Are young mothers that gave infants up for adoption bad people?

Heather B

No, not at all. Misguided perhaps, but not bad.

Rowan

no they are not bad people.

Deans

they are not bad people. All people are imperfect. Most people want to do what's best. Her decision may or may not be the right one. But if she is trying to do what's right, she's not bad.

Aphelia *#1 due 8/30/2009*

No, i dont believe they are bad people.. I believe they are people who had to make a painful decision but did what they thought was right for the baby. To have a family member adopt i think would be optimal, that way the baby is connected to it's blood family.. I had a situation like that with my cousin and we dont see the baby often but we still get to see her instead of never seeing her again or having any sort of contact whatsoever.

grenadacherokee

If someone is too young to raise a child, but is at least grown up enough to admit it, they are a hell of a lot better "people" than those too stupid to realize that their selfishness will cause their children suffering. I wish I had been mature enough to do the right thing by my oldest, but I wasn't. She's grown and fine now, but she would've had a much better life with someone else, and a lot less grief. Giving your child to a family member ensures that you know how the child is, and can see to it the child is cared for and loved. (Even better)

HappyMomAnna

No--I don't believe there are "Bad People" I believe there are people who might make bad choices.

As far as the choice to allow someone else to parent a child -- I think you will get a variety of answers here.

It's always best for the child to be raised by the parents... or remain with biological family if possible.

What matters is the safety of the baby--and if a person is able to love and care for him or her.

There is a lifetime of implications about this decisions for the mother, child and future generations.

What does make a mother a bad person would be to harm, abuse or neglect her child...

All_Smiles

No because it already shows the mother cared about her child if she chose to carry the baby full term. And if she thought she wouldn't be able to care or be responsible for the child, then I don't think it makes her a bad person especially a family member because that way she can still have some sort of communication with her child.

mom to be

No it does not make them a bad person.

monkeykitty83

No, definitely not. They may or may not have made good choices in their own situations, but I don't think anybody places a child for adoption to try to make the child's life unhappy. I think most mothers who place voluntarily believe they're doing the best thing for their child... even though that often isn't true. So no, I don't think giving a child up for adoption automatically makes someone a bad person.

(Someone in ANY group of people could potentially be unkind or cruel, but the sheer fact a woman gave a child for adoption is unrelated, not a cause or indication of meanness.)

Evelyn

Absolutely not!! In fact they should be commended for making the right choice for their child.
It is such a personal choice and only the mother will know what's right, but adoption can be an excellent choice, and realizing that you may not be prepared to raise a child shows a maturity and a sense of responsibility that i wish more people had!

Ethel

No they are not bad people, they simply recognize their inability or lack of desire to parent right at that age, that's all. Actually, I think it's makes them a great person since there is no way I'd let any offspring of mine be adopted by anyone.

Been there Done that

No that does not make them a bad person. A bad decision maker, an irresponsible person YES, but not a bad person. Teen pregnancy is completely avoidable. I think it is very courageous for a mother to give up her child so it can have a better life.

I do not think it would work if they gave it to a family member. I just had to give my dog away to my grandparents and it is killing me inside. I miss him so much and he is a dog. Imagine how you would feel for an actual person.

yeahright

No, not back peeps at all..just ones with a good sense of their reality.

shirleyjean89

Giving up a child for adoption does not make you a bad person. In my opinion giving a child up for adoption makes a person stronger because they are giving up the most precious thing in the world. Giving a child a better life is a selfless and courageous act.

ohbaby

no.if they have no means of providing and caring for the child then it is best for the child to be adopted.it takes a really good person to give up the love of thier life to someone else if they cannot have one of thier own

Green<3

I dont think it makes them a bad person, i think keeping the baby while knowing the parent has an unfit environment to raise it in may result in them having some bad qualities, and i believe this at any age, not just teens. Dont get me wrong, im not so favorable on teen pregnancy but just because someone is an adult, doesnt mean they are fit parents. Giving a baby to a family that will love and support it financially and emotionally is the key element. Giving a baby to a family member doesnt make it a better decision than giving it to adoptive parents. Getting pregnant young doesnt make anyone a bad person, it just means they misjudged a situation. It is how they handle the situation after that makes the person good, whether it is finding a way to raise your own child or giving another family who cannot concieve a gift, it is all in how you handle it.

Penny A (Vanessa)

That depends on when you ask. Before the baby is born people sing your praises for being so 'selfless, brave and giving the baby to someone else who can bring him/her up properly'.

But as soon as the papers are signed it turns in to 'how could you? It's your own flesh and blood! I could never do that'.

So I guess it's a bit of both - hero before the birth, and villain afterward.

desireeschoreck

No I don't think adoption is a bad thing, the best thing the mother did for the child was give them a chance at life. Adoption is a better choice than abortion. I would rather see babies being adopted than killed! It is actually a very unselfish thing to do, Abortion would be the selfish route! There are so many loving couples who can't have children, that will raise these babies, in a safe, loving home!

Sassy Stasia

Well first of all, If the person maturly decides to give the baby up so that he/she can have a better life, there is nothing wrong with that. Often young mothers try to hide the fact that they have no idea what they are doing and end up damaging the child mentally. That being said, I for one could Never give up my children. I was only 17 when I became pregnant with my first son, and I did some research, learned what I needed to know about a childs welfare (even though you never know everything you need to know) and did the very best I could do to make sure my son had a fulfilling life. Even when I was down in the dumps broke I made sure I could feed and clothe my child. A person should always consider that these are consequences that come with having a baby. It does not make the person worse OR better if they have given the child to a family member. I think in SOME cases it might even be better for that child because there is a relative bond that they might not have with a someone else. My grandmother adopted 3 of her grandchildren and they still had very involving lives with their parents. Personally, I think adoption is better than abortion so either way its better for the child.

Vanessa P

No they are my hero's

34 weeks with Evan Alexanderâ™¥

Adoption is one thing...pawning your baby off on a family member is just lazy.

~Waiting for a little #1~

I think anyone who gives up a child becuase that's the best reason is a very BRAVE And admirable.
It's not easy to give up your own flesh and blood, and I imagine it's heart wrenching. But if you can't provide a decent life, then that's the best thing. I have lots of family members who have adopted and to see how happy it makes them is wonderful.

I am the Walrus

No, i think more power to those mothers, because they had the guts and the determination to bring an innocent life into the world. Despite all adversaries!

These women, whether young or old, deserve respect, because they saved a child from being murdered.

You're not a bad mother, you passed on your child to someone that will give him an exemplary, amazing life.

Thank you to all the women that choose life (adoption) vs abortion!!

Well done!

snowwillow20

Baby's need to stay with their mothers.

edit..ok, my feelings are hurt now.

myst1998

No, not bad.. naive, ignorant, misguided, uneducated and in many cases coerced, not bad. That title would belong to the demand seeking to separate mother and child from each other in the first place.

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