Are most adoptees pro-life or pro-choice?

just for fun

like you, the baby belongs to God first.

PhilM

Hi, AdoreHim!

I notice you still have me blocked... I guess you're still afraid of what I might say, eh?

Despite my good experience as an adoptee (which I notice you've taken it upon yourself to say I didn't have... so it's okay for you to tell me that I had a bad experience, but we can't tell you you're in denial? do I have that right?) Despite that good experience, I don't think it's my place to tell a woman what to do with her body, you know?

I can imagine what it's like to be pro-life. But I am pro-choice. Maybe if you could imagine how other people think or feel a little, you'd actually have a sympathetic bone in your body, eh?

Anyway... cheers! I'm sorry that you're so afraid of my words that you have to block me...

(And for those wondering, no, this isn't a second account... This is my main account...)

Laurel J

Pro-choice because nobody can make a woman's reproductive decisions better than she can.

cantstopLinnyG

Oh. My God. You wrote, "...but the baby is not apart of the woman- she/he has a separate heart beat, separate blood supply , separate DNA. Need I go on!" No. You shouldn't. You obviously have no clue about pregnancy or DNA. Spoken like a woman who cannot have a child of her own.

I am pro-choice for several reasons. The most important reason has NOTHING to do with the fact that I am adopted. It is because The United States Supreme Court has afforded me this right.

I am pro-choice for another reason. BECAUSE I am adopted. I HAD an abortion BECAUSE I was adopted. It is NOT the responsibility for fertile woman to have children to replace the ones barren women cannot have. Adoption does not guarantee a "better life", only a different one. In many cases, it's much worse.

I mean, seriously...how many times are religious fanatics going to keep bringing up the abortion debate with adoption? WHY do you do this? Oh wait, I know- because if you can get your "movement" to outlaw abortion, you think there will be more fresh newborns for you! It doesn't work that way. Most women who have abortions would not ever even consider adoption. The Anti-Choice Zealots have fought long and hard to keep adoption records sealed. Their logic, and yours, is seriously flawed.

Just look how wrong the anti-choice movement was regarding original birth certificates!! They thought the abortion rate would go up in states who were considering unrestricted OBC .The states who actually now reversed their open records access laws have seen a dramatic DECREASE in abortions. Again, the anti-choice folks were wrong. Dead wrong. Pun intended.

You're not interested in anyone's opinion if it is different than yours. I will never sport a bumper sticker that says, "It's a child, not a choice." Because it IS a choice. And it has NOTHING to do with giving another woman whose body doesn't work my ripe fetus.

Rowan

I am very adamantly pro choice. I think abortion should always be legal. Why? Because as a legal medical practice, it is regulated and must go by certain health standards. That way, it's done in a sterile environment, and if something is done incorrectly, at least the woman wont be too scared to go and get medical attention.

If it is made illegal, women will resort to the practices of the past, such as back alley doctors who have to hide, and wont bother with sterilizing things. Also, if they are injured internally, the women will be toon scared of the legal repercussions to seek medical help.

You see where i'm going? It's a nessasary evil. And i'm a firm believer in womens rights. I'd rather not see us take a few steps back.

ETA: That's great that you are pro life, but others here are not. Would you rather we go back to the way it was in the 40s and all, before Roe VS. Wade. YES it IS about womens rights.

I myself would never get an abortion, but i will never support any attempt at making abortion illegal.

Isabel A

Pro-choice.

JennaBear

Abortion and adoption are two separate issues...one is the decision to carry a fetus to term or not, and the other, is to parent or relinquish the child.

What I don't understand is your premise, that because my n-mom chose to relinquish me, that that would make me feel that should be the best option for everyone.

I am pro-choice, pro-parenting, and adopted.

Anha S

pro choice. I feel that every woman out there deserves to govern her own body and what happens within it. I fully believe that abortion should be legal, and available to those who want/need it.

Why? Because I don't think anyone else needs to have a say in what someone else does with their own body. If I don't want to carry a pregnancy to term for my own reasons, I shouldn't be forced to. Nor should any other woman out there.

Elizabeth

I am pro-abortion. I think abandonment/adoption should be illegal.

I have zero tolerance for anti-choicers, they can all go to Hell.

Esoteric

I was adopted years ago. I'm not going to tell someone else what to do with her body. I'm pro-choice. I don't really understand how anyone could believe they know what is right for someone else.

I guess that's just me. Life is just more complicated than it first appears. Black and white is just for the movies. Or for racism. Not for the real world.

Possum

Pro-choice.

Possibly even leaning more towards pro-abortion.

No child should be abandoned to adoption.

Living the life of adoption is a life sentence of pain - all because you're conceived and born at an inconvenient time.

DevonChaos

I am pro-choice. The decision to be pregnant or to end the pregnancy is a big one, and if someone is informed, whatever they decide is fine with me.

I could have been aborted. I wouldn't be around, my kids wouldn't have been born, I wouldn't have touched anyone else's life. No one would be any the wiser. I really don't think it matters that much. This isn't a "low self-esteem" thing. Its a realistic thing. I could have been aborted. I could have never been conceived. There are a lot of "what ifs".

I think that a woman (and the man who contributed to the pregnancy, if he chooses to participate) have the right to decide every step of the way. If they no longer want to be pregnant, abort. Aw, are there a bunch of people who can't have babies waiting for one of their own? Too bad. My ovaries aren't there for anyone but me. Selfish? Damn right.

Heather B

Pro-choice.

Adoption aborted my mother.

Many 'birthmothers' abort subsequent pregnancies because of the pain of adoption.

Many Adoptees abort pregnancies because of the pain of adoption.

Your Mom had no 'choice' at all

Gaia Raain II

You were born before abortion was a choice. You do know that, right? Your mother never MADE a choice. She HAD no choice.

kitta

For many years, I have worked with search/support groups which help reunite family members who have been separated by adoption.

I have received many phone calls from people who would say:

1.

" I am pro-life...and I cannot understand how anyone who was adopted could ever be anything but pro-life. My life was saved."

2.

Then, the phone would ring again, and the next caller would say:" I am pro-choice. My mother was pregnant and she had no choices. I cannot understand how anyone could be anything but pro-choice."

This has gone on and on for years and years.

Proud Mama

Pro choice...I think everybody should have there own decisions & live with it...it's no body's business... I don't agree personally with abortion but I don't think I or anybody else should be making that decision for someone elses life!!

Carol c

I am pro-choice - every woman has the right to choice regarding her body.

With that said, I might ask if the general population is pro-life or pro-choice? Of course not - there are people who feel strongly one way or the other and most are somewhere in between.
Adoptees I would think, would be the same.

Problem Child

My mother did not have a choice..Instead she was forced to carry me and give me up for adoption when she wanted to keep me very badly.

I have lived a life full of depression and pain over having been abandoned. She has lived with the pain of having given her ONLY child away to strangers.

I am pro-choice. I am pro allowing women who do not want a baby to choose not to...and I am also pro helping mothers who want to keep their babies to keep them. Neither of those things have anything to do with adoption.

Mei-Ling

My mother never planned on aborting me to begin with.

kateiskate

I'm a woman, an adoptee, and pro choice.

I am also baffled at why a lot of "pro life" people claim to be for life when the life is of an embryo but against saving the lives of suffering ALIVE human beings by utilizing stem cell research. These "pro life" individuals are also usually supporters of the death penalty, something I do not believe in personally.

I support a woman's right to choose because I don't believe in allowing one section of religious faith to dictate the medical treatment of all women. What if your religous faith dictated that I should be burned at the stake if I wore a short skirt? Should that be made into law?

Your religious faith should not be allowed to dictate legislation or medical practices just as mine should not. That is unconstitutional and unethical.

monkeykitty83

Of my friends who are adoptees, the pro-choice/pro-life breakdown is about the same percentage as the general population. Adoption clearly isn't the deciding factor.

All of us here typing were not aborted. That isn't unique to adoptees.

SkYkIsSeR

I myself was not adopted but I have adopted 3 kids and have many adopted relatives. I asked my sister who was adopted by my parents when she was 8 and who is also pro-choice. These are her words:

Don't judge until you've been taken away from everything and everyone you've ever loved. I remember a morning when I was 5, my sister was 3 and my brother was 10 and our birth parents came upstairs to our room (yes the 3 of us shared a room) and told us to get dressed, we were going to Disney Land. Two hours later we were sitting in a lobby with old half broken chairs and decade old magazines. Us kids waited in that lobby for 3 hours while our parents were in a back room. I didn't know this until much later but our parent's had decided to give us up for adoption. I can't tell you why exactly but I have a feeling they would've rather supported their drug habits rather then support us.

I spent three years bouncing from foster home to foster home and nearly being adopted twice. Instead my almost adoptive parents found another someone a little better then me. During that three years my brother was molested and abused for 3 months before someone finally found out. He became an angry teenager and then an angry adult. 20 years later he is sitting in prison, waiting for the day he gets out.

My sister had better luck thank god and was adopted within the first year. A few years ago we reconnected and now are the best of friends!

So what does this have to do with me being pro-choice? If a woman is not able to care for her child, then she should have the right to choose. What if she gave that baby up for adoption and the same thing happened to it that happened to my brother? It's not a guarantee but there is a 50-50 chance. And I don't like those odds. I'm not bashing anyone, don't get me wrong!!

Mommy of 1 baby and 2 puppies!

My husband is adopted and he is pro-life, but our friends, who are dating each other and are both adopted are both pro-choice!! Not only are they pro-choice, they have said that they would resort to abortion themselves! I found that strange!

HappyMomAnna

I can't be sure?

The adoptees I know:

1--My ex husband picketed the abortion clinics during the 80's and quit a job as a tradesman because he would not work at an abortion clinic he also filed suit to not have his union dues used to support abortion politics--so I think it's safe to say he is Pro-life.

2--His sister also adopted has chosen to be hands on helping her own daughter as a single mother the choice of abortion was never even considered and she preferred to help rather then encourage her daughter to place her grandson for adoption... I think that looks Pro-life to me.

3--My former brother in law an adoptee divorced his first wife when he learned she aborted their unborn baby--I think he might be Pro-Life.

4--My cousin an adoptee was told during her third pregnancy the baby had problems and that giving birth was risky to her own health and that of the babies--she had the baby he is fine... I think she might be Pro-Life.

5--My daughter adopted at the age of five was involved in an Upsetting School project a year ago:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar2TNR0CS_qKbIqwhlqeE37ty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080325152217AAkehKI

and is horrified at the idea anyone would kill a baby--she came to her feelings on her own and she made the connection of the difference between adoption and abortion after seeing a bumper sticker with a dirty diaper that said, "Diapers are disposable Baby's are Not" and asked me about it.

Abortion is the Choice to give life
Adoption is the choice or ability to Parent

and for many there is little or no connection between. However, my personal observation is that the adoptees I know would prefer adoption over abortion -- even if that feeling is not well represented on these kinds of public boards.

EB588

I'm not sure what most people's opinions are. I know my husband's adopted cousin had an abortion. She was married, extremely well off financially, had two other children and then had another right after the abortion.

My cousin who was an evil child begged his girlfriend to choose adoption over abortion which she did.

Randy B

I'm pro-choice. As long as that choice is life.

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