Adoption parents, letterbox contact question?

HappyMomAnna

Actually, we have done exactly that! Our children have been adopted for 6 years and we have sent pictures and letters about twice a year out to some box no where...

6 years and 2 months passed with No sign they were received an no information about anything--then Wham! About 2 weeks ago we received contact from the legal department representing mom...asking if she could write and send gifts...

So...ya never know! The way I see it is that it really doesn't take me much effort to drop her an update and some pictures. I don't know if she has been to pained to respond until now or if she only went to get the 6 years of updates until recently and it doesn't matter to me.

It's just too easy to give her a thought once in awhile and drop a Prayer to God that she is able to recover and make herself whole for them when they go looking for her.

What does it cost me? 15 minutes and a roll of film with a postage stamp... Just too small of a price to pay even if I never hear another word from her--I think she deserves to know the children who were taken away from her are well cared for and not being taught to hate her for her own illness and lack of resources and skills.

Kazi

Like Lori said, there could be many reasons why you have not received a response, however, if I were you, I would continue to write the letters. Actually, I would send one and keep a copy, just in the off chance she has not been receiving the letters. In that case, hopefully when she makes contact (perhaps years later), you will have a collection of letters to give her.

Serenity71

No,

Just keep sending them in, just because she hasn't responded doesn't mean she won't one day want the information. What do you to lose by doing it? Nothing. Your child will be glad you did when they're older at least they know you wanted some form of contact and you did what you agreed to do.

Kazi's right, I keep copies of all the letters I send. Just in case my kids want to know what I've been writing in years to come.
All the best

Lori A

That depends, where are the letters going? Do you mail them direct to her or do they go to the agency? If the answer is the agency, I wouldn't believe that they were never picked up. The agency has gotten their money from you, and this is not a life long arrangement. Lost of things have never been passed on, letters, pictures, medical info. It just piles up or gets ruined in the flood.

You have no idea what they are telling her. It is quite possible that she is being told to move on.

Flying Monkey #073177

Unless you are sending the letters to a friend or relative of hers, someone you are actually in contact with, or by registered mail directly to her you have no way to know if she is getting them.

My son's adoptive parents may very well be sending me letters every year but I won't know until he is 18 and I can access the post adoption registry. Any info sent to me goes to the registry and I can't get any of it until he is of legal age. Same thing goes for what I send. If your letters go to an agency of any kind you have no way of knowing that these letters will ever be given to her.

Lue

Nope. Keep writing, just becouse there is no response doesnt mean she doesnt appreciate recieveing the letters, very important to keep writing for your child. Just my opinion. Good luck.

Sofiakat

Nope. I would keep writing. She may not be able to answer them, but she may be reading them. The more you send, the better it will be for your child when he or she seeks out their mom, because then, she will know a bit about her child.

Angela R

Just because she hasn't written back does not mean that she isn't recieving them, and cherishing these letters- she may just not know how to respond, or may not feel comfortable writing back for some reason. Also, even if she hasn't gone to read them yet, she may change her mind eventually, and it will mean a lot to her to know you kept sending them. You definetly shouldn't stop writing them.

Tyff Taff

She put the child up for adoption for a reason. I would stop until her or the child decides to find the other
TyffTaff

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