Americans: Are you for or against people living in other countries adopting children from the USA? ?

Nancy_AfricanQueen

Erin L

Canadians adopt Black children from U.S. foster care all the time because U.S. citizens don't. It's a good thing.

tish

sure...i'm confident that a nice affluent family in guatamala would give a child from the US a "wonderful life"--even if no one looks like the child, speaks english, nor understands the culture.
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ps...we are currently "exporting" black kids to germany and candada. i find this odd especially when there are soooo many parents who want kids in the US...

on second thought, i don't find it odd at all.

Just a Mom

I really don't know how I feel about it.

One thing that sticks in my head is one of the "Adoption Stories". In this one, the couple was doing an IA of a baby and an unrelated teen from the same orphanage. The teen had to say goodbye to her siblings forever. At least at the orphanage she was with her siblings, you know? It was heart breaking.

So, my concern is that sometimes kids who are adopted here are able to find their siblings later on...and that might be harder doing IA.

Do many siblings get adopted together in IA?

B-Power

No, everyone in this country adopts kids from other countries, Why not the other way around. American kids need homes too

â™¥Luckyâ™¥

As long as the screening process is standardized across the board, I am for it.

b123153h

No And I don't think american should adopt children out of their home countries except to save their lives. the corruption of our schooled and the degradation one would receive is not worth it unless they are in private school. Then they have to deal with the job market plus we take away their heritage and turn them into americans, not that that is bad but the lose their identity.

Mommy to 11 month old Jacob

I am all for anyone adopting children no matter where they are from.

MAD sheeeeeeeit! wants you!!

i've got mixed feelings about it.
and now i will bore you with a long answer as to why i have those mixed feelings.
i am for helping people out no matter were they come from, but i do believe in America first as well.
From what i hear the adoption process in this country takes a very long time if you even qualify which it is apparently hard to do. So it makes sense for people from the U.S. to adopt from other countries in order to avoid all the bureaucratic red tape. However, i was watching one of those news shows the other night like dateline, 48hrs, 20/20, 60minutes or was it PBS. Well anyway on said news program they had a couple that adopted some children from Russia, but sadly the Russian children had been severely abused and had serious mental health and emotional issues which the adoption agency had neglected to inform the adopting parents of. Once these children came to the U.S.(there were three of them i believe and two of them were siblings, sisters i think) 2 of them, a boy and girl, began to act out as they got older and were incapacitated by severe behavioral issues. The parents were ostracized by their community and were overwhelmed by the mental health issues of their children. They ended up sending one of them away to a camp for traumatized children for the bargain rate of $30,000 dollars a year which they could not afford. To sum it all up these poor parents were screwed. While I commend their efforts to adopt unwanted children and make the world a better place I can't help but wonder why they had to go half way around the world to adopt children with psychological issues. Because the adoption process in this country is very slow, rigorous and selective I understand why people go overseas to adopt if they want healthy stable children. However adopting emotionally challenged children from overseas does bother me a little because despite the demand for adopting children here our foster care system is very overwhelmed with children and understaffed. There are plenty of fostercare children that need adopting here in the U.S., but unfortunately they are older children not infants and most adopting parents want to adopt babies or young children. Also many of the foster children from what I hear have attachment issues. Please, any of you experts and people feel free to correct anything i'm saying because i do not wish to misinform anyone i am just trying to share my limited knowledge about an important issue with those who might be less informed than myself. So my point is why adopt troubled children from overseas when there are plenty of children here in the U.S. who could use the help.......wait a minute......i ..... just reread....... the ... question. Are you for or against people from OTHER countries adopting children FROM the usa. Um.Oops. My bad.

Never mind.
Seriously i got half way through answering the question and realized i misread it.

Possum

Barely any of your answers really considers what it's like for the child to be removed from their country of birth - their culture - and away from possible siblings and extended bio family.
Adoption isn't meant to be about wiping the child's former existence off the planet.
It's supposed to be about the child's BEST interests.
Best interests includes growing in the country they were born to - same language, same culture - and growing not too far away from any existing bio family.
There is such ignorance about how adoptee's really feel about being ripped apart from all that they are.
No wonder the adoption industry is thriving in good 'ole USA.
Your citizens care not for their children.

Linny G

I am against all adoptions which remove a child from their native homeland.

Please check this out-
http://www.adoptedthemovie.com/

That depends on the country, the financial status of the adoptive parents, and the upbringing the child will have. I feel the same way about adoptions by people in the USA. The child's welfare is what matters most.

hopelessromantic86

No, as long as the children can be adopted into loving and caring home situations I think it is great.

monkeykitty83

As long as they're adopting children truly in need of homes from the foster care system rather than adding to the demand for newborns (there are waits of months or years to adopt newborns; they aren't going without adoptive parents without leaving their home country,) I do support it.

I support it realizing it's not the ideal situation. I know cultural transitions are hard. I'm an immigrant, so I'd be the last person to say moving to a new country is easy. But having made several cultural transitions myself, I can honestly say there are things in this world that are harder, too, and I truly believe that growing up in the US foster care system without a permanent home is one of the things that's harder.

I think where possible, children should remain in their own country of birth, whether that's the US or somewhere else. But when they can't find adoptive families there, being adopted abroad is preferable to the alternative of remaining in the system without a stable home. International adoption should be the last resort, but US foster kids need to have a last resort.

Since the US is apparently incapable of providing permanent homes for its own foster children, if the children can find care in families from abroad, I support it.

kateiskate

I'm for parents providing kids with homes as long as they are fit to care for those kids regardless of what country they are from.

BOTZ

I am against it because I am against ADOPTION at all.

But, what's good for the goose is good for the gander..."better" is in the eye of the beholder. And the only "beholder" in adoption is the adoptee...or at least it should be that way.

NO a-parent should ever be allowed to decide that SOMEONE ELSE'S child would be "better off" with them. It might be true (in some cases) but a hopeful PAP is 180 degrees from "objective".

I wonder how "all for it" you would be -- or any of the others who seem to think it's all peachy in adopt-o-land -- if it was YOUR OWN child that was being sent for adoption in another country. In fact, why don't you send your son to China and then tell us how "all for it" you are? THAT would speak volumes.

beentheredonethat

I am for a child finding a loving family regardless of borders, politics, religion, or race.

Graf Eisen

If they're orphaned, then why not? If the USA can adopt children from other countries, I see no reason why people from other countries should be unable to adopt children from us. If the person wishing to adopt can afford all of the insane legal fees required to adopt a child here, chances are they can afford to raise that child well.

ice_romeo02

As long as the family is capable of raising a child in a healthy enviorment I am all for it. We adopt children from other countried why should we judge people from other countries adopting our children.

opedial

I would be leary why other people are adopting children in the United States when they live abroad? Their is not a supply of children here without parents. I guess if it was a foster child, but even then they should remain close to home.

I just don't know, but I do know the more children cross borders as part of adoption, the more children are open to being trafficked for wrong purposes.

golfgirl3

By all means adopt if there are children here that need good homes as much as children in other countries then by all means adopt, just whoever adopts US children from a foreign country better speak English unless they adopt an infant.

Heather B

Scratching head. But I thought all children of the world are promised a a 'better life' with 'forever families' in the good ol' USofA

Hypocrisy chaffs my hide

Jessica1188

Seriously, why would that be a problem. Being in a loving home outside of the U.S. is better than being tossed from family to family or orphaned within our borders. The U.S. is not the only good place to live or grow up in.

cellardoor730

i am for foreigners adopting american children, so many children need homes and the united states is overpopulated.

manda b.

For it if they are suitable parents and can prove it! There are so many women having unplanned pregnancies and not taking care of their children.

Then you have all the people on the outside (usually middle to upper class) pushing lower class women to have heir children and not choose abortion. But how many of those women pushing for anti abortion laws have adopted unwanted children? Go to the ghetto and see how these children are neglected and growing up in the streets. So yes, this seems like a suitable answer to this dilemma... more unwanted babies go to families who want them.

djarum69

Assuming it's not to a country where children are routinely exploited for monetary gain, I'm fine with it.