Adoption in Sydney, Australia.?

Possum

Hiya,
I'm an Aussie adoptee - born and breed in Sydney.
If you want to keep this child - in Australia - there are many many ways in which help can be found.
There is no rush.
You need to work out what is really right for you - before you jump into something that you may regret.
Those that are dying to have a child - will tell you adoption is great - all sunshine and roses - (they want a child - they will tell you whatever to make you give up your child to them) but please know that many many adoptees always long for their mothers - want to know who they are - want to know why they were given up.
You're obviously stressed as all hell - but things will be OK - keep faith in that.
Remember - things can often look worse than they really are when you're under a great deal of pressure - and you've got pregnancy hormones on top of all that - it's enough to make anyone pull out their hair.

Here are some links to some info about pregnancy help, options, and support in NSW.
If you need support - you can get it.
http://www.pregnancysupport.com.au/index.php?page=New-South-Wales
http://www.pregnancysupport.com.au/uploads/File/20071204_If%20you%20are%20pregnant%20Fact%20Sheet(1).pdf
http://www.pregnancysupport.com.au/uploads/File/20071204_Options%20Worksheet.pdf

And do read THIS before you decide anything - written by those that have given up children to adoption -
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf

AdoptedJane is right - Australia is very much about keeping mother and child together - if at all possible - because that's what is best for you - and for this baby. Emotionally and psychologically.
My adoptive father died just before my first birthday - and I was essentially brought up in a one parent family from that day forth.
Adoption doesn't guarantee ANYTHING.
It's actually just a long term solution - to an often short term problem.

My mother was forced to give me up - by her mother - and she's been an emotional wreck ever since (it's been almost 39 yrs now).
She went on to marry my father and have 3 more kids.
I've had to live to never be allowed to see or know any of them.
I've never grown amongst those that look, act and have talents just like me.
Children need to actually see others that look like them to form a better sense of self.
For me - looking in the mirror - has always upset me - as I've always felt out of place - never looking like another in my family.

You will survive telling your parents. Seriously. It's always the build-up that's worse than the actual telling.
Grab friends that can support you - you need all the support you can get.

Please feel free to email me through my profile for any help.
If you really - in your heart - want to keep this child - you can - he/she is yours to keep. He/she already knows you are his/her mummy.
All he/she really wants - is to stay with you.
Now - you need to fight and work out how that can be.
You can do this.
Take things one step at a time.
Don't forget to breathe!!
Sending you loads of hugz.

Adopted Jane

I just read your other Question

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okay well. im 21 weeks pregnant.. yet to tell my folks. the father said at 7 weeks to abort at that stage i agreed but i was told i wasnt mentally stable. since then ive been to three different clinics but every time ive been stuffed around by them or my emotions. now at 21 weeks weve opted for adoption but im not sure i can go through with it. im working two jobs to try and be prepared for if i change my mind.. but i dont know what i should do. If i keep the baby the father knows he wont be able to deal with us raising a child. he wants to look out for me and the bub. he doesnt want us to ruin its life and either do i. i dont know if loosing him is worth ruining my childs life. i know theres no way in hell i could do this without him.. but im just not sure UNQUOTE

Have you told your parents yet ?
Seriously losing a boyfriend is NOTHING Compared to losing your own Child

In our country Australia we have so much help and so many options and Sydney has a lot of resources and help for teenage pregnancies

Please dont do this Please dont do this long term solution for a short term problem, and trust me It is just short term

YOU WILL Get through this and I am sure as its this country your Parents will also stand by you.

Please DONT Give your baby up, please talk to your parents and a school counselor

Email me if you want to talk

ETA - Honey I got your email..please please please dont do this
if you email me your actual email address or phone number i will get Adoption Jigsaw to get in touch with you and help you through this ..
Australia is about Family preservation...Trust me this will be the best decision NOT to give your baby up I PROMISE YOU

Please email me again with details so I can pass them on to a counselor at Adoption Jigsaw.

PLEASE TELL YOUR PARENTS Please...Please tell them that you would really like to keep your baby if they would help you and remind them that they are grandparents - get them to come to a scan

And I didnt quite follow the Boyfriend / father connection can you re tell me that part ?

IT WILL BE Okay Hon it really will ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

the only way to ruin your kids life is by giving it up for adoption.

can you imagine??? he/she finds you one day 18-20 years down the road- "mom, why did you give me up???"

"oh, bc i had a boyfriend that was super important to me."

oyyyy.

Polly

Any adoptions in NSW would need to be done under the NSW Department of Community Services (DoCS). This link: http://www.community.nsw.gov.au/DOCS/STANDARD/PC_101072.html takes you to a page titled "Considering Adoption for your Child" which along with some other links (on the left hand side of the page) provides some basic information about adoption as well as some alternatives. You would probably need to talk to DoCS for more in-depth information.

Organisations such as Anglicare http://www.anglicare.org.au/ and Centacare http://www.centacare.org/Text/1147159586224-4803/Adoption-Services and the Mercy Family Centre may also be able to help with information about adoption and fostercare as well as counselling and family support.

I am an adoptive parent but I would also encourage you to explore all the options before making a decision about your family. There is a lot of support and help available if you need it.

holden08

in any state just contact the department of human services,
if you feel that adoption is the right method for you then dont let people talk you out of it, only you know your own situation and by talking with a professional from human services they will help you with any question and information you need
there are plenty of options such as open adoption where you still have contact with your child this may be an option for you
good luck

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