At what age is an adoption likely to be most successful .?

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Studies have shown that newborn babies go into a period of grief when they lose the only person they have ever known, their biological mother. There is a lot of information out there to learn about the work that adoptive parents have to do in order to help their child develop a good attachment to their new family. Babies are not the blank slates that people think they are.

Successful adoptions happen when the adoptive parents have fully explored why they have chosen to adopt, have done the research to prepare themselves for the challenges, and are open to ongoing research to help them through every stage of parenting an adoptee. It's not about the age of the child. It's about the maturity of the parents.

Shayna W

I just wanted to tell you really there is no bad age. I was adopted at the age of 15. Im now 21 an couldn't be happier im very close to my Adoptive parents, Please don't let anyone tell you that older kids cannot bond because its not true an there are so many kids older that don't have families because people are more interested in infants. I hope this helped Oh an my parents went an adopted 2 more children after me at the age of 8 an the other was 13 so its not all lossed hope!

saz

Any age is good really , theres good things and bad things about all adoption ages i think

kpfellow

How long is a piece of string?
There are far too many variables to give a definitive answer. However ,vital to a good outcome are honesty and openness, whether the child is an infant or older. A willingness to give unconditional love is also a prerequisite. Believe me, this will be returned many fold.
It doesn't end there either . My grandson is the light of my life and he is very much his Granda's boy !

BPD Wife

I believe it is dependent on the child and the family. Here in the US, we don't have Orphanages anymore so I'm not sure that I fully understand your question. However, I know many children who have been adopted and their ages have ranged from infant, to toddler, to even young teenagers. Everyone adapted very well to their new families and adoptive parents.

The age definitely ranges from child to child. However as a generalization I think that the child should be adopted from age 5-7. First they will know that you are not their biological parents, thus you will avoid the conversation and problems that would arise if you adopt them from birth and give them misconceptions that you are their biological parents. Secondly, the child's feelings would be easy to change as we can observe in younger children that most appreciate the kindness and are rather open to strangers. Thirdly, in preschools they will bond with younger children whom at that age just want to have fun and do not care whether their playmates are adopted or not. And then it is up to the foster parents to provide a caring and loving home to the young child who will definitely grow up to appreciate the love and care he/she has been showered with and the efforts that the foster parents have put through.

Kayla G

adoption can be successful at any point

I was adopted at birth
my friend morgan was adopted when she was 9
I guess it all depends on the child
if they get into trouble alot then it will be hard
but if you get a child that really wants a family and they truly love you then no matter what the age adoption will be the answer !

real

as early as possible

sm02152001

In any case adopting is a great idea, but wither what age you adopt at there could be problems. Kids grow up and want to find their biological parents, medical history etc. As far as bonding the younger would probably be easiest.

The younger the child is, the better. Once the chilkd starts to recognize people, it becomes more difficult to get him/her to bond with someone new. Difficult, but not impossible. It also depends upon the way the child is treated (whether he/she has already "shut down" and is not relying upon others for needs).

zachman200701

i think when young so they think that they are you bioloigal parents

Legends

Very young, naturally. When they are older they will only remember you as their parents since they were born.

RoB

do you want to adopt me

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