Adopting 13 year old American girl? I am from America too, by the way.?

Phat Penguin.

I am going to answer this in a 13 year old girls perspective. I am 15 now and can remember clearly being 13.
She'll know her favourite shops, ask her about them so that you can make conversation, get to know her more and go shopping of course.
You know what, I would love to spend a mother, daughter day together, why not take her shopping for her favourite paints and accesories etc. Therefore you can do up her room together, I think she would love it, it would make her feel more at home and you can enjoy quality time together.
A bedsheet would probably be a purple or lilac colour, you also can't go wrong with light blue. As when I was 13 I was just coming out of my girlie stage with all the pink and that. So purple is a girlie colour yet sophisticated.
It would also make her feel more confortable going shopping with you as it's a women's activity and by the simple things she buys, you can learn so much about her. So, that's such a great idea.
You've probably already taken alot of ideas on what raising this girl could be like on board. Just remember a 5 year old is completely different to a 13 year old. And you have to remember the different maturity levels at which they are. Also that this girl might be a bit troubled, by that I mean she hasn't grown into a proper family environment so she will need extra attention and comfort from you. I highly recommend more of a best friend approach to her than a motherly one. Which is what you're already doing by taking he shopping etc. It will make her feel much more comfortable cos it will be like meeting a new friend, and a quick mother approach could make her feel awkward. Well done! You're doing a magnificant thing to this girl's life. I'm sure you'll manage, good luck! XXX

EDIT: This is an edit for your beauty products, I would recommend a make-up kit involving eyeliner pencil, eyeshadow, mascara, etc. If she needs extra things which probably won't feature in packs, like foundation then she could tell you and you could go out or her and buy it. It's really no deal. Pads; it's always good to have some pads in the house just incase, she also might be using tampons, although it's quite unlikely that she is as I don't really know anyone who did at 13. Then again, like me she could only like a specific brand of sanitary towels. Is there any way you could get through to her and ask her? Because sanitary towels are quite necesary.

Mr.Sohi

i think you shud wait till she gets there, then take her with you when you go shopping for her things, it'll give you a chance to bond and she'll get exactlly what she wants.

where is everybody?

i did foster parenting for 17 years and adopted my son. you are getting way ahead of yourself. you're going to find that there is what's called a honeymoon period that WILL happen. everything will be awesome at first. then the trial and error WILL happen. start off slow. don't even do anything until she comes. let her help you with how the room should be done. take her shopping for some clothes. at this rate you won't be as easily setting yourself up for a letdown, major.

cantstopLinnyG

You're jumping the gun and getting way ahead of yourself. She's 13. Let her go with you to pick things out. She's not a baby. As far as personal care items go, again, she's not a baby. Let her go to the store with you to buy them, or buy tampons and pads and have both there at your house.

Its nice that you're adopting through foster care.

Mom to Foster Children

How on earth do you think we know where to buy her clothes / what she likes. Wait till she gets there and do a little shopping at a time.

Rachele S

well you might want to wait till she gets there to buy clothing .. it could be a good wa for you to bond and pick out clothing. Keep her room colors simple and cute. Nothing too girly because she may not like that. Buy hairspray and anything you would buy for yourself. To manage her all depends on her past

Millie.xoxo

take her shopping with you, you get to bond, and know more about her but for makeup i would give her lip-gloss, eyeliner and mascara also i would buy her makeup pads and deodorant.. but if you want to give her more makeup (foundation < that's okay) show her how to apply it correctly :)
also clothes i would get her knee high socks, going out shorts :) , nice t-shirts, hoodies, sneakers or Dollie's, skinny jeans...
for her room i would give her, her favorites colour bedroom with a bed, closet, lamp, bookshelf, maybe a desk for homework and a seat... just the normal stuff :)
and only pads and stuff if she has started..
managing her will be easy :)

snowwillow20

Let her pick out her own beauty products, it will be a fun shopping experience for both of you.

allchildrenareangels

Wait till she gets there and she can help you decide what she wants her room to look like. It will probably make it feel more like her own if she helps. Just get her some soap shampoo and conditioner and some lotion. Other then that take her with you and let her pick what she wants.

Love,
Michelle

Nadia

I'm a 13 year old teenager, so I'm trying to think what I'd need..

Pads, tampons, lip gloss (bathandbodyworks.com) deodorant, wait on makeup take her on a mother- daughter make up trip (Sephora) Don't design her room let her do it, and choose the colors herself, because everyone has different tastes. If you paint light blue is good because everyone likes it. Some stores she might like for clothes-
ae.com
abercrombie.com
hollisterco.com
pacsun.com
oldnavy.com
gap.com
wetseal.com
A TV show you could buy a season of- Project Runway

PS I think it's great that you are adopting someone older, usually they dont get adopted with so much love and enthusiasm

Happy to be her mommy

ok, well you're a girl right? you should know the basics. Why not ask HER what she likes? beauty products and stuff like that is pretty personal and she would probably want to shop for those things herself... she is, after all, a teenager.

pearl_hoff

take her shopping at the mall and as for the room pink and lavander with lots of barbies maybe on a nice shelf and a canopy bed would be beautiful

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