Any ideas, adoptees...?

LaurieDB

As far as Social Security Cards, they don't have one's parents' names on them. If your first mother filled out the form for you to get a card, she would have signed that form. But, the card will have your name and SS# on it.

You could contact Social Security and see if you can get a copy of the original request form for your card.

I have a paid subscription for Ancestry.com. North Carolina has a birth index that is accessible via Ancestry.com. I don't know if it can lead to anything, but possibly some information can be gathered by plugging your birth date and county into it. If you're okay with me running a check for you to see what comes up, I'll do that. I would just need to know your birth date since you already listed the other info I'd use. If you'd like, you can email me the date from my profile page or just list it here.

Also, be sure to get your non-identifying information via the instruction Gershom gave you. My non-id included my first parents' first names, which was extremely helpful in my search.

ETA:
The North Carolina birth index gives FULL names of the parents...so, if you're in there under your original birth, both of your first parents' names could be listed!!

I live in California. Our index only lists the mothers maiden last name.

julie j

Hi La'Sarah,

Gershom gave some excellent advice there!

As for the Social Security information, it would not hurt to apply for a copy of your APPLICATION for your social security card. The card itself only has your name on it. The application will have parents' names too. Check out link below. Looks like you can do that online.

Do register with International Soundex Reunion Registry, link below. It's free.

Don't forget to get your non-identifying info from the adoption agency.

For online support for adoptees, join us at http://www.adultadoptees.org

Hope some of this helps too. Best of luck in your search!

julie j
reunited adoptee

T V

I was also adopted.

first contact the agency you were adopted thru, and make contact. If your mother has contacted them then you may be in contact with her very soon. I tried to make contact with my mother in 1989, and in 1994 she made contact with the agency about me. When you make contact you are allowing permission for your family member to contact you, and visa versa.

second: When contacting the agency be a nice as possible to the person who is on the other end of the line. They may find favor in you and give you a tad of information that could lead you to finding your BM.

third: This may sound crazy but The Mormon Library. I know a little nutty, but I knew a PI and he always started there when he would look for someone. A girlfriend of mine had him find her birth mom with about the same info as you, and he found her thru their library. Here is a goggle page with leads that may help.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-Address&rlz=1I7SNYI&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1&q=mormon+library&spell=1

I hope I have helped, if not just to give you a few ideas and more info.

Heather B

Cant add much to the excellent advice already given here

Run your info through this site for possible matches

http://registry.adoption.com/

Oh and this one too - they also list people who aren't sure of dob's (like siblings, aunts etc that may be looking for you)

http://www.metroreunionregistry.org/index.html

MidnightSky

Also another great website for all members of the adoption triad is forums.adoption.com. They have great support, people who help with searching, just a huge place to learn a ton about finding information and making contact. =)

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