Any foster parents been falsely accused of something and almost lost your own children?

We have been foster parents for two years now and have been told by DSS that we were some of their "top foster parents". We have had 15 children in and out of our home in that time. We love being foster parents, and plan on adopting one of the little boys that has been with us for 14 months.

Anyway, Monday DSS came and removed two foster boys from our home, leaving our adopted daughter and the little boy we are in the process of adopting. They would not tell us anything, we have since found out they received a "referal" against us but they will not tell us what it is. They have also threatened that if we don't "watch our p's & q's" that they will take our two children that remain with us. We HONESTLY have done nothing wrong, and are certain that this is something against us because we are Christians. Just curious if anyone else has been through this...

Please no haters!
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We do not believe in hurting our children just because they did something wrong...so the beating your kids thing isn't it...thanks though

also, the minute DSS took the kids on Monday we went to see our lawyer, he is also going to come to our home when the investigator comes...we also have our son's lawyer, and both are saying the DSS is wronging us. But it seems that DSS doesn't have anyone they are accountable too, thus we are having trouble figuring out what to do.

Small Fry

Hang in there, we have not been through it but know of people that have and some that are actually going through it at this moment...crazy enough the ones that we know have been through this have all been Christians...pretty strong ones too.

Samone

I'll probably get some poop for this, but I gotta say I think it's about time that a child protection department stuck up for kids. I suffered ALOT of abuse at the hands of my foster parents, and nobody would ever believe me.

Now that being said, if they took away children from your home, you should have every right to know exactly what the allegations are. No different than when child protection enters a regular parents home, they have a right to know what the allegations are against them. You should also have the right to defend yourself against those allegations and upon righting the situation have the children returned to you.

Santa's Lil' Helper

I think it was very wise of you to obtain a lawyer. I would also encourage you to record the session when the investigator enters your home. Ask your lawyer about this.....it is YOUR home and as long as your not taping anything inappropriate you will be fine. DSS is doing what it has to....if they got a referral they have to act on it to protect the children. Unfortunately some people will report you to DSS for other reasons. It happens all the time. Several years ago the bio father of our DD reported us when the court halted his visitation rights because of the outcome of his psychological evaluation. He did this on the instruction of his attorney.
There was an investigation and DSS found out about the court order. The attorney found herself in allot of hot water.

The first thing is know your rights!!!

Wendy

Were the boys brothers? Maybe one - or both- of them said something that wasn't exactly true, which could have resulted in their removal from your home. Some foster children have been through so much and many times they end up re-living the things that have happened to them in the past even if they aren't happening now. Check out Reactive Attachment Disorder. If you didn't do anything wrong then try not to worry, I know that's easier said than done.

Best of luck to you and your family. I hope the children's best interest is met.

sunshine

I highly doubt it's because you are Christians, unless your the super strict beat your kids in the name of Christ kind of Christians. (You know that type exhibits too.) Have you thought about just talking to a lawyer? I'm assuming a lawyer is helping you with the adoption of the youngest you still have, talk to the lawyer.

Good luck.

Livvie

They should tell you why and what the referal against you was.. I don't think its the Christian thing.. It's probably something like someone got mad at you and turned you in and DSS is listening to the reports more
And on a side note, I am sure your good people, but seeing foster children abused and DSS did nothing, in MS. I am hoping they start taking things more seriously everywhere

Peaness

DDS or CPS can not enter your home & remove your children without your permission. Hopefully, your lawyer can provide some guidance and if they threaten to take away your children they are in the wrong but unfortunately that tactic works for them.

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