Can I do this... Is it poissible? Help?

Stephanie

I think it is very noble of you that you want to be socially responsible and help an older child (although if you think a baby is bothersome, wait until a child is old enough to talk back). If you are gainfully employed and able to support yourself with enough left over to also support a child, then you might want to consider being a foster parent before you think about adoption. Fostering is needed in every state and it will let you gain experience with the difficulties associated with parenthood. You might even find that after fostering a certain child for a few years you are ready to adopt him/her.

Randy B

Technically, by the rules in most areas of North America that I know of, you are old enough to adopt HOWEVER I don't now of any area that will find you suitable in many of the other aspects...at this time in your life. Yes, you must be working and as you say you have been working for 4 years but the questions will be:

- do you make enough to support a child?
- how will you continue to work while at the same time raising the child alone? They frown on day care or other child care arrangements when a child is adopted.
- is your job stable? Even though you say you have been at it for 4 years you also say you are just now making a steady income which indicates to me at least that its not been a stable job. (When we adopted the first one I had been at my job, full time, for 7 years and for our last adoption I had been at it for 22 years)
- would they find you mature enough to adopt?
- do you have your own home (rent/own...apartment, trailer or house) and is it suitable for a child?
- if you are in a relationship, is that relationship mature and stable?
- what supports do you have to assist you in the raising of this child?
- is the child the correct age group for you?
- what would happen in the event the child had or developed special needs that had to be accommodated and treated?

Bothered by babies or not, I really don't think you are ready for a move like this. Then again, my opinion and the opinions of those here don't matter one bit but I would be willing to bet that any adoption agency or department of social services would not find you suitable at this time. Later in life, most likely but not at this time.

Faith and Graceâ™¥

if babies bother you, you will very soon change your mind on wanting a 5 year old, believe me I have a baby and a 5 year old, lots of days the 5 year old is more demanding!

The Lauren

Most states have laws stating that you have to be at least 21 to adopt. Some states are 25. I don't think you can adopt at 18 in any state. The single thing doesn't matter in most states. As long as you have a home of your own (not living with parents or friends ect), are emotionally and financially stable enough to raise a child, then you are able to be a single adoptive parent. If you are thinking from a different country, a lot of different countries do have laws stating you have to be a married adult of a certain age. Check out the laws in your state. But I guarantee you have at least 3 years before you are eligible.

dragonfly

I think you should wait a couple of years and think about some things before you make that kind of decision. Go to a parenting class and figure out if this is truly what you want. Look at your finances and make sure you know just how much everything is going to cost. Think about whether or not you are doing this for yourself or for the child - maybe work as a nanny for a few years.

Nice Girl from the corner house

If you have no interest in raising a baby because they bother you, then why on earth do you want to adopt?

You're a little young to adopt, you've got your whole life ahead of you... When you meet a man and are a little older, you might get married, then you can think of adoption and you'll have a much better chance then.

Bosnia_Luv

okay no!! first of your way too young, to be raising a five year old and i f you dont like rasing babys you wont wanna raise five year olds, your single! you have a whole life ahead of you and you wanna take care of a kid, no! babysit do somethign but dont adopt

Real Moms Raise Their Children

* have no interest in raising a baby, because they bother me.

*Help?! I am 18 (almost 19)

For these two reasons alone, you should not bother adopting a child. If you feel that babies 'bother you', then you are in for a big surprise when raising a 4-5 year old into adulthood.

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