Anyone raised by parents of a different race out there?

Gershom

do a google blog search for "TRA adoptees"

I am one as well. It was hard.

Linda B

Peaness, said a mouthfull and I agree .

skatergurljubulee

I wasn't raised by a parent of a different race, but I'm in an interracial marriage and we have a son and are planning to adopt a Vietnamese child. I'm sure you're mother is a wonderful person, and I'm sure she will make a fantastic grandmother. But, in this she's wrong. Before my husband married me, he told his aunt that we were getting married. She tried to say that it was in the bible that we couldn't. (Just a quick FYI, in the bible, Abraham married an Ethiopian woman and when his sister, the Prophet said that it was ungodly, GOD struck her with leprosy until she recanted. That's how God feels about that...) But when she met me (she was never mean to me or anything), she had a change of heart and now she's one of my biggest supporters (well, no one in his family had a problem but her, and she was a blip on the screen). I just think your mother is a little ignorant on the topic. I can promise you, once you bring that baby home, she'll forget about everything she said or did. Grand parents love grand babies! She'll just need to get used to the idea. Keep in mind that this is your life, and your family. Just make sure you thoroughly research to make sure you're prepared to be a parent to a child of a different race. If you and your husband are confident that you can handle the challenge, then by all means go for it!
I hope this helps,
Skatergurljubulee

Petra

My aunt (white) and uncle (black) adopted from China. It was hard on my cousin and but my aunt and uncle put a lot of time and effort into helping her identify with her Asian heritage, including language lessons, cooking and 2 trips back to China with her. I imagine had they no put so much effort into helping her come to terms with her abandonment and embracing her true self, it would have been very very hard on her.

Rose

I wouldn't worry too much about it. One of my neighbors is a girl that I grew up with. She is Korean and her parents are both some kind of Caucasian. She is very in touch with her Korean roots, and I dont think she ever feels out of place. Adoption can be a rewarding experience, and I dont think it should matter what race the child is. The point is that you are giving them the opportunity for a better life than the one they were born in to.

Good for you to not care. It's YOUR decision, not your mothers. Good luck and congratulations!

Obama eat my nuts!

I did not adopt but my two kids are Black/Portuguese and my kids have NEVER been confused...they are happy with themselves since that is what I instilled in them. My cousine him and his partner adopted a little boy from a drug addic mother and this little boy is the happiest well adjusted little guy. Color or ethnicity makes no diffrence remember Jesus said he accepts all that accept him from any nation, so don't let your mom discourage you from doing the right thing and adopting a baby of ethnicity.

Marie C

My children are transracially adopted....they are Asian, and I am Caucasian. They like the fact that there are THREE of them, and only ONE of me. I'm the minority in our house.

It's fine to adopt children of another race or ethnicity, but it is extremely important to respect and embrace their culture. Always speak of their heritage with reverence....no ethnic jokes, ever (about anyone else's race or nationality, either)! Learn to cook dishes from their country or culture. Display ethnic artwork or design in your home. Celebrate their holidays along with your own. And above all, be sure to include positive role models in their lives who are of the same ethnicity, race or culture.

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