Adoptive parents, what is the most valuable?
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Adoptive parents, what is the most valuable?
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thing you have learned from adult adoptees?
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Freckle Face
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Thanks in Cognito, happy to answer your question!
I've learned that alot of what i was told to say and do by the adoption agency is wrong.
I've learned that having a relationship with both of my girls first families is extremely important. Not only for the mental well being of my children but as a way of giving dd fparents a piece of mind. Must add that dd fparents and families are amazing people that we also call family b/c we are that close.
I've also learned that not all adoptions had happy beginnings, middles or endings.
I've learned that a lot of people will think her fmom chose adoption over abortion, which is not true.
I've learned that adoption and foster care do need reform.
Thanks guys for all of the constructive criticism and helping me to understand adoption from many different points of view, besides my own. |
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CP
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From my mother: It's okay to love two moms and two dads. |
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cagney
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i have learned that truth and openess are very important. that i should always keep my daughter's other family actively involved in her life. |
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Cam
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Reading the closed adoption stories from many adult adoptees on this site has confirmed to me that my daughter's bio mom and I made the right choice of open adoption for our family. |
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Sophie
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That adoptions affect you through out your adulthood as well as your childhood. Throughout all the nasty comments from anti-adoption folks and those negatively affected by their adoptions and/or adoptive families, I am learning from them. It will make me a better Mom. |
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BPD Wife
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I think the thing I have probably learned the most is regarding the loss they feel as adults. I guess I never really thought about that much. I have also learned how important certain reforms are and how to help with those. |
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furfur
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That it is important to strike a balance between letting your child know they are adopted and overdoing it. |
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i thought that in order to better understand each other, maybe this would be a good chance to answer a question without feeling like you're on the defense.
1. what is it you want to ... |
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I've been ... |
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 Questions about older kids? |
| My husband and I are considering the adoption of an older child. We’ve read through a good many “horror” stories and the usual collection of dire warnings that ‘these kids won’t behave in a way ... |
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