Any suggestions?

eve

she is definitely young enough that she should have no trouble bonding with you and adjusting to life with you easily and quickly. i don't know anything at all about issues involved with a baby born addicted to cocaine, however. You should certainly consult a doctor who specifically knows about that and use him as well as you can for information and feedback and help. i think the issue of attachment may be more of a concern for you than it is for the baby. by that i mean you may not be emotionally open to bonding with the baby if you know the adoption may not go through and that your heart will be broken if you lose the baby. i guess i think that self-protection is inevitable in an iffy situation when it comes to your own heart. the baby, however, can love you completely! and will love you completely. best of luck to you and i hope it works out. i think you should ask for as much history on her as is available; not just medical history (although that is vital) but, also find out from her caregivers exactly how she has been treated and how she has responded. try to keep her scheduule as close to the same as you can for a while, to reduce the change in her life. Her schedule will certianly change on its own as she grows (quickly!) but, i would ask, so you know what to expect. find out her sleeping and eating patterns, when and why and for how long she usually cries, how she likes to be held, what kind of formula and how much of it does she drink at a time, how she is used to being soothed, how she likes to be held. these are all things you can discover for yourself but, you're better off finding out what she's been used to. if no one seems to be able to answer these sorts of questions, you may be justified in wondering if she's been neglected but, even if so, she can adjust really quickly becasue she is still so young. treat her as lovingly and as acceptingly as your heart will allow and you will fall in love with each other!

emnari

please read up on sensory output .. a baby born addicted could have a lot of issues, take this time now and read up and ask doctors & counselors for help on making the transition easy and less offensive.
good luck and best wishes to you!!

Jessica Rabbit

I think she will adapt fairly easy as she is so young. However, do be aware that she may be more demanding than a normal baby. She will probably be a little more jittery and need more cuddles (which is always nice) but I am sure she will adapt very quickly in a home where she has one to one attention and lots of love and security around her.

I wish you lots of luck with your little one

outlawlady

She will adjust just fine ,however family members may be the one needing some adjustments .If you have other children they will have the bigger problem with having to share you with someone else ,and I have even seen husbands and wife's having hard time adjusting ,feeling like they have been neglected,but don't worry sweetie everyone will come around ,I know a infant needs lots of attention but be sure and show others that you still love them too .I have been a foster parent years and its not easy ,just treat them as your own.I am sure you will be great parents .I have been a foster parents to alot of children here in my home town ,some long term ,some just as a emergency cases ,but one thing for sure I see these kids out after they have started their own family's and they always call me Mom and then that makes it all worth it .

Mom to Foster Children

You will be totally fine! I got a 7 month old not too long ago and when the police department pulled him out of the cruiser and handed him to me he was all smiles and never had any problems adjusting...and he was pulled from home! Now, when he goes on visits (sadly only twice a week, when parents show up) he doesn't want to have anything to do with them for the first part. He calls us mama and dada (almost 1 year old)! Good luck!

I think "sink" needs to reevaluate his answer as he thinks this child should be with his natural parents the ones who made her addicted to drugs at birth! Come on man - this child should never be allowed with his natural parents unless they get their **** together

tigger46161

First off BLESS U for being such a great person in takeing in this child. The baby is only 10 weeks old and should adjust fairly easily. Just try getting a pattern and schedule made and maintained. Babies thrive on predictability. I would suggest just having close family around for several weeks so that she can get use too you all first.
BLESS U and Good Luck!

Sarah

Hmmm.. I think she should adjust just fine, assuming she has been in a good shelter. Just give her all the love I know you must have for her and I think she'll do great. Lots and lots of love never hurt anyone. Good luck~

Well, you didn't mention all that at first. Wow. I think you'd have to do research and/or talk to her doctors about what the long term effects of the cocaine she received are... especially how often she was exposed, etc. I doubt it will be as seamless as "she's been in a shelter since she was 10 days old" made it sound- she should probably still bond to you, with time, and LOTS of love and patience, but I'd bet there will be noticable problems at least for a while, and maybe longer.

Torrejon

I was adopted when I was about 8 weeks old...had been in foster care since 4 days old. I bonded and adjusted just fine!

The addiction she was born with will most likely need her pediatrician's attention.

CHERYL

YES,THEY WILL AJUST VERY EASY.

mamanana9

hopefully i can help you out.we took in a fosterchild when she was 10 weeks old,had been neglected and abused.was terrified of ppl,light because was locked in a dark room for hours at a time,screamed if anyone even spoke to her.we would take turns holding her even while she fussed but each time would hold her a little longer each time,talk to her,take her from room to room with you so that way you will be consistent in her life.and one day may take a week,may take a month,you will loook and she will be following you and your voice as best she can,your heart will soar to the heavens when it happens to.my advice is love her alot,cudde her,rock her,talk to her and yes she will adapt.good luck and god bless you.oh and were waiting for date to be sret for our adoption anytime after 7 yrs.were only parents shes ever known so shes ours already just want to makeit legal

lostwithyou82

as long as you have a caring loving home she will be fine but make sure there are rules children need rules well in the future she is pretty young still don't push a schedule on her to soon and have fun you are being blessed with a child from God

Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths

This is actually a perfect time. She will start smiling soon and cooing. I have a 15 week old. They bond quickly and at that age they just want someone to talk to them. My daughter can be fussing and I will start talking to her and she will kick her chubby legs. She will do fine and will bond quickly, They jsut want love.

Holly

She's 10 weeks old, how hard could it be for her to adjust? I mean really, what the hell do 10 week old children do? Eat, sleep, and ****.

Cotterall 'A.K.' Adams

This child belongs with the biological parents who are the only true parents of this child. They should be given a chance first and foremost. The adoption industry is elitist, greedy and exploitative. They favour these nameless adoptive 'parents' over the true parents of the child and do not try to help them. The system should support family reunification and maintenance.

Welfare policy is designed to drive the father out of the home and doesn't help to make him financially and emotionally accountable when he leaves, thereby isolating women and leaving them in a poor, isolated state of abandonment. The adoption agency has replaced social welfare. It exists to broker children off to buyers and it is fundamentally wrong. Adoption reform is needed. Adoption should only exist when there is no viable alternative. It is not the answer.

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