Acceptable reasons for adoption? (UK)?

Away With The Fairies

If you want to adopt babies you don't stand a chance. There are simply not enough to go round, especially if you're capable of having your own. If you're willing to adopt older children, then (as the first answer states) there are thousands of children in care who would love a good home. Have you considered fostering?

Jessica Rabbi

1 very acceptable reason is there are loads and loads of kids who would give anything to be in a loving home rather than an unhappy care home

Heather J

My daughter's friend and her sister are adopted. They are age 9 and 5 and were adopted as babies (they are not biological siblings).

I have spoken to their mother about the adoption process and she told me it is nearly impossible to adopt a baby in the UK.

They had to go through training, interviews and explain before a panel (made up of a judge, social worker, their own social worker and another parent who had themselves adopted) their reasons for wanting adopt. The fact they could not have children themselves was not enough.

Eventually, after 2 years, they were passed as 'acceptable' but it was another 3 years before they got their older daughter. She was 17 weeks old at the time.

Four years passed and they were 'shortlisted' for their younger child. My understanding is they take into account your education, background, culture and even how you look and try to match you with a baby who has come from a similar background)

They got 'H' because she was blue-eyed and their first adopted child had blue eyes. The other family lost out because one of them had brown eyes.

I can't tell you any more than that - this is just what my friend told me about the process. I'm guessing if you are happy to adopt an older child then you are more likely to be accepted.

lou needs help

my aunt has 3 of her own children aged 17 10 and 3, she also adopted 2 children aged 5 and 7 and she is capable of having her won children

i think adoption is a good thing, but having a child of my own i know the whole pregancy and actually giving birth mean alot to me and i wouldnt wantto miss out on that.

good luck for the future x

KatesMum

I think being single and capable makes your chances of adoption lower. I don't know why because there are hundreds of children wanting a Mummy or a Daddy, they dont need both! You can be just as good of a parent by yourself!

Fostering on the other hand can be done by almost anyone. I understand it would be hard to give a child up when they have to go bak but it might help you in your mission to adopt.

trust me it means you will be put at the bottom of the list,for several reasons,you can have biological children, you are not married ,and you probably won't be able to take the 6 months off they make you take when you adopt.
i trued to inform myself, i always wanted to adopt,myself,i have a 7 year old boy and no intentions of getting married again.I'm not rich,but have a house and a full time job (i also just finishing my degree in law),i toughed because the process takes a lot of time it would make sense to start now.
i was devastated with what they told me,it was basically that i did not meet their good parent parameters and although this did not meant i would not be accepted, it meant i would be in th awaiting list indefinitely.
i also know someone from work who is 40,not married,no children and she was on the waiting list for 6 years and now is in the process s of adopting a 6 year old girl (not final,they can change their minds if they find a more suitable parent apparently),she was also said she would need stay at home for at least 6 months but preferable 1 year.

after all this i'm now looking to adopt a child from abroad as i have double nationality,it makes it easier.
i know the most important process of adopting is the child, not the parent,but keeping this children in foster care for so long just because the tradicional famili doesn't come along is unfair to teh child and the prospective parents.

an add on: i did not demand a baby, my only recuest was that the child was up to my own son's age (now 7).

Philippa

Based on what you've written there is no reason why you shouldn't adopt and if I was you I would want to adopt a child (children) who is (are) in foster care.

tipporia

In short no.

Personally, i think adopting is always better. Like the person above me said, you give a child a loving home apposed to an unhappy one; without any pain to yourself. The world is already overpopulated.

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