CONSIDERING ADOPTION IN THE LAST FEW WEEKS OF MY PREGNANCY?

Possum

Adoption is a long term solution to an often short term problem.
Make sure you read this - as adoption is NOT all rainbow and sunshine for the adoptee - they want their mother and family they were born to -
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf

And here's some links for help to keep your baby -
http://www.singlepregnancy.com/
http://origins-usa.org/Default.aspx?pageId=51995
http://www.keepyourbaby.com/
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/
http://familypreservation.blogspot.com/

I wish you well. Fight for this child - he/she wants you to.

tish

what financial assistance ends after pregnancy???

if you are experiencing financial hardships, i'd march right down to the local social service office and apply for TANF. you'll get medical care, food stamps and maybe WIC for you and your children.

don't allow temp. financial hardships to force you to give up your child.

good luck on your remamining pregnancy and new baby

ETA: please read arissa's answer...very CAREFULLY. it was "her" baby that was kept by the "birthmother", it was "she" who was so hurt... and it was "her heart" that was broken. "she" has tons of baby crap that she bought (btw, buying baby stuff for a child that's not yours makes as much sense as buying a wedding dress without a proposal..or fiance) and...YOU should "think before you act."

as you see, your issues are irrelevant. the only thing you are good for (in the minds of some like arissa) is your ability to bred, ignore your maternal urge to parent the child that YOU CONCIEVED, GESTATED AND BIRTHED, happily hand over your kid, and disappear into oblivion.

welcome to adoption. the land of greed, entitlement and profit fueled by the untimely pregnancies of young, fertile women.

Lori A

You would be basically giving your unborn daughter to someone regardless of any medical assistance before hand. Are you looking for someone to pay your past expenses in order to adopt? This might be possible through a lawyer. You are looking at a private adoption, and may not get much in the way of visitation if you were looking for that. It's not enforcable anyway.

If your intentions were to keep this child I would do everything possible to stay on that track. There are programs available, there are ways to keep you together until your temporary situation turns around.

Being a surrendering mother is something I wish on no one. It is years of heart ache and pain. If you live in the States it is very possible that your financial situation will turn around. I seem differences in our economy already.

Love

where do you live? if you are low income, they offer wic, food stamps, housing assistance, purchase of care/daycar vouchers..there is help, but if you insist on adoption, call social services

tasmin28

money is not everything. your daughter will hate you if she finds out mum gave her away for financial reasons. i understand you are considering her life and this isnt for selfish reasonsd. i cant help more as i am inthe UK and we have financial support for parents i dont know how that works in the usa but here mums get houses for freen and weekly money benefits so you can survive without working if you are sinle with kids under 5 or something like that. do you not get help or benefits there?
please think about your daughter rather than the money!

LadyMoon

You could regret doing this forever, you'd be losing your child forever over a temporary financial problem.

I'm guessing you're in the States and I dont know how things work over there but I do understand that there are Welfare and Assistance programmes for families on very low incomes. Here in the UK you'd be eligible for Income Support, Sure Start Grant, Child Tax Credit, Housing Benefit and obviously you wouldn't have to worry about your medical care as thats all free on the NHS anyway. I know American's Welfare system is not quite as "generous" but you can claim assistance when you need it.

If you are saying that you are in debt and struggling to keep up with repayments, well seek advice - the Debt Collectors can't take what you don't have! I had to stop paying a bunch of credit card and loan repayments when we fell into financial hardship when I was pregnant with my son, it screwed my credit rating up really badly so I can't get anymore loans now but tbh I'm better off without the damn things! And I have my son which is more important. My husband and I are not affluent by any stretch of the imagination but we have enough to live on now.

It would be very sad to relinquish your baby just because you are struggling financially right now. You may find it very hard to do when you hold him/her in your arms. And if you do you might regret it forever. Seek whatever help you can first.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

1. PLEASE keep your baby.

2. WIC, food stamps, welfare, low income housing, soup kitchens, food pantries....family.

3. PLEASE keep your baby.

4. you mention family heath issues. are you aware that when a child is given up for adoption, the case workers corrupt the paperwork to make the kid more appealing???? it happened to ME. i was given a false history and suffered for years and years, needlessly, only bc the adoption people lied to my parent's about my health history.

5. PLEASE keep your baby.

6. i certaily hope you have clear idea of how to explain to your kid when he/she finds you, and they WILL find you....so please have a serious plan explaining why the 4 year old was good enough to keep, but this one wasn't. i'd sure hate to be in YOUR shoes for that one!

7. i would HATE being your baby,

"why are you leaving me? why are you abandoning me? why did you keep my sibling, but not ME? what is wrong with me? what did i do wrong? tell me, and i'll fix it! i promise!!!! i will try really hard mama, and i won't eat much. i don't care about fancy stuff., i care about YOU!"

8. PLEASE keep your baby.

C Wood

You should NOT be YELLING at us!

You didn't tell us what state you live in. In most states, if you are pregnant again, you'd be eligible for welfare again. There's something fishy when you say you have lost your financial assistance and are 8 months pregnant.

You should be able to qualify for WIC.
You should be able to go talk to the social worker you had when you were on welfare to see if you have options that way.
cw

Crucio

Firstly if itâ€™s only a financial situation that is the reason you want to place there are other options there are resources to help people down on their luck. Adoption is forever in most cases your money hardships will pass. I would suggest you go to your city/state office and ask about the finincal assistance that would be available to you. They might even be able to find you low cost living arrangements or some temporary shelter. There is no shame in taking advantage of the welfare system when you truly need it and have plans to get back on your feet eventually.

If you do decided to place know that you canâ€™t legally sign away your rights until your daughter is born and even then you might wait 24 to 48 hours just to see if itâ€™s truly what you want to do. If you do place no one can know how your daughter will feel about being adopted, adoptees have a full range of feelings about being adopted.

suzanne

You always have options. Money is never a reason to give a child up for adoption. Financial situations change all the time, but an adoption is forever. That being said, if there are other factors, adoption can be a wonderful choice. Best of luck,

AdoptionisLoving

If you are interested in pursuing adoption, you can contact an adoption agency. Lutheran Social Servcies is a good place to start. They will help you in a variety of ways, including helping you make the decision on whether or not to parent or make an adoption plan. They can also assist you with your financial issues and can connect you with resources. Best of luck. My husband and I are currently dual listed with two agencies - Lutheran Social Services of MN and Children's Home Society and Family Services in St. Paul, MN. We are anxiously awaiting a birth family to select us. If you are interested in learning more about us, please feel free to email me.

Dan B.

listen to tish. word.

Arissa J

I would say if you want to give your child up for adoption be 100% positive you are going through with this because if you change your mind when the child is born you will hurt the adoptive parents. This happened to me , I was going to adopt a baby and then the birthmother changed her mind at the hospital which just broke my heart. she was a beautiful baby girl. I had bought her all kinds of baby things and are still sitting in the room across from mine. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!!!

Jill_01

You always have options.
Whatr about family? Is there any help or support there?
Adoption is a beautiful choice, but make sure you've thought it through before acting.

Kelle

Adoption is often a good thing.

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