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Ayawi
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I did make the choice 2 years ago. I chose adoption. I did think about both options seriously, but I couldn't do an abortion. It felt wrong, and I knew I would regret it. I know other people who have had them, and they both say that they still wonder what could have been.
Adoption was hard too, but I know that he is okay. I chose the family, and we send each other emails every now and then. I just kept reminding myself during pregnancy that this child was meant for them, that this was right. It was. I get pictures now and again... I feel a little sad, but at the same time, I am so happy to see how happy he is. Adoption was just the right thing. I don't regret it at all. |
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tish
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try the "search for answers" function. this question has been asked, debated, debated and asked again about 156 gazillion times in the past month.
---ok. my answer (again)
"unintented pregnancy is too nuanced and complicated to make a blanket decision."
ETA: KR..."compulsary mothers???" --lol!!!i can't breathe. please stop.. |
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Jodi
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When I was younger I had an abortion - it was absolutely the best things for all involved at the time (I was too young, too screwed up and had been partying alot when I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. There were alot of risks that I wouldn't have a healthy child). I never regretted it - it had been the thing that straightened me out and turned my life around. That all changed earlier this year when I miscarried a baby that we wanted very much. Feeling the loss of this child made me regret my decision more and has caused me more pain than I realized was possible. It took close to 7 years for me to realize it, but my abortion was a mistake. |
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opedial
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DUmb question because there is ALWAYS the third choice of keeping your child. |
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PhilM
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This is a false dichotomy. There are always other choices.
(And there are negative effects for adoption, too.) |
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The individual must do what is best for them in the long run. |
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xo_crystal_xo
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I think its hard to decide right now what I would do becase im not in that situation.
Personally i think that it would be way to hard for me to be pregnant for 9 months, give birth and give the my child up to people I dont even know. I would wonder if they are doing a good job or if I could have done better.
I personally think that abortion isnt murder. Its a personal choice and if a women chooses that choice it should not be held against them! |
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Heather B
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The two are not related. They are entirely different choices.
Abortion = a decision not to continue with a pregnancy
Adoption = a decision not to continue with parenting |
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happywjc
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Adoption=, many good couples are just dying ofr the possibilty, of raising a family! My niece is raising 3 adopted kids rite now, and they are great parents, and (we) the rest of the family love them also, they are an important part of our family!
Abortion=, MURDER, of the innocent! Someday, AMERICA, will pay for this abomination against humanity, and GOD! |
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Renee King
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I am pro-life so my answer is adoption. But I also have another reason, the father of the child. I understand that abortion is the woman's choice, right to her body and so forth, but the DNA in that baby is not just hers to abort, it also belongs to the father of the child. I believe he should have a right to keep the child and a choice. What if the father was willing and able to keep the child, why should the woman say No, that takes away his DNA, his Choice. |
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Hayley
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definately adoption.. because even if i couldnt give the child the good life that it deserved then someone else could. and someone who really wanted a child would get one. I wouldnt do abortion because the child doesnt even get a shot at life. |
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LaurieDB
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This question doesn't make complete sense, as the opposite of relinquishment (giving up for adoption) is parenting, not abortion. Abortion is something that is chosen prior to birth. Either adoption or parenting is ultimately chosen after birth, since planning (prior to birth) to relinquish doesn't mean that relinquishment will be chosen over parenting. |
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anastasia beaverhausen-the real1
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abortion. i would never put my child through the pain of adoption. |
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JustMeTiff
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Adoption... no matter what anyone says you never truly deal and move on after abortion. Adoption is giving a gift worth more than anything in the world. So many women in this world, even on this site, that are so deserving, would do anything to adopt a baby! |
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Adoptionissadnsick
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Abortion, because Adoption aborts an infants mother. |
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Mommy of my one
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first off i want to say this is my opion and you are going to get slammed big time for asking this question by other readers so GOOD LUCK...it's brave to ask such a controversal topic...personally i believe abortion is wrong...would never cross my mind...because it was my fault i am pregnant (unless "i" was raped)...second its a living being that grows up to call some body mommy or dadda or the such...the con's of abortion is guilt, regret, and sometimes pain...
Adoption is also hard...you bond with this child for nine months, so it can be hard to let go...you may never see this baby again...or you might...pros are some one else may find this child a blessing and may be the answers to their prayers...and they may provide something better than you can...Good luck...prayers for you... stay strong...let me know how it goes... |
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Michelle A
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idk what im gonna choose but im glad u asked this cuz now i can see what other people think and maybe that will make it better to decide for me cuz i am pregnant and i took a test and it is scary so ty |
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Brianna
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Depends on the situation.
I've done both and the abortion, I don't really think about, not because I'm in denial, but just because it wasn't that big of a deal.
The adoption I haven't thought much about until recently, now that I am raising my own child. My daughter is 2 and my adopted-out son is 10, so he should be entering that age soon where he begins asking questions.
I have never regretted my decision to place him in a loving home while I got my act together.
If I had it all to do over again, I would do the same things (both the abortion and the adoption). They are what worked in my life at those times in my life. |
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Moonlight ttcà®*~.•*¨`*•.•´*.¸.•
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Abortion because The System is cruel |
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Possum
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NOTHING to do with each other.
All those answering how wonderful adoption is - haven't been given away by their parents.
Adoption has hurt me - an adoptee - 365 days per year.
And I've had 39 years of it.
How about take responsibility - and parent.
Otherwise - get an abortion.
Don't make a full term child suffer - because it's all too hard for you to parent.
No one EVER thinks about the effects of ripping apart mother and child.
Mothers can pretend that it doesn't matter.
The children just can't work out what they ever did wrong. |
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Sandra G
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Adoption! Always. Look at this site and maybe it will explain why. <>http://www.silentscream.com> It is terrible what they do to kills these little babies. It tears up the mother, and it is creul to a living being. It would be like taking a pupply and riping them limb from limb. It's just sick. I have done two full reports on this and I have to say that with all those out there that can not have children, why would you want to kill your own not matter how they were concieved. It's not the child's fault and do not punish them for it. |
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Baba
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First of all, there are thousands of children not taken care of in for example South-America and Africa. When each of all these kids have parents taking care of them, maybe then we can start talking about not having abortions. Until then I would absolutely say yes to abortion, anyday! |
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smiles
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Definetly adoption I never could bear to kill an innocent baby.
Also I've seen the pain a couple goes through when they find out there is no possibly way they can get pregnant, and later the great joy when they were finally able to adopt a child who needed a much more stable home. 100% adoption! |
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✿♥Preggo with #1♥✿
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Adoption because Abortion is murder... |
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Anonymous
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I guess adoption, especially if you have second thoughts; abortions can scar physically and emotionally. |
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Aimee
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Adoption. The choice is life. To me there is no choice i could never get an abortion.
Adoption before Abortion!!!!! |
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Sasha
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Abortion. I don't have any qualms about it, because I don't believe it is 'murder', and chances are that if I was pregnant and not going/able to keep it, I wouldn't want to go through an entire 9 month long pregnancy just to give my child up to strangers.
I also think adoption would be too hard for me to do, personally. Because once that fetus is a baby, I would definitely be attached and unable to give it up.
I've always been strongly pro-choice, and this would be my personal decision. |
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ilovehim
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POSSOM who said "Adoption has hurt me - an adoptee - 365 days per year."
well the babies who have died dont get the chance to think if adoption would be painfull or not BECAUSE THEY ARE DEAD your saying you would rather be another abortion?! WTH?
abortion admit it or deny it is murder just because you decide not to believe its not murder doesnt make it not it just shows your ignorant and selfish |
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Regina L
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Tough Choice as an adoptive Mom I am very glad my children's Birth Mom's choose to have them. I think at this point in my life if I couldn't parent the child I would be strong enough to go the pregnancy and lovingly choose adoption. But when I was young I probably would have choosen Abortion. I can't do the time or decide what is best for any other women. We all have to weigh our own options and make our own decision... In the end with adoption atleast you are giving the baby a fighting chance at a happy life. |
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