Adoption in mn ???'s any answers would help!?

PhilM

His consent is necessary.

And you should really explore how adoption will affect your child.

Some reading:

* "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

* "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier

yeahright

I am in MN and very familiar with the private adoption process. Basically--legally if you know who the father is, his signature is required for the adoption. I've seen others "claim" not to know who the father is but why do that? If the child wants to find out about themselves as an adult having that history would be very important to them I would think plus it is just the right thing to do. With the highest respect, I am sorry you are going through this by yourself and I think it is great you are not choosing to abort.

Legally if you do decide to keep the child, he doesn't have a choice on the child support front and would be garnished if he didn't voluntarily support his child.

Take care....

cmc

You need his consent, but since he doesn't want to pay child support etc. he may give it. If you don't want to deal with him you can have the social worker at the agency do it for you. We were talking to a pregant woman for a while and they were helping her deal with her abusive husband since she didn't want any contact. In the end she decided to parent, but that is how I know the agency can help you. I certainly won't judge you regardless of your decision. It is a hard one, and only you can decide what is best.

Lori A

You want to also consider what this is going to do to you and possibly the father. I say this because I know what it did to me, and 35 years down the road I found out how it affected my daughters father.

Definitely do some reading, and don't make any decisions or promises until after the baby is born.

BLW_KAM

Here is an excerpt from the laws in Minnesota:

Who Must Consent to an Adoption
Citation: Ann. Stat. Â§ 259.24, subd. 1, 2
No child shall be adopted without the consent of the child's parents and the child's guardian, if there be one.

If there is no parent or guardian qualified to consent to the adoption, the consent shall be given by the commissioner.

If an unmarried parent who consents to the adoption of a child is under age 18, the consent of the minor parent's parents or guardian, if any, also shall be required. If either or both the parents are disqualified for any reason, the consent of such parent shall be waived, and the consent of the guardian only shall be sufficient. If there is neither a parent nor guardian qualified to give such consent, the consent may be given by the commissioner.

When Consent Can Be Executed
Citation: Ann. Stat. Â§ 259.24, subd. 2a
Not sooner than 72 hours after the birth of a child and not later than 60 days after the child's placement in a prospective adoptive home, a person whose consent is required under this section shall execute a consent.

How Consent Must Be Executed
Citation: Ann. Stat. Â§ 259.24, subd. 2, 5
The agency overseeing the adoption proceedings shall ensure that the minor parent is offered the opportunity to consult with an attorney, a member of the clergy, or a physician before consenting to adoption of the child.
All consents to an adoption shall be in writing, executed before two competent witnesses, and acknowledged by the consenting party. In addition, all consents to an adoption, except those by the commissioner, the commissioner's agent, a licensed child-placing agency, an adult adopted person, or the child's parent in a petition for adoption by a stepparent, shall be executed before a representative of the commissioner, the commissioner's agent, or a licensed child-placing agency.

All consents by a parent shall contain written notice:

Of the right to withdraw consent under specific conditions
That the consent itself does not terminate parental rights
That parental rights to a child may be terminated only by an adoption decree or by a court order terminating parental rights
That if the child is not adopted, the parent may be asked to support the child

Revocation of Consent
Citation: Ann. Stat. Â§ 259.24 subd.6a
A parent's consent to adoption may be withdrawn for any reason within 10 working days after the consent is executed and acknowledged. Written notification of withdrawal of consent must be received by the agency to which the child was surrendered no later than the 10th working day after the consent is executed and acknowledged. On the day following the 10th working day after execution and acknowledgment, the consent shall become irrevocable, except upon order of a court of competent jurisdiction after written findings that consent was obtained by fraud.

bash

Are you certain that you want to give this child to strangers? There are programs and state aid available to help you to raise this child. At the very least, you shouldn't make any decisions until after the child is born. Contact DHEC and see if you qualify for medicaid, which will help you throughout the pregnancy and delivery, and also help with formula and necessary items for you and your baby. Right now, you need to think about your health and this child. If, after the first month, you still don't think you can cope, and you have tried all other options--family, friends, co-workers, state aid, then you can make an adoption plan for your child. There is no rush or need to do anything before your child is born.

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