As a father-to-be, my partner is trying to give the baby up for adoption. What can I do to keep my child?

grapesgum

No, legally she cannot give your child away without your consent and you and your family does have the right to raise your child.

However, there a lots of slimy adoption agencies and and adoption lawyers who try to get around the law. Even though you are in GA, she may be working with an agency in another state. It is also possible that she is lying about the paternity of the child to deny you your parental rights.

Get an attorney. Also, you must document that you are supporting her pregnancy in some way. Are you helping with medical care? Will you help support her financially if and when she is unable to work? In many states your rights can be terminated unless you have written documentation that you supported the pregnancy. Lawyers know this and will use it against you.

Good luck.

TTFN10000

First Off You Need To Retain An Attorney to get a juntion to stop any kind of legal or private adoptions etc.

In order for your partner to give the baby up for adoption she will need your signature to terminate your parental rights with no signature she can not go thorugh with any kind of legal adoption in any state. If she does try to place the baby up for adoption don't worry it will fall thorugh since you are the father and you are not placing the baby up for adoption.

Your attorney then will set up a date and time for you to go before a judge for a hearing you will have to show you can Financially & Mentally support this child also they will do a DNA test to prove you are the childs father and if you show all this you can get custody of the baby.

Good Luck And Please retain an attorney ASAP.

gmw2

first let me say good choice on wanting to keep your child, you have the right to keep the child but you need to contact a lawyer and file for custody now, you may have to prove that you are the father, because your partner may just "forget who all she was with" and leave the fathers name off the birth certificate to try and leave you out of the loop on it. her choice may have something to do with money as private agencies sometimes arrange for a couple to help the birthmom to be through the pregnancy. now get off the web and go get yourself a lawyer

Misliss

You have rights, contact that agency & let them know you are not willing to sign those rights away. If you can prove paternity, she can not give your baby away. Good Luck!

rachael

it took two to make the baby i would think it would take two to give it up. if you are still around and willing that baby is just as much yours as it is hers. she may carry it, but you helped create it.
i dont understand why she would care. if you take the baby and raise it, she can sign off rights. then she will not be a part of the babies life anyway. but you do realize if she feels this way and you do take the baby more than likely your relationship will be over. im sure you already thouht of that, but just in case.

it can be done without the father, has been time and time again. but that is usually in a situation where he is absent. not there waiting and wanting the baby.
get a lawyer, you dont want this to move forward without you even knowing. she is capable of keeping secrets, you recently found out about the agency, she has been considering this for a while i bet.

fight like hell my man.
good luck

tonalc1

See if your state has a putative father's registry. You do have some rights here; there are several court cases stating that *both* parents must sign consent to adopt.

More info:

http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/biological-fathers-rights-in-adoption.html

k.crosher@btinternet.com

no she cant fathers right are now in the law book are you together if so this could make things very hard as she dont wont baby and you do SEC legal advice ask her why she dont wont it tell her you are willing to bring baby up with help from your family if this dont change her mind take her to court it could get messy but you have the right YOU WILL WIN

opedial

Get a lawyer and go to court.

ellejay2006

Nope...you do have rights and she cannot give your baby up for adoption. You will just gain full custoday. What a spineless thing for her to do behind your back!

tim_mcgraw_22_7

i would speak up to a lawyer or court system soon.... if she tells them she is a single mother and she doesnt know who the father is then she can give that baby up for adoption without your consent... if they know that you are willing to take care of the child and prove that it is indeed yours then no she cannot give it up for adoption without your permission.... i would hurry before she has that baby!!! good luck to you!!!

~Jenny~

get a lawyer..and as everyone says..contact the agency...tell them you want to keep the child...make sure you have all your i's dotted and your t's crossed...starting ASAP...so many adoption agencies don't follow the laws of adoption..and so many fathers lose out on the opportunity to their child...which isn't fair for the child or a parent who wants to raise their child..I'm not sure..but maybe you can contact your local social services...maybe they can get involved and help you with dealing with the agency...before someone gets sneaky and you lose....maybe others can let you know if social service is a good idea or not...because I'm not to sure as I said...good luck

kimmy â™¥ 's you

u should take your babyaway

Sophie

I would think and hope that you have the right to parent your child. I'd get a lawyer right away and find out how to get started on your case. Best of wishes, Kristy

mom of many

you have every right to keep your child. Get a lawyer and or contact the agency if you know which one she is going thru.

Starlight

If you are not married to the mother of the child, you are going to have to sue for custody of the child and prove that you are the biological father. You should contact an attorney right away who can get an injunction against the mother from putting the child up for adoption until it is all worked out. The law favors biological parents, so you would probably win unless there is a reason to believe you as unfit.

PS- The mother can still sign her rights away, so don't expect child support from the biological mom.

I think you need to talk to a lawyer about this.... sorry i live in canada so im not much help.

You then are in titled to Custody of the child!! I would get a lawyer...to help you out because each state is different as far as legality is concerned.

Naughty Nina88

Let the agency and the mom know that you are willing to take care of your baby since she isnt at the point where she'd want to. I think that the agency would be very happy with you stepping up now then waiting because that would be much harder closer and after the adoption finalizes and i'm sure you dont want to traumatize/ confuse your child!

Grape~n~Piggles

Congrats on being a good guy and wanting to keep your baby. I wish you the best.

Livvie

you need to give up your rights before she can do anything but do something to claim the baby soon and talk to a lawyer

Kym M

She cannot do that. It is your child also so you have just as many rights as her. I would seek legal aid help to stop this before she makes a terrible mistake which will end up costing you. Good luck and god bless. :)

Husky LOver

you do have rights , tell the police

Bizzi

You as a male have no rights. Not in family court, Not as a parent. If you read threw yahoo's Q/A you will see the attitudes most people have to males and the kinda rights they think they should have with heir children. most adoption are done with out the fathers consent. Eather from not being involved or being excluded, take your pick. But as a male their is little you can do.. that child is worth alot of money in adoption.

Best you can do is get a shark for a lawyer and hope to win..

angelbaby_1417

you have rights as long as its yours u can have it
when she gives birth be there they will have u sign a form
dont sign the form cuz then u giving up ur rights of being the father and will go to adoption

Santa's Lil' Helper

Our daughter's birthfather wanted to be a parent too.....then he disappeared for 4 1/2 years. It was VERY hard for my daughter while we waited for the private investigator to track him down. He did consent to the adoption last year.
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I think your intentions are noble. But where have you been for the pregnancy? You just found our recently she is planning a private adoption? Are you still together? Have you helped to support her emotionally and finacially during this pregnancy.
If you have not been there for her during this time she may have serious doubts you will be here when the baby is born and that could explain why she wants to place the baby for adoption. Please talk to her.

You can not play video games like Halo and World of Warcraft with a newborn.....your life as it is now will cease to exist. But a new wonderful one will be born. Being a parent is sacrafice. That baby will come before everything. I am not saying you can't do it.....you may turn out to the most amazing father....and I hope you do. But unless you can give this baby 110%. Then you should consider adoption. And that does not mean money.....you do not have to spoil your child with gifts to win their affection....they just want YOU. They just want mom and dad to listen to them....laugh at their jokes.....clap when they learn to make a bubble with chewing gum. They want the gift of YOU!

I am not trying to knock you down....I am trying to stress that if you intend on being a parent then don't lose interest and just disappear....it's not fair to your child. Things may be tough at first BUT they do get better. And rememeber cute little babies grow up some day.....they become funny three year olds....bossy six year olds.....independent eight year olds....angry, happy, crying, loveable teenagers (sometimes all in one day).

I hope you talk to your partner.

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