Anyone in the adoption triad?

Possum

Freedom - that link isn't working for me.

To your question - no - I don't think pregnant teens should be forced to give up their children.

Edit - thanks - that worked. I answered over there also.

For my scars shall mold me

NO! I am 19, still considered a teen, working a full time job, have my own home with the man I love, and getting ready to start college....

why shouldn't I be allowed to keep my child?

Lillie

No, they shouldn't be forced to. I know many teenagers who have gotten pregnant, kept their babies and became excellent mothers.

Why is society so unwilling to offer a little support to a teenage mother? Even if its simply in the form of a little basic encouragement? Seems pretty hypocritical that people are against any type of government assistance to help a teenage mom keep her baby, yet we're all just fine and dandy with paying foster families dividends to take care of those same children once we separate the kids from the teenage moms.

If she needs a little help for a couple years to finish school and get on her feet, so what? We're paying for it out of our taxes either way; why not keep a family together?

LaurieDB

Definitely not. The baby is not a new car that can be taken away if the teen doesn't behave. This baby is her flesh and blood, as well as the flesh and blood of the rest of the family. This is a grave decision to make and has absolutely nothing to do with "punishment" or some blanket statement that these young women cannot be good parents.

Someone here stated that they should be forced to deal with the consequences of their actions, as though raising their child is punishment, and giving up their child is a sign to them that it's okay to do it again. (Just looking around one can see that there is proof enough that there are teens that get pregnant more than once whether they keep the first one or not.) Perhaps this person has never been in a position of having to give up a child. That is the real punishment.

My grandmother became pregnant twice before she married. This was in the 1940's. She was made to give up her first child. When she became pregnant the second time, she eloped to another state with the father. Her parents wanted her to come home, but she was afraid of losing another child. She did go home and let her parents annul the marriage, but only if they agreed to allow her to keep her baby. She did keep the baby, who became my mother. My grandmother went on to remarry and have a child with her new husband. He accepted my mother as if she were his own daughter. They were happily married until she passed in 1999.

evon.

Never, that should be illegal.

girlwhowasadoptedin49or50ithink

My birth mother was forced to give me up because her parents didn't want their name tarnished, and all paperwork was put in the names of my parents who didn't legally adopt me. I was given to them by the doctor, because my birthgrandparents didn't want anyone to ever be able to find out about my birthmom's sin.

I may never be able to find any info on my medical history and heritage, and I have lymphedema for which there is no cure. I was told that in my case it was inherited.

So, to answer your question, "No. No mother should ever be forced to give up her child. My life will be shortened because of that."

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sunny

Of course not.

But I'm sure the adoption industry 'professionals' would disagree.

a healing adoptee

NO! They shouldn't be forced to give up their babies. I mean after reading the books "the girls that went away" and "Georgia Tann"(i forget the rest of the title), there was a lot of hurt and anger by both the birth mothers and the adoptee. Some adoption professionals at the time also were speaking up aganist the practice of forcing young mothers to give up their baby. Forcing someone to do something they don't want to do can have negative affects down the road. I feel that adoption should be a postive experince and benefit all that are involved. It shouldn't be where young mothers are forced to give up a baby so an older couple can raise it.

"Please note that the above are my opinions and feelings and not those of anyone else's"

Laurel J

Forced?! Certainly not.

SunLover

I don't think they should be forced to give up their children but adoption is almost always a better option than abortion and usually better than a kid raising a kid. So many loving families can not have children and adoption is a great option for those families and it allows the kid to be a kid.

masdtx

NO, because they need to pay a consequence for their actions and if you take their child away, they will think that its okay for them to get pregnant again, because they are going to give to to someone else and let them take care of it. They need to know what being a mom is really like and go through what a mom would go through. In the end, they can give other girls their age advise about using protection!

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