Adoption: Should adoption be allowed by women who have given a child away for adoption?

'Insert name here'

It depends, the woman may have given a child away for adoption at a young age, and later in life decided to adopt another child, but if it is a woman who has problems maybe not, a child needs a healthy upbringing.

brnidgrl

Yes. I have placed two children up for adoption when I was young and irresponsible. At that time it was the best decision I couldve ever made.I do not in any way regret that decision. The only thing I do regret is I had my tubes tied . Now that I am older, responsible, and happily married to the man of my dreams, I am unable to have children w/ him . We have talked about adoption for a few years now.

And I have always felt that placing a child for adoption is no different that being a surrogant . You're providing somebody with a child that otherwise would not be able to have one.

life is like the ocean

So, just because you are young and have an unplanned pregnancy and don't have money, you should be UNFIT to parent forever?

I think the people that think that young pregnant women should be providing them babies, just because they "can't have them" like the moron that posted that above, should be the ones never allowed to adopt.

Sophie

Good question. Some in here have said that if a person files bankruptcy in the past they surely could not be responsible enough to adopt a child. So, by their reasoning... in the opposite, if a person abandons a child then they may not be able to handle raising a child at any time.

Personally, I think it should be allowed only on a case-by-case basis.

itsmissbroadway2u

Yes, because if they had a child as a teenager and gave that child up for adoption because she was not ready to be a parent but now is in a good position. She could also become financially capable of raising a child or physically able to be a parent.

Birthers are NOT mothers

No way in hell. How can that make their child feel that they gave up? Oh honey, I couldn't keep you so I gave you away, but I am gladly taking in little Johnny and I will raise him now. That is abuse to the adoptee. If you can't raise your own, you have no business raising anyone else's!

Melissa Swan

my birth mother had me adopted because it was the only way id be safe from her husband who was an extremely violent pervert with an incest fetish.
she didnt want to give me up and it broke her heart but it was the only way.
a couple of years later she adopted 4 much older children (12 - 13). im thrilled she did, it helped her cope with losing me. the thing was, he would have abused/stalked me because i was related to him and its possible if shed had biological children he would have stalked them because he was obssessed with her, and they would have looked like her. where as there was no danger of him bothering adopted children who werent related to either of them biologically.

durdenslabs

If you have a child on your own after having given one up for adoption, that is one thing.

But to adopt a child after you've given one up for adoption? What does that say to the child...to the agency...to your family??? Nothing good, that's for sure. Other than that you feel guilty.

Serenity71

Yes, if they can pass the home study and prove they'lll make good adoptive parents I don't see why not.

(Surrogacy and adoption are very different area's of a persons life. A surrogate signs contracts before a baby is conceived for starters. They know what they're getting into, often its not a woman in crisis who suddenly discovers she pregnant and panics about it and has to make decisions about her babies future. )

Gaia Raain III

They should have the same exact process as any other prospective adoptive parent. I think first parents are punished enough, they don't need any additional crap heaped on them for what (for many) isn't even a choice they made.

tracey w

well some people have their kids adopted then go on to have more so why shouldn't they adopt if they can offer a child a stable home later in life. If the adopted child comes back at a later time looking for birth mother only to find that she has adopted, how will they feel, probably resentful.
difficult question to answer.
interesting debate this one!

casttostrangers

In my world no.
My Mom did not go on to adopt but when I found my Dad in July 08. He had gone on to adopt a newborn boy 4 years after my relinquishment. He seemed very proud of the fact.
To me it was like a kick in the gut.
You cant keep me but you can bring someone else in?
Just so wrong on many different levels and will forever effect how I view him and myself.

sam22254

No they should not be able to adopt. Why they had their chance to have a child let the ones that can't have children adopt the children.

Lindsay

It depends on what you did.

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