Adoptive father or biological father... who do you consider to be the true father?

newfiegurlie

Biological father is the true father.

Adoptive father is the true dad.

elaeblue

The one that was there when you were growing up. The one that bought you your first bike. The one who punished you when you were naughty. The one who paid for all the stuff you have.
Any one can be a father it takes someone special to be a Daddy!!

Adoptive, because they are were the ones that were there for the child. Sometimes blood ties have no meaning. It's important to know, but it's who was there that counts.

ms_sexy_thang05

The adoptive father......you are the one that raises that child and takes care of him or her. Anyone can make a baby, but it takes a man to raise one.

Angie F

Well, I am not adopted, but my husband is and he definitely considers his adopted father his true father.

liz

i htink that it is whichever one takes care of you the most and shows you the most love, any man can hold the title of being a father but only one can truly step up and act like one

chellelee28

I only had one - the biological. BUT, I think that the father is the one who cares for you, loves you unconditionally, and wants you around forever.

gawillow

I have to agree. It's the one who takes care of the child. Any man can be a father, but it takes a REAL man to be a dad.

Delicious Pear

As an adoptee - the ADOPTIVE father.

Hands down. No question.

Liz

My dad was adopted by his dad. His real dad he only met once when he was a kid...he told me that he walked in the room said "hi, how are you?" my dad said "I am good" and that was the only conversation he had with him. I didn't even realize my dad was adopted by my grandpa untill I was about ten (wasn't a secret, I guess I was just oblivious). Whenever we talk about my dads biological father we always call him his "real dad". When we talk about his adoptive dad we just call him his dad our grandpa. It didn't change the way I thought of my grandpa at all. My grandpa recently passed away and it would be kinda neat to meet my real grandpa...weird at the same time.

Still Me

We do not need to be divisive here!

A birthfather can make a loving decision just by signing a Waiver for the child to be adopted, by just not contesting the adoption, or by being fully involved in the adoption. We must not discount this important role, which allows for the child to be adopted! (Even if he is not active or present!)

But a Daddy -- well that is the man who is lucky enough to be able to kiss their child goodnight, save for college, and teach their child how to throw a ball! This is the essence of fatherhood.

But we should honor, no matter what the situation, the birthfather. For without him, no matter how much or how little he contributed to the child, there would not be this beautiful child who is our own!

bpfashion123

I think whoever does the child rearing and is always there for the child.

crystal m

my adopted dad i never knew my real dad besides how can you call some one who hasnt been there your dad

The Reverend Soleil

The person who acts in the loving way gets the loving title.

prep_grl_94

i was adopted too and i think that an adoptive father is the true father because he is more there for you and the biological father was kind of not even there.

Weeme

To me, l only have one Father. The man who adopted me is my father in the only sense of the word. The man who 'created' me is a great person, but will never be a father to me in any way. l'm not dissing him, l like him a lot, but as a person, not a parent. l think it helps to have great parents, and be secure in where you came from.

Darlene L

Adoptive father. Hands down. My adoptive father is my dad. It takes a very speical person to be a dad. Anyone can be a "father". Getting someone pregnant is not that hard a thing to do... but being there, for everything both good and bad, and doing it for someone who is not biologically your own... that is one special person.

Gaby

Your parents are the people who love and raise you.

I also believe that if you have relatives who are also a critical part of a child's upbringing they are also a secondary parent.

"It takes a village" is true.

Shell

I'm adopted and my adopted dad is now dead from alcoholism,he dies when i was 18....since then i have found my biological father and our bond is quite strong I'm very much like him and have no bad feelings towards him....my adopted father obviously had his faults with his severe drinking problem and wasn't always the best father but he did do allot of the stuff for me fathers do that cannot be replaced....like first bike and putting up with my tantrums and i loved him very much...i don't think i could say who i classed as my true father.....i see two very different people with very different connections to myself and i would struggle to say which one i felt was my real father....i try to see them as individuals both with different aspects its hard to compare...i believe that neither of them have been my true father but in other ways they both are completely.
there's my opinion on the matter,lol...hope it was insightful :)

Mary Laurita

I will say the one who was most involved in the child's life and education. The one who showed he cared and tried to be there to offer support. It is not just the money, it is not just being the procreator, it includes sentiment and living.

Panama

The father is the man who raises the individual from child to adult. The person who teaches, loves, nurishes and charishes the child is the father, the dad, and the protector.

The biological father is nothing more than DNA and single good time event - maybe.

angel_demon_999

Adoptive-Any man can biologically father a child, it takes a REAL man to be a DAD!!!

God is love

a carring adoptive father is my choice not an alchoholic ,abusive biological father, the one who makes you his own and show you love ,whose is there when you need him,your hero.

Elizabeth H

It depends on the situation. I had two fathers growing up a step father and a biological father who both did their part to raise me. Sometimes the biological father does not know that the adoption took place so if the child has been placed I think that the biological father has a right to at least visitation. What is wrong with two fathers if they are both looking out for the best interest of the child?

Dark_Fire_Angel

I thinks it depends on the situation. I have a little girl that is an open adoption now she has a very loving adoptive dad but she also has her bio dad in her life. She will always know the adoptive father as her dad but she also know that her bio dad is in her life and loves her very much. I think she's extremely lucky she has both men she can count on who love her and would do anything for her

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