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NOT SILLY!!!
Not silly at all.
Do a bar-b-que type get together. Maybe have a cake. Casual, relaxed, fun with family. Maybe rent a bounce house for a day.
Don't mention gifts either way. If the family members who know the children want to bring gifts, great. If not, no great loss.
Ignore the bitter adoptees. Seriously! I didn't know people could have that much hate in their hearts. |
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Jennifer L
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A sibling group of 4? Wow! Congratulations!
I would recommend something fun and informal. Kid friendly. Especially since the children know most of the people there, it should be a fun, (mostly) stress free event.
I'd suggest something like a BBQ, either at a home or at a park. Open spaces, balls of some sort and playground equipment usually work for kids.
As far as gifts, I wouldn't specify anything on the invites. Maybe suggest that people bring something for a potluck instead.
Again, congrats!
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Annabelle
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Adoption celebrations are pretty common. You could just call it the jones family barbeque or whatever if you dont want to call it a adoption party. I wouldnt call i a shower myself b/c that is typically something someone throws for you.
Have fun it is a great way to celebrate your new family! |
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mamm23
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Just do like a barbecue kind of thing. You don't want the kids to get too overwhelmed, so I would keep it casual. Personally I see no problem with gifts, but I don't think I would open them in front of the party guests as it might make the kids uncomfortable. (Depending on their ages) It is NOT at all silly. You are celebrating a joyous occasion. |
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i agree with the first answer.
and no, you dont have to ask for gifts, although people will probably give them to you anyway.
congratulations, btw! (: |
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Mis
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Heck yeah do a Adoption Shower, and of course let there be gifts! I think this is an amazing idea. I bet the people that will come to the shower will think its a great idea too!! They will want to bring gifts! |
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k4yjo
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I think thats a lovely idea. Just invite everyone round and say you are celebrating the adoption finalising, let them bring gifts if they want to -leave it to them to decide.
Have a wonderful time |
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michaellandonsmommy
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I would have a casual family/friend dinner. Something that feeds a lot for a reasonable price. Like Lasagna.
I wouldn't expect gifts. But people will probably ask what the kids need. Some will bring gift cards, etc. Make sure to send out thank you cards promptly though. You would be amazed on how many people get nice gifts, and don't send out thank you cards, even if all they did was came to your special day.
Good luck. Congrats! |
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Kazi
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4 children, wow, congratulations!!!
Our adoption of our son becomes final on Friday and my sister is throwing us a "family party", which certainly can be seen as a shower. I certainly have not asked for gifts, nor do I expect any, however, from the feedback I have received from our family and friends, it looks like there will be quite a few gifts... mostly for our new son (which he will be very jazzed about).
So no, I don't think it's silly at all. You are celebrating your children becoming a part of your family.
If you are the host then I would suggest, like other posters said, a BBQ with close family and friends, so the children don't become overwhelmed.
Have fun... and congrats on your new children!!!! |
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twilightaj
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my friend had a big party when his adoption went through for his daughter, on the invites he wrote bring gift don't bring gift i just want you there to celebrate this time. |
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Indian-vision
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Congrats. You will have a house full wow !! If some one else throws a shower you can do a baby registry. We were fortunate to have very good friends who threw us a shower at her house.
But if you do it yourself then plz do not specify gifts as its not good etiqute.
Hope you have a blast with your new family anyways. |
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2boyslostmind
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register for gifts at walmart or target....
you don't haveto specifically state for guests to bring gifts BUT
BUT
as with "baby showers" in the invitation put where you registered...
Like
Adoption Shower
please welcome my 4 lovely additions to the family
on ___date___time___
there will be some food and drinks provided
please come and join our family's celebration
Registered at Target
Usually to a "shower" people will bring gifts or will ask you ahead of time what you need......
if you have to, drop hints... you are getting 4 kids at once... you deserve a little leeway.... |
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Jackie D
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I'm guessing that these are your first children. Be happy and let people be happy for you and your new family. Gifts are appropriate and should be expected because you as a friend would bring gifts to a baby shower.. As for what to serve go casual and enjoy your time the least fuss is the best. Congrats on your new family!! |
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Serenity71
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What a wonderful way to celebrate a happy occasion.
Let people decide for themselves if they wish to bring a gift, that way there's no misunderstandings. You could buy each child something special. or have a family portrait done (photo) together.
Why don't you do a party table just for the kids, Decorate it with a theme. Fairy bread and party pies with a cup cake stand in the middle for the girls. (If any of your children are girls.)
Maybe a celebration cake would be something you could do.
All the best for you and your family. I hope you have a wonderful day celebrating. |
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reponise
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Congratulations and my heartiest thanks to you for your courage and strength, also the excellent job you have done. Four unfortunates finally have a "SWEET HOME" and ;"SWEET PARENTS."
Yes, celebrate adoption shower, quadruplets adoption day, multi-birthday, anything you like. Let the whole world know through your blog and space. I believe many would share the excitements with you out there.
Enjoy and good luck on your motherhood. |
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sizesmith
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A party/celebration is fine. We had one for our son's official celebration, although he was definately too young to know the situation. Talk with the kids to make sure they're fine with it.
I would add on the invitation, "In lieu of any gifts, please donate a gift to the foster care program, so the children less fortunate can enjoy them." We did this with our son's party, and even with just a few friends, Christmas gifts were bought for 3 kids (nice gifts). We took pictures so he'd know later on, and hopefully, it might make some people more aware of what goes on with other kids who need help. |
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Amy J
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I think it's a great idea but with no gifts. I think a celebration is a good idea. If someone was to get you a gift it should be a family picture frame or photo album no toys or clothes or anything and I think when people hear the word shower they assume gifts. So change it to an adoption celebration or something like that. Overall you have great intentions and don't let other people tell you any different. You have done a great thing by giving these children life! |
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I am just being me!!
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i think its a great idea!! i do agree not to celebrate it every year. just have a big party now for welcoming them into the family. whats the diff if you had the kids and got a baby shower or adopting them and get a shower. no difference. it should all be a celebration. if people call and ask you if you want a gift just tell them if they want to they can if not its no big deal. you should be proud to say you are adopting 4 kids at once. good luck!! have a great huge party and enjoy the day with your family and your new kids!!! |
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anastasia beaverhausen-the real1
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please don't make this a yearly "gotcha day" thing.
have a bbq and call it a day. |
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PhilM
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It's silly. And offensive. I'm thankful my parents loved me enough NOT to do this. |
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magic pointe shoes
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You *never* host your own shower for gift grabbing.
Edit to add:
A shower is a party for requesting gifts. If you throw a party, or a celebration where no gifts are required than there are no worries. But to ask if gifts should be requested or to call it a shower, than it needs to be thrown by someone else. There are no issues to be had, it is common etiquette. |
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