Adoption agincies that will pay rent?

Megan

This was about 20 years ago when I was adopted but my adoptive parents paid for everything for my birth mom, hospital bills, and even gave her "spending money" They had already gone through a previous adoption with her (my sister) and felt close to her. If you can build that kind of relationship with prospective adopted parents they MIGHT be able to help you, but remember if you decide to keep the baby after the prospective adopted parents paid for everything they can sue you over the money the paid and they will win so just keep that in mind.

grapesgum

So you are wanting to exchange your flesh and blood for free rent? Why didn't I think of that instead of taking on student loans?

Lucky kid - imagine starting life being put on the adoption market in exchange for free housing.

Gaia Raain II

There are other programs available for pregnant mothers that won't pressure you to give your baby to strangers. Call DHS (or whatever it's called in your area...social services, adult and family services, etc.) and ask what kind of programs they have available. You should be able to get a pell grant if you're in college, and there are plenty of scholarships available for single mothers. If you call an adoption agency, they'll pay your rent all right...and they'll also tell you what an "unselfish, loving" thing it is to give your baby to strangers (when they know that in truth, your baby AND you will be traumatized for life), and will try to convince you that you're selfish if you keep and raise your baby (which is ridiculous, it's NATURAL to raise your own baby). Please do not contact an adoption agency. They do not provide the kind of help you need. They HELP adoptive parents to get babies...they're not interested in you. Well...they'll be incredibly interested in you UNTIL you give birth, and then they'll drop off the face of the Earth, and you'll be left childless and grieving.

ETA: I may have misunderstood your question. If you don't want to give your child up for adoption, then don't. It's that simple. Either keep your baby and figure it out, or don't. It might seem easier to give your baby away, but ask how mothers who have lost their children to adoption are dealing with it...it's not pretty most of the time. It's not natural to be separated from your child. So, while it may seem easier for the time being, is it really worth it to set you AND your child up for a lifetime of grief, just for a little schooling? Especially when you could keep your baby and STILL get the schooling you need? You could even get more help as a single mother than you would without keeping your child.

ETA: Megan is not correct. IF you decided to get your rent and bills paid through an adoption agency and then decided to keep your child, they would TRY to intimidate you into changing your mind by telling you that they'll fight you in court over their money. THEY WILL LOSE. The money they give you is not in exchange for your baby - that would be illegal. It's a "gift", and cannot be gotten back if you do not give up your baby.

Serenity71

"I really do not want to do adoption cuz i am the mother but i need to finish my schooling and be able to support my family before i start one."

You just answered your own question.

If your not looking to adopt your child (AT ALL, you just said you're question you have NO intentions of doing it,) then its extortion to take advantage of an agency and a couple falsely lead them into thinking that you're serious. This is serious for women who are in the situation of adopting out a child and for people who are looking to adopt a child. Its not a game or a service for you to play around with.

Find another way to pay your rent (Got a church group or social services to see if you can get some help with it) rather than using people and getting their hopes and dreams up only to crush them when you're done getting the money you need.

Penny P

Don't give your child up, if you "really don't want to do it". There are plenty of services out there available to a young single parent who wishes to parent her own baby. Seriously. But to answer your question, I think it may be different from state to state. I know in my state, the potential adoptive parents can give the birth mother up to $5,000 for anything....rent, clothes, bills, food, whatever. I think that is wrong. To me, it sounds like selling a baby. If you need money, go to social services and find out what kind of aide you can get to help you raise your kid. If you want to give your child to a family who can raise her, go to a non profit adoption agency and investigate your options for adoption. Adoption isn't wrong, but when money starts being exchanged for a child.....then I think one needs to consider the reasons for it, and whether or not it's even ethical.

Felicita1

So, you want to sell your baby for rent payments in exchange? This doesn't sound like a good deal.

There are many programs available to help student parents. Including scholarships specifically for single mothers, on-campus daycares, student baby-sitting co-ops, parent resource centers on campus.

Babies don't hold you back from getting an education, and in fact many women who otherwise would have done brilliantly in school flounder and drop out once they have surrendered a baby to adoption as they are left with unresolved grief and loss, depression, suicidal thoughts, etc because losing their babies was so painful. They would have done much better in school had they kept their babies and one psychiatrist who was an expert in such said exactly this in front of a government inquiry.

cantstopLinnyG

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mom of many

you need to decide if you want to keep your baby or put him/her up for adoption. every state has laws on how much an adoptive parent can legally give you. But I highly doubt it will cover rent and all that

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