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Can I give a shout out to my peeps? Have you all had a similar?
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experience here? I'm FINALLY learning to let go of the SHAME of having been a "teen mom". OMG! It's only taken 30 years! The feeling of being "different" b/c of my adoption experience. Here, I found I'm not alone...
Sadly, I've learned my adoption experience isn't so unique. I can let go of the shame of being abused (children always blame themselves).
Thanks to all who've shared here. I learned about "The Girls Who Went Away" here. I've learned I'm not alone in my concerns about adoption reform & what other, newly developing unethical/medical/conception practices will have on future generations.
I found my own VOICE. And I kinda like it! Not b/c I'm 'so smart' or anything, but just b/c I HAVE one! I've been silenced & shamed & made to feel guilty & told to be grateful for so many years (decades).
Does anyone else feel like I do? What have you learned here? Has anything you've read changed your mind? Broadened your knowledge? Made your head just a wee bit bigger?
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No, I'm not a teem mom. I'm living proof that ALL teens will outgrow that title.
However, you'd be AMAZED at how some people have tried to make that fact seem to be a shameful thing that I should HIDE. As if! Including a former boss who said I should keep in on the QT (in my mid 30's at the time).
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LaurieDB
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Good for you, Robin!
The state of California may not consider me an equal citizen because I was adopted, but I know my voice is just as important and vital as anyone else's.
I'm so glad you have found the same about yours, because it is. There is no reason for shame just because society dumped it on us all those years ago. Society was WRONG! |
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Isabel
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I have learned a lot since finding Y!A. Didn't know about the BSE, or "The Girls Who Went Away", or the push for open records or the states with open records.
It's been very informative. |
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Torrejon
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The biggest, most important thing that I have learned from Y!A is that adoption is a huge issue, affects so many people...often without them even knowing it. For example, my bsibling did not even know I existed until age 31!!! |
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negroluver5565
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Your not a "teen mom" anymore. get over it. |
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 Looking for a relative who was given up for adoption? |
| I have an aunt who gave a daughter up for adoption in 1956. I don't want to contact her, but other relatives and myself, have been curious about her ever since we found out about her (35 year ... |
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 There are a lot of opinions on adoption. Many are negative. Anyone here glad they were adopted? |
Also, how old were you when you were adopted?
Have you met your birth parents?
Thanks.
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Sunny, I'm not infertile.
Tiffany, there is no such thing as ... |
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 For adoption to *work* on all sides...? |
doesn't a "suspension of disbelief" have to be firmly in place?
Def. here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/... |
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 what would happen if the father did not want the adoption..? |
this is a hypothetical question..
mother wants to give baby up for adoption, but father does not want her to.. mother is pregnant and is planning on doing everything from the hospital. ... |
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| Ever since having my own child I have been thinking of my own adoption? |
| Ever since I had my baby I have been thinking more and more of my adoption and I have never even given thought to it before having my son. Its so weird because I used to be one of those people who ... |
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 do you consider your non biological birth relatives your relatives? |
| I asked a question, if your bio mother adopted children would they be your siblings? I wasn't sure of the answer myself, but I was surprised at some of the answers, which said they would be ... |
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| Adoption vs Surrogacy? |
If you have had to decide between these options, which did you choose and why? What did you find the costs to be? The pros and cons?
Will your insurance company cover anything for either ... |
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 What are some great organizations that help you connect with your birth family? |
I am looking for people on here who are like the "head mama" of the YA Adoption group
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 what is an open adoption? |
| What does an open adoption consist of exactly?... |
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 I think I want to give my baby up for adoption? |
| I'm scared I think I want to give my baby up for adoption. I don't think I can take care of her. I have a crappy job at a fast food joint and my car just went out on me. What should I do? I ... |
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 Inquiring about my cousin/friend adopt my child? |
| I am 8 months pregnant with a child.The pregnancy is the product of a one night drunken stand.I was at a party and things got a little out of control.I don't attend parties and I was very ... |
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 Asking your opinion on our adoption situation? We don't live near family - will that hurt the child? |
| My husband and I love each other very much and are excited about adoption (we cannot have biological kids, but we both still want to be parents & give a child or children a good home & a ... |
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 to the people who have pain from adoption? |
did you always feel it, from being a toddler? were you always aware of being adopted?
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was there a time in your life when it suddenly hit you?... |
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 AP's do you at times forget that your adopted children's genealogy, ethnicity, history is not yours? |
| My wife was looking for summer shirts for our son and she found some children size Guayabera. She made the comment, because I am part Puerto Rican, that he would be getting in touch with his roots. I ... |
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 What are my rights concerning giving up my child for adoption? |
| I am 7 weeks pregnant and I am only 16. I know that I can't take care of this child well enough and I cannot afford to raise it well so I want to give it up for adoption to a family that wants a ... |
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| Do adoption agencies lie for noble reasons? |
| Do adoption agencies lie to all parties involved in the adoption triad for the sake maintaining order in society or are there motives as insidious and greed based as some suggest?... |
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 Adopting a developmentally disabled child from his parents, what steps do I take? |
| I care for a 7 year old Autistic child, his parents recently informed me that they no longer want him in their home. They would like me to adopt him, his father said they would draw up a letter ... |
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 (People who were adopted) How can I ask my boyfriend if he knows why he was put up for adoption? |
| I've known that he was adopted for quite a long time and since then I've always wondered why he was. I'm afraid to as him because I don't want to offend him, make him mad at me, ... |
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