Adoption cost?

Please help. My bestfriend is a young teen and wants to have her child. But both me and the father wants to put the child up for adoption because shes to young to have the child. But my question is that does it cost money to put a child up for adoption. And if so can you tell me around how much. And if you find a website could you please give that to me. That would be get. Please help me.
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Okay. I'm first talking about an open adoption. I can't live with myself if I told her to just throw her baby out and never see it again. I love my bestfriend and thats another reason I can't let her kill her life. Of course I'm going to be there for her if she wants to keep the baby. But she just turned 15 a few months ago. I don't believe that she can care for the baby. I'm more worried about the childs life. Because she can't take care of her own.

sunny

Yikes, with friends like you, who needs enemies?

Adoption is not a cure-all. Your pal will NEVER recover emotionally from giving her child away.

I've cited many articles here:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoOW8rrIDjqwkY_hjrm9l8Bq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20080713172643AA7jxMI

Do some reading! And be a decent friend.

ETA: There is no such thing as a guaranteed OPEN adoption. Most are slammed shut after the ink with the mother's signature is dry--no matter what the PAPs say. These 'agreements' are NOT legally enforcable. It's likely that your pal would not see her child again until they were an adult.

tickled blue

Why should you remotely have any say in what she does with her child? I think, as the first answerer stated, you should be supportive of your friend and stop telling her to adopt out her child. If she was old enough to make a baby, she is old enough to raise a baby. She would be far more likely to be a good mommy if she has supportive people in her life....i.e. Her boyfriend (father of the child) and her best friend (YOU). If the two of you and her parents and her boyfriend's parents could all pitch it to help her, she will do just fine as a mommy. If you understood any remote part of the physical, mental, and emotional scars this will leave on both your friend and her child, you would NEVER try to push her into adoption.
<<adoptive mommy through foster care.

EDIT: Sizesmith: I have had a wonderful 'adoption experience'. It is the child who will experience the loss and greif, not US as adoptive parents....I simply believe that soliciting for babies on the internet is disgusting...so that is the reason for my personal thumbs-down.

EDIT: Britini: You say, "Of course I'm going to be there for her if she wants to keep the baby." but you also said that she wants her child--in the first paragraph. Regardless, 'open adoptions' rarely work out well for the first mom. They are not enforced in any state...meaning I could promise to visit/let you visit, and then completely revoke that promise--without any reprocussions. There are no forced open adoptions. Some adoptive parents will commit to their word, but it is rare...and knowing whom to trust and who is untrustworthy is not something you will be able to tell....until it is too late.

Independ"ant"

No and I will suggest that you stay away from your friend until she decides on her own what she wants to do.
Be a real good friend and support her decisions instead of a "best friend" that wants to make them for her. If she does place her child up for adoption unwillingly, she will hate you for pressuring her instead of helping her. Many teens are better parents than older adults.

Edit: Her use of a police scanner to hunt down troubled young mothers is what I find disturbing.

Edit: To the OP...please don't try and convince your friend to give up her baby. Thats the worst thing you could possibly do. Your parents or church folk have given you the wrong information about adoption and your relaying it to your friend.

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