggestion.

Nothing good can come of this attitude of entitlement. Someone has to expose the sinister side of the adoption machine. I can't expect others to do all the work.

almost human

I try to express the adoptee perspective
because the adoptee journey can be unfathomable to comprehend

I want to create A MORE HUMANE WORLD for children

because I believe in people and their capacity to change
this mess for the better

...

MelzMom

Because I want people to know that there are adoptees who are content to be adopted and don't have all the resentments and hang ups that the most vocal adoptees here have. People could get the idea that all adoptees are messed up or angry and that is just not so.

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

Because I want others to hear that there ARE us happy and well-adjusted but also open minded adoptees and bmoms. Like me.

SSullWill

I tell my story to educate people. There are too many people out there that think adoption is "baby buying" or that adopted children aren't you're "real" children. Ignorant people stating their opinions about something they truly have no experience with hurts a lot of people that have gone through this. I just hope that people will listen and learn a little bit.

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