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Laurel J
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She stayed home...and it drove her half crazy. But that's what women in small Southern towns were supposed to do in the 60s and 70s. She went back to work when we were teenagers.
OTOH, I'm pretty sure my first mom didn't go back to work until early this century after her divorce.
I'm glad my a'mom was home when I was young, but I'm glad she went back to work too, so I had a role model with her own career. |
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opedial
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I know this was to adoptees...but....
We decided my husband would stay home full time with the children and I would go to work. I feel I am missing out...but it makes the most sense for our family.
Our children don't need another caregiver, they need us, so until further notice, there will always be a parent at home. |
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Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot
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We're set up so I work days and my husband works nights so we can be home with our adopted son and not have to put him in daycare. So, yes I work. No he's not in daycare. |
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Anha S
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my amom worked from home, she taught piano lessons that would go from before dinner, to pretty much bedtime. The family also ran a dairy farm. |
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cruzgirlz3
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My amom stayed home while we were young and we had a "Leave it to Beaver" lifestyle until I was about 10.
Then my adad sort of lost it. He went through, uh, let's say a long period of "instability". My mom went back to work as a dental receptionist and kept our family afloat throughout my dad's coming and going. They eventually divorced and she continued to work and hold our family together. She had garage sales to help pay for my college. She is a remarkable woman. |
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Randy B
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My mom was a stay at home mom from the day they brought me home. Now, she did have a small hair dressing biz she ran out of the home but she only had select clients, 2-3 a week perhaps, once I came home.
For both of our adoptions my wife has been a stay at home mom and in fact for the last one I have been at home too. I don't go back to work till the end of Apr this year...unless we get another call for a child. Then I'll start the parental leave thing all over again. |
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Flying Monkey #073177
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You betcha! Gave up her career and everything. Mind you we were not financially stable but whatevs right? |
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Torrejon
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Yes...until I was 12 years old (and I was the youngest)! AND, when I was about 18 years old, a friend of mom's adopted a baby...and immediately looked into child care options. Mom very gently, politely asked her why she was adopting a baby to dump it in day care. Then they sat for a long time talking about options. They finally decided that the friend could teach part-time at a local college. Go Mom!
AND, I was horrified to learn that bparents dumped my 11 years younger bsibling into day care asap...so bmom could work. |
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Indian-vision
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I am a SAHM to my toddler. When people ask me when will i resume work i tell them maybe once she's too old to need me. |
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yeahright
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I know this was too adoptees but wanted to answer. I stayed home for the first year and a half and then my my husband stayed home for a year and a half. Then we did the flex schedule thing. He stays home on Mondays and I stay home on Fridays. The city has very cool activities that we have the kids signed up for part time in the summer (sailing, football camp, swimming club, etc).
During the school year I work from home 1/2 time the other three days of the week so I can be home when they are home from school.
When we adopt again if we adopt a sibling group, we will have to bring someone in probably 15 hours a week--we wouldn't "have to" but I would really like to have some leeway built in for the wiggle room.
Some weeks are far more hectic than others. Timing is big but we are lucky to have some flexible employers. |
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Rowan
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my mom stayed at home to raise all us kids. At one point though, it was no longer a choice, she lost her sight when i was 7 years old, and despite all that, she stayed strong and consistent in her love for us, even when the whole world seemed like it was crashing. I was her little helper! |
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SJM
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No. My amom kept working. She was also an active member of 3 charitable organizations, so she stayed pretty busy. Her husband and her father were both very much against it, but she kept working after she adopted us. My grandma, who was 72-years-old when I was born, took care of us. |
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BOTZ
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My a-mother stayed home until I was about 10 -- and I wish she DIDN'T. She was abusive and unloving. Who wants to spend all day with THAT?
By the way, when she did go back to work (because we were about to lose our house) my little, also-adopted sister was TWO. So, where's her "better life" I ask you? Poverty and substitute care by age TWO??? I'll tell you what, though. She never got abused from age 2 to age 10 (when I moved out) and then it stopped FOREVER at age 14 when I took her in. And guess what? Our a-parents could have raised a royal FUSS over that -- I mean, I took a minor child that was 'theirs' into my home without permission. But, guess what? They didn't. I guess they really DIDN'T want to be parents after all.
BUT, she didn't go to day care at age two. *I* raised her from then on. Hehehe, maybe that's why I'm 36 with no kids -- I became a mother at just under 11 years old...I guess I'm "done" now and enjoying being "grandma". LOL This sister has two kids. :-) |
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kateiskate
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Yeah my mom stayed at home to raise myself and my sister. When I was a baby, before they adopted my sister, I know she had a job. Then when my sis came she took care of both of us instead. When they sent us to private school from the time I was I think 11 to 13 she had a part time job to pay for our tuition |
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Mimi
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I wasn't allowed to be adopted but my foster mum I had from age 9 stayed home and did school stuff with me for the rest of my childhood. She rocks and I wish she could've been my legal mum. |
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C Wood
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My AM worked as an accountant.
And she raised me.
Any mom can work and raise children as well. One does not preclude the other.
cw |
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Linny G
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Nope. My a parents struggled to pay their bills their entire lives. We had various sitters, as day care was really not around in the late 60s/early 70's.
I was the appointed baby sitter for my a brother & sister once I turned 10. I had to cook entire meals and make sure my brother and sister didnt get hurt. No one did, but I did catch a pot holder on fire when I was 12, lol.
It blew my mind when I found out my n Mom had a MBA, yet still stayed home with her raised children. My brothers said she was "against mothers who worked."
Ironic, huh? |
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gypsywinter
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I know this question was directed to adoptees, but as a first mother I can share my now reunited daughter's experience.
Her adoptive mother did work from the time she was very small and all thru the ensuing years. I was quite upset to learn my child was a 'latch-key' kid at the age of 8 yrs old and semi-cooking for herself and her adopted younger sis (bio-dau of aparents). |
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gibberish
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Oh yes of course it is the only way. I am doing the same with my own precious child except for a piano lesson here and there and teaching the church choir. |
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bananarama
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she worked for a while but then quit her job when i was like 9 |
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DevonChaos
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Mine stayed home. Carted me to numerous dance, baton, and music classes. Was my Girl Scout troop leader. Volunteered at all my schools. Sounds nice in theory, but it was only because she had very little trust of me and other adults around me. She waited almost 20 years for a baby, and she was damn sure this one was going to be perfect in every way. Alas, I ended up being less than perfect, and she kicked me out soon after I was deemed a "lost cause". |
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