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No, look at Angelina, she has seen through colour and its a shame so many people criticise her when she has took these children away from an orphanage. She keeps them enriched in their own cultures and even has adopted 2 asian boys because she thought it was unfair her son Maddox had noone asian to look at when her daughter Shiloh had her and Brad, also she is currently adopting another Black child. |
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Jennifer L
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Well, does it matter to whom?
In the sense of the love of the adoptive parents, no. But transracial adoption has a lot of challenges that go part and parcel with it. How do you promote a positive feeling of race and culture, neither of which you share with your child? How do you teach about confronting racism when you've never personally been a victim of it?
But does it matter to the child? Absolutely. Race and culture are an important part of a person's identity. How would it feel not looking like anyone else in your family, always 'sticking out".
And it also matters to society at large. Our society most definitely is NOT colorblind.
Transracial adoption is complicated and full of unique challenges. The attitude that "race does not matter" is like pretending race doesn't exist. That does not do a child any favors. Adoptive parents need to acknowledge that there are issues in the first place. |
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Brittani W
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Not at all. They just want someone to support them and to give them a home. If you think about it they would rather be with parents of a differant race than to be stuck in foster care or put out on the streets when they are 18 |
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bounce bounce
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Love doesn't come in colours, |
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Lindsay
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No definenty not. Who cares what ppl think if u love them then adopt them. |
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icehockeymom7
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It depends on what you mean by "does it matter." Is it an issue? Yes. Should it be outlawed? Absolutely not. But I also don't agree with AP's who adopt transracially and do not even address the fact that this child is of a different race. My sister was adopted from Korea in the 70's and the general feeling at that time was to just "treat this child as if she weren't adopted and was totally American" which basically translated into pretending she wasn't Korean. Fortunately that is not the advice given to AP's adopting internationally today. You cannot hide someone's race. Our daughter is Chinese and we are Caucasian. Right now she is a very small child, and she will proudly look at her Chinese books and say "She Chinese like me!" and feels very proud of being Chinese. I realize that there comes a time in every child's life where anything that makes her "different" is not fun and can be a source of teasing from other kids. I know our daughter will face this. She does have several close friends who are also adopted from China and are very much a part of her life, and I do hope this will be a good support to her when that time comes. I am not naive enough to think we are doing everything right with our daughter, but I will say that we are certainly not "pretending" she isn't Chinese or acting like it isn't an issue. Sometimes AP's just forget....we forget because we love this child so blindly that the race part disappears in our minds. But we have to remember that for the child, this is a constant battle. Every day of her life she is a Chinese girl living in a family of white people. But I also believe strongly that the alternative for our daughter (a life lived in an orphanage in rural China) is not a better alternative. So yes, it matters that she is a different race from us, but it doesn't mean that we should never have adopted her. |
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Randy B
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It hasn't mattered in my family. My oldest is east Indian and my youngest is First Nations. All it's done is expose the entire family to both of those cultures and traditions and exposed them to ours (and now theirs) so everyone has won. |
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IDK!!
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Of course it MATTERS.. Is it a deal breaker? I don't think so. Two people of the same race can be polar opposites and not respect a child's original heritage.
Same race does not equal same heritage, culture, values or traditions.
I am Hispanic, my husband is caucasian our daughter is the mix of us and our son is caucasian. We are able to mix our cultures well. |
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Crucio
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As a bi-racial adoptee it never bothered me that my family is white. In fact I am not the same race as my biological parents so either way (adoption or staying with natural parents) I would have been raised by someone who was not the same race as me.
Love has no color. However someone who adopts a child that is not the same race as them will have to prepare the child for the fact that many people care about race in this world, they shouldn’t but many do. A white couple that adopts a minority child will have to try and prepare that child for racism that they could and will probably face sometime in their life simple due to the color of their skin. Every race does receive racism some certainly more then others. Best parents imo for those who want to adopt outside their own race are those who embrace diversity. This topic goes beyond adopting interracial, people who have mixed raced children also have to face this topic as well.
The truth is there is only one race and that is the human race. Race by color has simple be made up to divide people.
If people just look at the past you will see that race based on color is always changing. Take this for example in North Africa it’s considered that anyone from there is “white/Caucasian” regardless of how dark their skin is. At a time Celtics, Greeks, Italians , Salvics and others were not considered to be white and even today depending on whom you ask you will get a different answer.
Lets look at someone who is mulatto here in the states many use one drop “rule” against mulattos and other people who happen to have African ancestry and they are seen as “black” this is completely racist and there is no way around that. Yet in Brazil they would laugh at you if one called a mixed race person with African roots “black” there they would be “pardo” Go somewhere else someone who has a narrow noise and “good” hair they would be consider “white” regardless of how dark the person skin was. Go to South Africa and one would be colored.
Since the definition of ones “race” in regards to their skin color is always changing and how a person can be a different race depending on where they are that just shows that it is simple a made up concept. In reality there are 6 different skin tones.
A.Very Light
B.Light
C.Light intermediate or Dark skinned
D.Dark Intermediate “Mediterraneant/Olive”
E.Dark or Brown
F.Very Dark or Black |
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Scott
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No, not if you want a child and will love him or her. |
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Laurel J
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Does it matter? Yes, it makes life harder for the adoptee. People should be in families of their own race whenever possible.
I don't mean to say transracial adoptions should never happen, but of course it makes a difference to grow up in a culture not your own. How could it not? |
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gablueeyes1978
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It would not matter to us(me and my husband) a child is a gift from god no matter what color and should have a family who loves the child no matter if it is 1st mom and dad or not |
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no not at all because i see black kids with white parents all the time. (not trying to be races) but i do. it's fine |
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Mike
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If you want to hide the fact that a child is adopted for as long as possible, then it may be a problem, otherwise, I imagine the child would be able to better understand race equality with parents from a different heritage. |
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kateiskate
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Absolutely.
And none of the people who have answered that it doesn't matter or that it hasn't mattered are actually transracial adoptees. Which I happen to be.
My family acted like race didn't matter and pretended that we were all the same and that love could conquer all. While I believe that you should not judge people on the basis of their race and am engaged to a man who is a different race from me, I think saying race doesn't matter is naive.
It's hard enough to adjust as an adoptee without having to add a difference in race and normal appearance issues. To deny the fact that a difference in race exists, denies a part of the TRA that is essential to who she is.
It's really easy to say race doesnt matter if you are not the one who is singled out and forced to deal with the aftermath and the racism. |
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Melissa Swan
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Not to me....but some adoptees people mind......others dont..........
I was adopted by an Indian mother and English father in England.........it gave me the benefits of a new culture.........by blood I was half scottish.........so I grew up wearing both kilts and saris. |
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♥Kayla♥
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Nope. I wish people would understand race should not matter... |
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Gaia Raain III
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For the adoptee, or the parents, or others? For the adoptee, I'd say that's a very individual thing. But no person can escape their own heritage, whether they grow up with their own people or not. An adoptee from China adopted into an American family will always be Chinese, even though s/he is also American. But whether or not the adoptee's race matters to the adoptee, depends on the adoptee. I would say it's safe to assume that, at some point in his/her life, it will become important, even if it's not a focus every day of their lives. As Mei Ling pointed out, it's the adoptee who will be dealing with the racial slurs. Some will ignore negativity, while others will stand up for themselves. Some will be very introspective about their race, others will put racial issues on the back burner. It's not up to us to tell another person how to deal with their own feelings about their own lives...so your question is impossible to answer.
As a whole, though, I'd say that yes, it does matter, for the simple reason that at some point in each transracial adoptees life, their race will most likely matter to them...and for many, it matters A LOT. That should be expected, and respected. |
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Serenity71
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No, what matters is the reasons behind why you're adopting a child from a different. |
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sam22254
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Yes and no. I have heard a lot of views on this matter. If a child from a different race is adopted by another race he or she takes on that way of life. Give me thumbs down folks but really. Even our president that is black was raised by mostly his white grandparents and white mother who do he act like. He doesn't talk or act like his own race. If children are adopted they should still be able to be around their own kind |
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