Anyone looking to adopt......?

opedial

I am adopting.

My husband and I tried for five years to have a child, with no success. We did not do intensive fertility treatments because, well because we really felt it was too invasive on my body.

We fostered children here in Canada and have experience with a ragner of children.

We are adopting now in Ontario a sibling group of three. We decided older children were better for us because we had much experience with different children and know a lot about behavioural issues, and the one thing we did screen out was FAS, and children who are older may have already had signs come out. With a younger child you only know through self-declaration and we know our limitations and wanted an older group, so we are happy to have three children coming in April ages 4,5,6.

When adopting special needs, or waiting children it is important to know exactly what the child's needs are and if you are going to be able to meet those needs.

The parents were not very good to the kids and everyone pre-decided there will be no visits with parents after adoption, but we will send pictures for openness and leave it open for the children when they are older.

Basically we went on our own journey. Do I sometimes grieve over not having a "baby"? Sure sometimes, but I do believe this was how our family was "meant" to be formed, so I just run with it.

Has YA taught me anything? Well I have learned that there are polarizing opinions, I have learned that (and in fact we have to take training on it here before you become an adoptive parent) is that families formed from adoption are essentially formed from loss, whether it be the child losing its birth or first parents, or if it is the birth parents losing their child, or in fact for the adoptive parents to grieve their own losses of missing parts of our children growing up. We have to acknowledge these losses and the feelings associated with them.

Well that was a mouthful maybe I just really needed to share that. Everyone comes to adoption with different experiences and that is why the YA can get quite heated sometimes.

Thanks for asking.

Still Me

No, I would not care to. Sorry, but given the climate on this site and the cruel responses that adoptive parents get, why would anyone want to "share" anything about their adoption plans here?

melly

oh I would love to adopt me and my husband are trying to have a baby but he went though chemo treatments so It is hard but I do not the first thing about adoption

blank

Hello,
My husband and I are approved through an adoption agency and we are waiting to be selected by an expecting mother looking to place their child for adopiton. We are wishing to adopt because I had a terrible accident that left me medically unable to carry a pregnancy, but otherwise healthy. We have always planned on having two children since before we were married, and we have a 3 year old biological son. We looked into adopting through the foster system, but in Alberta, they won't even look at our application unless we are willing to adopt a child over 7, sibling groups, and special needs children (this is what a few people in the alberta gov't children's services offices told me). So we are through a private agency. We are hoping to adopt a child 3 or younger (so that we don't displace our son as the oldest) and we are also open to special needs and we are also very willing to have an openess agreement with the natural mother and her family. Y!A has given me some insight on some things that I haven't been aware of or considered, and some things that I've taken with a grain of salt. Overall it's been interesting though.

to adopt to be a parent. We wanted healthy children and that is what we got. We would have taken siblings but that is not what we got. We were chosen by a birth mother. We went through an agency and we were willing to accept children with special needs. The children we have so far have none but they are still very young. But there is a possibility of learning or emotional disabilities later on.
Being on YA as made me surprised at how many people are not open to adoption or think it is the most horrible thing in the world. Yes, bad things do happen to adopted children but so to do they happen to biological kids from their own parents. Life is not fair and we can only promise to do good in our own life's and stop others from harming children if we see it or suspect.

grossm1304

Why am i wishing to adopt?
am 31 and was married for 7 yrs and my husband never could have kids.then 2 yrs ago he passed away so i decided i wanted to adopt give a child second chance at life.
what avenues i am pursuing?am doing exchange students now.and loo ken into foster to adopt but i would like to adopt from a private party in stead .What am i open to as far as openness, siblings, special needs. i would do siblings and a special needs child what ever gives me the chance to be a mother am a only child and the child would have a great family to grow up in a happy home i worked as a special need therapist if any one knows loo ken for a private party please email me at grossm1304@yahoo.com

Anna

I am wishing to adopt someday (I'm a teenager right now) because I feel that there are so many children out there who need a family and the world is already overpopulated. I know I can love an adopted baby as much as I would a biological baby.

I would like to either adopt from this country or Vietnam.

I would prefer a semi-open adoption. I'm not sure if I could handle a mental disorder, but maybe a small physical one.

Jason M

I plan on adopting at 2 kids because it's something I've always wanted to do. I don't have the money to adopt from the USA since you need like $10,000+ to adopt here in this stupid country so I'll be adopting from the Middle East. I wouldn't trust myself with a special needs child.

a s

hey ur boy looks cute in the tiger skin. i wish i have one of those :)

Chad M

hell no. Dont adopt because later down the road they will develop problems since your not their real parents.

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