Can a mother adopt another child if she gave her first child up years ago?

Heather B

Yes she can

Andraya

Once again we see how badly first mothers are viewed by society. We are selfless heroes as long as we are providing a child for others and awful people after we relinquish.

To answer your question... Yes, she can try to adopt.

MamaKate

Dear Tboneopks,

First off, sorry you got so many mean answers. Adoption tends to be a very touchy subject for many folks.

To answer your question though, Heather B. is right. Having voluntarily placed a child will not automatially prevent your friend from adopting.

Your friend will have to go through the process just as any other person and may have to explain her past choice but unless there is a ligitimate reason to prevent her from adopting (IE:criminal record, drug problem, etc.), she should be able to do so.

I hope that your friend will give some serious consideration to adopting through foster care.

I also hope that she will take the time to talk to her first child about her decision to adopt. While her first child's approval is not necessary, his feelings should be considered and addressed so as not to accidentally cause him emotional issues. (I too, am a first mother, and would never wish to upset my non-raised children to feel as though I had replaced them or that THEY and their feelings were not important to me in such a decision.)

Good luck to your friend and her family.

Independ"ant"

I would think yes but make sure that its not because of guilt you may be feeling. Thats not fair to a child and too many people are adopting for the wrong reasons.

TotalRecipeHound

Yes, absolutely she can. However, if she was forced to give up her parental rights due to illegal activities or addiction, it is less likely to happen - not because she lost the child but because of the illegal activities or addiction.

Bo Peep

In my experience social services would be quite dubious as to her intentions. They wouldn't rule her out as an adoptive parent entirely, but they would first need to make sure that she isn't trying to 'replace' the child she gave up for adoption, or trying to 'make ammends'.

The child's needs are always paramount and therefore it is necessary to make sure that the child isn't being used simply to ease someone's conscience, or being taken in as a 'substitute child'.

If this lady was willing to answer some difficult and maybe soul searching and quite probing questions, then she should go for it.

People often fear that if they have ever had an abortion they might not be able to adopt - this is not the case, and I am sure that having given a child up for adoption also would not prohibit someone from adopting in the future.

On the plus side, social services often worry that adoptive parents do not understand the birth parent's point of view, and this lady certainly will be able to sympathise. From this perspective she would be a very good applicant.

In the UK (and I presume the US would be fairly similiar) social services are not looking for perfect parents - just loving parents.

I wish this lady well.

Heather Leigh

As long as CPS was not involved and she terminated her parental rights voluntarily, she should not have a problem.

I too would like to apologize for the ignorant answers you are receiving. Adoption can be a pretty heated discussion, but it doesn't give people the right to be cruel. Especially those not even familiar with adoption.

Renee King

Yes

It sounds like they were given up because of suspected or verfied abuse or neglect to the grandparents not she could not raise the child so she gave the baby up willingly. If it is the later then yes she can adopt if it is the first one then the agency won't give someone supsected of child abuse, negelct endagering another child

Kathryn M

When someone applies to adopt a child, the agency takes everything into consideration. Income, living arrangements, other family members, acquaintances, job, credit rating, private and public permanent records.

I would say that if someone abandoned or relinquished all parental rights to a child, especially one who was old enough to know the difference, the chances of adopting another child are slim. If this was 11 years ago, the child had to have been at least 7 years old. Relinquishing parental rights is a HUGE deal and not something that 11 years will change. What makes them fit to parent a child now? I would say that someone with a better track record is more fit to adopt a helpless child. So often adults forget that it's not about them, it's about the helpless, innocent, deserving soul that is that child.

nite_angelica

I'm sorry, but if it was 11 years ago and the child is now an adult, that means she deserted that child when it was well old enough to know what was going on.

As someone whose father abandoned her as an infant, I know the damage that does and can't imagine the damage inflicted to someone whose mother walked away.

I certainly hope not.

sizesmith

Yes, especially if the records were sealed. If in the event that DHS, social services, etc, had to intervene to get a court order, it would be no though, because that will follow through a different channel than criminal law, but there is a record kept.

bigbeauty26

no she shouldn't

Kelly M

Unfortunately, they let anyone adopt these days.

I think she should have thought about how much she wated to parent before.

nikki

well mother of 5 who died at the age of 23 n the kids ended up in foster care because there father married n that woman was a few day due to have a another, dad f***ed off 2 drink n then that woman had no choice. (it goes on) but i wont say no more. i hope she cant.

Larry E

You don't get do overs when it comes to adoption. Edit. If you don't like peoples opinions don't ask. That's what lawyers are for, so get over yourself.

eddie

I hope not
loser

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