Are adoption agencies good?

yeahright

I stand by our agency as well--but there is a lot of crap out there...and there was a lot of stuff out there that really really bothered me. So yes, I think mine was ethical, but no I don't think most are. They screened us, and screened us well. They spent a HUGE amount of time with us making sure we were right, had the right view points, and NO question, there was a caring and an advocacy that I felt was done on behalf of the baby...and the birth mother--it was done the right way and they were good people. On the calls with the mothers I was on, they made sure to advocate and several times talk about the options of keeping their child and the resources they had access to.

The idea of being an ethical agency might be in question for some agencies--but I am completely 100% sure of ours--and NOONE would be able to convince me--or the birthmother (still in close touch with her) otherwise. They saw their role as joining two families together-not seperation.

Right or wrong--I think some of us look at agencies to fill the role that foster care does but in a more straight forward easier to use way. I looked hard at the foster care program in our state--and I tried--it was too hard to maneuver through and very confusing. So confusing, I couldn't stay with it and it made me more sad that there were kids caught up in it. The people I did talk to were burned out and couldn't have cared less. I couldn't get phone calls returned, 1/2 the numbers were VM to nowhere, website links didn't work, and after 6 months of stops and starts, being passed from person to person--I gave up. I did email the gov of our state with documentation of our experience in trying.

And I found an agency I felt was 100% ethical.

We did pass on several--in fact, there was only 1 after screening dozens of them--and I felt like I needed a shower with most because I didn't think they were ethical. Who says thing like I guarantee you a white child (I wasn't looking for one)? I guarantee you she won't change her mind (???--personally, I'd be happy if someone chose to parent!!). Or things like "take advantage of the tough econ times--more people are broke so they are giving up their children." Nope, nothing I could live with.

Gaia Raain II

In short, no. Adoption agencies are there to make money by selling children to those who want them. It's a racket, and they're making bank off of selling human flesh.

If you are interested in looking out for a child's best interests, call your local Department of Human Services and adopt a foster child. They are the ones who need homes.

kateiskate

Well it's best to go through the foster care system and adopt that way.

Independ"ant"

They have the Paps "money" at heart. Its business and all else is just marketing to rake it in.

monkeykitty83

Agencies are a business, and at the end of the day, they have to turn a profit. (Even if they're registered non-profits, they have expenses and salaries to cover.) They have a vested interest-- even if it's not overt or deliberate-- in getting the babies into adoptive homes, even if their biological moms and dads could parent. For that reason, I wouldn't be comfortable using one.

Personally, I think it's better to go through your state's foster care system to adopt. While that system isn't perfect either, those children are actually waiting in need of homes.

Sly

Agencies base their business on the sale of human flesh, infant adoption. That is, by its very nature, an unethical practice. How can you create an ethical business when it is predicated on an unethical practice? How can some agencies be good when the practice itself is flawed?

To say that there are some agencies that are good and ethical is akin to what some people said before the banishment of slavery...that not all the skin traders were bad...some only sold to ethical and kind people. They didn't take into account that the practice itself was what was corrupt, and when ethical, good people take part in a corrupt practice they become corrupt themselves.

Infant adoption in America is the new Skin Trade. It is the buying and selling of human flesh for profit.

BLW_KAM

I have to stand by the agency we went through. Although I was not privy to what was said to expectant parents, they did a good (aka: lengthy) job of educating, screening, angering, and weeding out PAPs who weren't good candidates for open adoptions

I think at their heart is a firm belief that open adoptions are in the best interest of the child. I don't think it was just a spin line. I believe the social workers we met truly believed what they were saying.

Did they always have the child's best interest at heart? Again, I'm not sure because I don't know how they counseled expectant parents. But did they have our best interest at heart because we could afford the fees? Nope. They put us through Hades until they decided we might be OK after all.

Nicole

I have to say, maybe.... It seems as though some agencies are just in it for the money. They're in the business of selling babies at the highest price. However not ALL agencies are bad. I truly believe there are still some out there that are legit, and honest; that are doing this to help families and children.
You need to do your research, I mean REALLY do some research on these agencies to be sure. Look at their history, their placements, charges/fees, etc. If they offer parenting classes/training I would be more likely to think they are in it to help people. Why would they offer such classes otherwise? It takes money for them to do this, so that shows they have some good in them.

grapesgum

No - adoption agencies are businesses that want to make money. Yes - they will put you through classes - if you pay for them. Their number one priority, like any business, is to make money. So, no, they do not have the child's best interest are heart. They only care about the bottom line.

kaitlyn[eastcoast]

Im adopted, and I the adoptiona agency my parents got me from was Parsons.

My parents met a lot of other families who adopted from there, and theyre all good friends.

The agency I went through always has the childs best interest in heart.

Of course, sometimes I hate being adopted, but thats not the agencies fault, or my parents, its just my feelings and opinions.

Just be sure that they are a reliable agency.

Christy SD Nurse

There are some good agencies and some bad, just like everything else.

Jill_01

I'm against agency adoptions period! They are baby selling a$$holes.
They don't care about birthmoms. They care about how much they can make off of a human being. It's pathetic and horrible.

Private adoptions is where it's at. Find a family that you get to know and trust. Make your own decisions.

crazychickizback

They ARE good. They recognize that some children need homes and some homes need children so they do their best to put the two together. So many couples would be childless without them and kids wouldn't get families either. They DO charge wayyyyyy too much, so I guess they aren't ALL good. If I adopted I was going to try for a private closed infant adoption through a lawyer instead, but that's just me

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