Adoptive Parents: Do you have an "Attitude of Gratitude"?
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Adoptive Parents: Do you have an "Attitude of Gratitude"?
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Or is everything about you?
Just curious.
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Wondering if anyone else sees how totally offensive this question can be construed.
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aloha.girl59
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Hi Isabel,
I think I know what you're getting at, but I am going to answer the way I truly feel. :)
I am grateful that I have been allowed to raise another woman's child. I am grateful for his happy little presence in my life every single day. I know that both my son and his first mother have had to experience a huge loss in order for me to be able to raise her little boy. I am not grateful for that; it makes me sad. But I know that I am -- for the most part -- doing a good job at being his mom and that when we chooses to, he will have my help and support in searching for his first family.
My son is my reason for living. He is sweet, annoying, affectionate, charming, and sometimes exasperating! But he is the best person in my life and I'm grateful to be his mother every day. |
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kateiskate
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I recently was talking to my amom about how people think adoptees have to be grateful for being adopted and she told me that she thinks she is the lucky one to be blessed with being able to have us in her life.
I'm not an aparent but I did speak to my sister's first mom and tell her how much I was indebted to her for letting us know my sister. |
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furfur
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Absolutely. I am humbled and honored that my daughter's mom asked me to parent her child. I am deeply saddened by the loss that they feel, but am very grateful to be a part of my daughter's life. If and when my daughter decided to search, I will support her any way I can. |
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Sophie
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I am very grateful to be the parent of my son. I'm not offended by the question... but the "...Or is everything about you?" part is a little assuming. |
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Randy B
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Nope. I don't just see how offensive this question could be construed, I see how just about every question could be construed in one way or another if someone wants to but I choose not try to find fault in simple questions. I've got better things to do. Maybe I read it wrong but then again, I'm a glass half full kinda guy. |
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School Nurse
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Absolutely! My attitude is of gratitude and thankfulness. No, I am not offended by the question.
I am thankful/grateful to God for loving me and blessing me.
I am thankful/grateful for my parents who loved me dearly and raised me as best they could.
I am thankful/grateful for my husband of almost 40 years.
I am thankful/grateful for my beautiful daughter who I love with ALL of my heart.
I am thankful/grateful that she loves me.
I am thankful/grateful for my son-in-law who loves HER dearly and makes HER happy.
I am thankful/grateful that they gave me 2 beautiful grandchildren that we ALL love dearly.
My list goes ON and ON and ON--it's never ending.
I am a very blessed person and I KNOW IT!! |
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crazychickizback
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I'm not an AP but why should they be grateful for having to shell out thousands for what other women get for free? Why should they be grateful when they most likely cant have biological children and then they come on here and get blasted if they want a baby, when they've already missed out on a big enough chunk of parenthood? Or called "adopters" or "baby stealer's" (which, I guess makes birth mothers the "baby abandoners" like another poster said) Or have birth mothers tell them maybe they weren't meant to be parents, when they're obviously much better parents than the birth mother? I can see being thankful to God for leading them to the child meant to be theirs, but beyond that? no way |
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Yarr
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I'm not an adoptive parent but I'm curious as to who an adoptive parent would feel gratitude to? The birth parents that gave the kid up or the kid itself? I'm not sure why they'd feel gratitude towards the kid.
And you completely lost me on the "Or is everything about you?" |
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Birthers are NOT mothers
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Sure, they should be grateful to spend thousands of dollars on a child who grows up and spews venom about them because they took them in and raised them but they are not who they really want to be with, because they wish they could have stayed with the people who tossed them away... their abandoners. Yes, for that they should be grateful...INDEED! |
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Jared S
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one of my parents are adopted and her foster mom was horrible to her |
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