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♥♥Rita♥♥
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Sure....but why??
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As in sure they can with hold the gifts, pictures and blah blah...buit why would they want to?? |
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MamaKate
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They can and some do. It is exactly why I no longer try to send any - I tried for five years. Now I just write and put it in the box with the rest so that if I ever have the chance, I can hand deliver them.
So much for their promises...
PS: Both sets of parents are "real". |
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magic pointe shoes
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I exist in a box supposedly. All communications that I have sent reside in a box to be given to my son when he is of age to understand.
The reason why I say supposedly is because really, what proof do I have that such a box exists in his home. Or, if such a box does exist, when exactly is that time that he will be of age to understand.
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Sarah C
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Yes, they are the legal guardians of that child. Its a crappy thing to do, but they can. |
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kitta
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Tampering with the US mail, stealing.....what fine qualities... |
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!@#$%^&*
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Well they can but why would they want to that??!? I think that's wrong, I mean I think the children should see who their real parents are. |
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yeahright
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Yep, they can. Might not be right, but they can. |
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Laurel J
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Sure they can. Who's to stop them?
It's wrong and can only lead to heartache, but some people really are that insecure and hateful. |
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BOTZ
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Absolutely, they can.
But then they better watch out when their a-child FINDS the hidden booty, like I did.
BWAHAHAHAHAHA! |
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dontknow86
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I bet it happens more that you know. |
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myst1998
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Why would you do that? Thats cruel. |
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Kate
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Although it is not a nice thing to do, they legally can. |
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Desiree
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I thought it was illegal to open other people's mail. |
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ĶΪŦŤŸ
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it's a horrid thing to do, but yea they can :-/ |
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Jennifer L
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I suppose they could. I mean, I have the key to the mailbox. If I wanted, I could screen every piece of mail that comes out of it.
But unless there is a major reason why (safety is the only thing I can think of) the first family shouldn't have contact with the adoptee, the adoptive parents shouldn't do something like that. |
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BabyGurl
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their is many movies in hollywood about this ! |
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Randy B
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Let me turn this question around...can a biological parent hide and keep gifts, money and letters from the childs...lets say grandparents or some other family member, from the child?
Once you answer that one you will see that adoptive parents are the same as natural parents. Some will do something like that for reasons known only to them while most will not. |
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Crucio
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I suppose one could though I don’t think morally it would be right. Certainly if one wanted to collect this items and present them to their child at what they felt is an appropriate age but to just gather them with no plans to give them to the child does not seem right. Why even keep them in that case?
If someone is receiving these things from the child’s natural family I can only guess that they (adoptive parents) agreed to some openness. If they just started getting this things out of the blue and no open adoption was agreed on. I could understand that they would feel their life/privacy was invade. Though I still think they should just gather the items and give them to the child when they feel it is the right time to do so. |
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Zyggy
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Yes they can. The likelihood of it is a different story. Unless the adoption was considered open, where the mother actually knows, and helped pick out the parents, then she wouldn't know who the adopted parents were. And if it WAS open adoption, more then likely the adoptive parents wouldn't keep things from the child, because why go open if you are just going to deny it later? |
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Timothy B
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Yes they can. Should they in most cases ya they should. Aoption is like a marriage. I am going to marry you but date someone else. A child needs just one set of parents. Does the kid know his bio parents. Are the adoptive parents just putting things "in the attic" until the child is older. I am an adoptee and I know I am going to hurt alot of people's feelings saying this.
A real parent is the one that stays up all night when the kid is sick, or goes to those goofy school plays where there kids is only tree or something and misses work. or cries when his/her first boy/girlfriend breaks up with them. Those are the real parents. not the person that just donated some DNA |
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Filori
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Yes, maybe. But maybe they should wait till the child is mature to tell them the truth. |
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Craigâ„¢
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thas what i would do |
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