Can Someone "Talk" Me Through The Adoption Process? :)?

Magick

Please consider that there is a father out there that may want his child in his life.

Possum

If you are seriously pregnant and thinking of giving your child away to adoption - please know your rights - and make sure you read this -
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf

tickled blue

Only Faye,
Hi. It really depends on what type of adoption you are looking in to. International, domestic, foster care??
If you would give a little more info, I am sure you would get more responses.
We adopted through foster care. It took about a year....and we brought hom a toddler. It is 'easy' in that the social worker does most of the work for you....you just fill out paperwork and go to classes. They do come and visit us...first for the homestudy and each month to make sure the child is doing ok....once adoption is finalized they no longer come. Take care.

L - n - D

Contact an attorney that specializes in adoption. They are familiar with the process. You will not have to pay them, they are paid by the adoptive parents.

Spirit

If you are in the UK contact your local council. Mine sent me all these booklets and asked me all sorts of questions - they were really helpful. A few days later I got a pack full of things from them in the post. Good Luck

pink! pink! pink! :x) (stacey g)

try the websites below.
hope this helps good luck

littleoneonlytrue

hi there tell me whats the problem ?

is it that your pregnant ?

is it that you have a child ?

lil lush

IM NOT REALLY TOO SURE ON WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, WEATHER UARE PEGNANT AND WANT TO GIVE IT AWAY BECAUSE DADDY DOESNT WANT TO KNOW OR WHAT, BUT PLEASE THINK VERY CAREFULLY ABOUT THIS YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, SO WHAT IF DADDY DOESNT WANT TO KNOW IM SURE YOU COULD COPE WITHOUT HIM, IT WOULD BE HIS LOST AT THE END OF THE DAY, IM NOT TOO SURE ON THE PROCEDURE OF ADOPTION, BUT I WOULD HATE FOR A CHILD TO BE PLACED INTO FOSTERCARE, YOU JUST CANT TRUST ANYONE, TAKE IT FROM ME I KNOW OF PEOPLE WHO WERE ABUSED IN FOSTER CARE, PLEASE WHAT EVER YOUR DECISION IS, THINK HARD ABOUT IT

calgaryjenhere

There are many variables, such as are you wanting to relinquish the clild to social services, go through an adoption agency, find the family yourself and do a private direct adoption, or allow the child to be adopted by a family member.

Generally, you will make your decision, then go for some counselling, from a non-biased party such as an independant counsellor, someone not pro or against adoption, or involved in any part of the process. They will assist you with exploring all your options, abortion, adoption and parenting. Then assist you with following up on your decision. ie. if you are feeling like you would really like to parent but don't feel you can. They will help you look at resources and then reassess with you. If you decide adoption is still in your best interest, they will support you with that , and assist you with dealing with all aspects of it.

After you have the baby, there are different state laws that determine when you can signto relinquish your parental rights, and then how long of a time period, if at all, you have after that, should you decide to change your mind.

Best wishes.

Suzy Sunshine

Faye, if you make an adoption plan in the US you really can answer those questions yourself. You will be able to chose the agency that will handle your adoption and can select one that handles, open, open or closed or closed adoptions. You should know that if you choose and open adoption, the agreement you make with the parents is not legally binding. When you read about adoptions where the reality differs from the original agreement it is usually the birth parent who chooses less contact than originally agreed but you should know that your child's parents might not follow through with all of the contact that they agree.

But back to your choices. I was adopted and feel very strongly that closed adoption is the best choice for the children. I hope that you'll consider it. But it is not very popular in the US and some families are doing an excellent job providing a stable, permanent family for their children while maintaining some contact with the birth parents. I encourage you to choose your adoption agency very carefully based on their experience and their skill in facilitating the open adoption discussion. When problems arise it seems to be because the agency is so eager to please the birth mother that they don't offer any advice.

Think through the contact you would like - you can ask for letters and photos from the parents, email/mail contact with the child, face to face contact with the child. And think about how often you think it is goo to be in touch, once a year? monthly?

Most importantly, choose to discuss potential changes to the plan before you make any final decisions. Like many birth parents you may feel that you want to reduce contact as your life progresses. Your child's parents may need to move out of the area or you may find that the contact is having a notable effect on the child and it's important to increase or decrease contact for her well-being. Please take the time to talk about how you will handle these kinds of changes, the discussion will help you really think about when your open adoption agreement means and the responses will tell you a lot about the parents you're evaluating.

The last bit of advice I'll give you is to find an agency that will help select the best match for your child. Leaving the decision solely up to the birth mother can put undue pressure on you and expects you to have expertise where you do not. You're going to respond to families who give you a good gut feeling and that matters, but do rely on the experts.

Kaitlin

Well I'm adopted and my parents told me a few things that they had to do to get me, like first they had to get a person to help them with all the stuff you know...and then they had to write a letter to a birthmother,
then if the birthmother seems to like them she will ask to have an interview with them, if she likes them then she will ask them to be the parents of her child if she wishes to see another couple she will do so. It usually takes a very long time for a couple to be able to adopt, so i hope this helped! :)

TaTa

Find an agency and have them talk you through it. They would give you the best answers

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