Adoption issues and cheating men!?

Deans

Dump the boyfriend, loser, and raise the baby yourself. Can you really see yourself giving away your baby? Things won't always be easy, but your child will want his mom. Dad too, but separately.

DevonChaos

You really need to get rid of him and make an educated decision about adoption. This is something that WILL hurt you and your baby the rest of your lives. Your option of not wanting to abort is a personal choice, but really, how will you feel knowing that your baby is out there being raised by strangers? How do you think your baby will feel knowing that you are out there... somewhere? I am adopted, and if I could, I would BEG to be kept.

ETA: To those who think adoption is great... how many of you are adopted yourselves? Perhaps it is okay for some, but there are many problems with it, and you cannot put it under an umbrella by saying that it is a wonderful thing.

Independ"ant"

Your baby would be adopted in a nano second. Babies are a hot commodity and are hard for adopters to find.

Get some counseling because your not making sense. You need to separate your relationship with you friend from the relationship with the fetus. What makes you think placing a child up for adoption is going to make things right with you.

Get an abortion if you feel so strongly about not wanting a child.

Lillie

So you're going to punish your baby because the father is a dog?

Real nice.

I feel sorry for your child.

Proud

Most people who are trying to adopt aren't that picky. They just want a baby. They don't care if its black, white, blue, purple or polka-dotted. There are bi-racial couples more than willing to adopt a bi-racial baby if you wanted to get real specific with it. I suggest you two go to counseling to decide what you want to do.

Rowan

This is a bad time for you to be making these kinds of decisions. You need to wait and sit down and fiure out what you really want. Right now, you're trying to get back at him, which is very understandable. However, a little baby should not be the instrument of your revenge, whether you intend it that way or not.
If, deep down, you really wanted this baby before you found out he was a cheater, keep the baby. There are lots of women out there who are single mothers, and they do it. You can too.
Then, dump his *** and start the paperwork for childsupport. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Seven women? i wouldnt listen to a thing he said.

Onto your question about people wating biracial children. It's possible someone will adopt him or here, but not likely. He'll probably end up in foster care, and while some children do get adopted fom there, there arent many.
Plase, dont make any snap decisions now. Clear your head, and try and go from there.

Lucy

of course!!! when i was 17 i gave birth to a beautiful biracial daughter and i wanted the best for her...a life i felt like i could not give her at the time! Luckily the first family i found i fell in love with...and as a white couple who tried to have children of their own for 8 years and coudnt--adore and love my daughter with every breath of air that they breathe. since they adopted my daughter 3 years ago they have had one child and are pregnant again. it was an open adoption and i hear from them at least once a month and my daughter knows who i am and that im her birth mother and that i didnt give her away because i didnt love or want her....i did it because i wanted her to have the life i always dreamed of her having.....although this is something i deal with day in and day out...its still very hard to deal with---soemtimes i cry about my daughter and others im happy she is where she is. if you would like to talk im almost always free and i think i might be able to help you with this since i am your age and went thru the exact same thing : sweet_kisses425 and i really hope this helps and you can find the best possible solution

sundragonjess

I am not trying to talk you into letting me adopt your baby, I have had some answers on here where people reported me because they thought I was trying to advertise myself....anyways.....Someone would adopt your baby if you chose to let them. I was actually going to adopt a mixed race baby a few months ago, but the mother miscarried.

Jennifer L

Yes, you will find adoptive parents for a biracial baby.

However, it sounds like you need to dump the boyfriend, then take some time to get over the (justifiable) anger towards him before you are able to really think rationally about adoption.

You're only 4 weeks along, you have plenty of time to make a decision. I don't tell people to place for adoption and I don't tell people to parent their child, but please take the time to educate yourself and make an informed decision... after you are able to look at the situation with a clear head.

want2adopt

I am so sorry to hear your sad story. Men can be such pigs!! (not all men but some). I don't see why the color of your baby's skin should matter. I am infertile and on a waiting list to adopt (seems like forever) and I know that even if my baby had blue or green skin with orange polka dots, I would still love them as my own. However, I think it is important that the child knows about his cultural history (and why their skin color is different) this is very important in their development and important for their self esteem & identity. I would love to adopt a biracial baby. Remember, Love sees no color if it comes from the heart. Love is color blind!!! Please contact me by email if you wish. Good luck with your situation. Do what you feel is right for you and the baby, don't let your cheating ex persuade you into something you aren't ready to do.

Santa's Lil' Helper

Sherissa,

First you need to get rid of this loser. His behavior has nothing to do with you. Your too upset emotionally right now to make life decisions.
Step back and heal your heart and mind. The right answers will come.

suzanne

First off, you and that baby deserve way better than that guy.
Secondly, your child would be adopted in an instant. There are literally hundreds of couples at the agency I'm working with who would love and adore any child of any race. As far as if I personally would consider it, I definitely would. I have always known that someday I would have biracial children, and I have friends who adore their adopted biracial children. There are definitely people out there who would LOVE this child.

Serenity71

Your only four weeks pregnant and angry at the moment...you nine months to think this through. Give your self some time to cool down before making rash decisions that affect you for a life time.

Good luck! I hope you sort him out really fast and bring him into line very fast or tell him commit be loyal or walk because you need a real man to be a father to your unborn child...

Bella's Mommy

First, I am really sorry to hear about your situation.

Second... While you might be considering adoption now, because you're so angry (and yes... ditch the dog), but you have to think about what you felt when you first found out you were pregnant. Were you thinking adoption then as well, or no?

Third... there are a LOT of people who would be willing to adopt a biracial baby... I am actually one of them (Husband & I aren't that far into the process of adoption, but we are on the road and take our first orientation class, etc the 3rd.). Most people that are in the adoption ring are there because they want to add to their family. Some are picky, but you as a birth mother can very easily pick an agency that will help you make the choices that are right for you.

Fourth... stay strong. You are a strong woman, and it's an amazing thing that you are doing. Lots of women choose to raise babies on their own, and I applaud them for it (there's plenty that I know), however, those that choose to put their babies up for adoption are doing it because they want a better life for their child than they can provide. Both a mother and a father, etc.

Fifth. Two words: Open Adoption. (you can still be in your childs life, without being super duper involved.

Gina M

Okay here is my take on your situation. You got pregnant take care of the child. You sound mentally fit to do so. If you are capable for caring for the child don't give it up. Love it the best you can I am raising 5 children on my own right now. It can be done. You do not need a man in your life to be a good mom or to love the child you created. If you feel you can not emotionally support the child or physically or financially support it then resort to adoption. And there are thousands of bi-racial adoptions a day. Best wishes.

*Just Married*

There are plenty of families that would love to adopt a biracial baby. Adoption is great as long as it's well thought out and agreed upon. Is he willing to do that?

Definitely break up with him. You deserve so much better. If the other girls didn't mean anything he wouldn't be talking and texting them. Actions speak louder than words.

stefs05

Wow, I'm really sorry. First, you need to cut all ties with this guy if he isn't going to respect you enough to be faithful. You don't need a guy like that in your life! You deserve better.

As far as adoption, I'm really glad you've decided not to abort the baby! That's a wonderful, heroic decision. My husband and I want to adopt a baby someday, and both of us would be perfectly fine and happy adopting a mixed baby. All children are beautiful. I'm sure that you will find wonderful adoptive parents for your precious child!!

Kingston's Mommy

I believe that there are plenty of people that would be willing to adopt a baby regardless of race. I am white, and my husband is black. We have a bio biracial baby boy and we're in the process of adopting a biracial baby girl. Our soon-to-be daughter is a different race than us, or our son, and it doesn't bother me one bit!

Sorry to hear about your situation, and I'm sure you'll make the decision that is in the best interest of your child.

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