Can anyone give me any info on adoption without using an agency?

DevonChaos

Do you really want to give your baby to someone on Craigslist? That is a place to sell couches or find a booty call. Do you really want your kid to find out in a few years that you contacted their adoptive parents that way? I can't imagine what kinds of people would troll for a baby through CRAIGSLIST!

There is a reason that people go to agencies. They ensure that someone is legit, and not a pedophile.

I honestly wish you would raise your baby on your own, but jesus, don't go online or through craigslist. This is a human, not a sofa. Use common sense, please!

annita

hello, your looking to give up your unborn baby this what i would do if i wanted togive up my unborn child i would go to someone i know that wanted adopt and you don't have to go to any agency you just sign over your rights to who you know to the courts and the judge will give custody to your child i know cause i did that but this child were 10 years old but that doe's work i wish you the best.

snowwillow20

Do what ever you can to keep your baby. In 5, 10 or 36 years you will regret giving your baby up and when your baby (adult) comes back to find you and asks "why did you give me away" no answer will be good enough.
Right now, you are in shock, oh my gosh, what can I do? Give the baby up, ok, that problem solved. Wrong, problem not solved. Just more problems to live with, depression, grief, sadness and guilt,

ladybmw1218

My son's first mom asked her trusted friends and family to recommend couples to her based on her personal criteria, and then sent those who were suggested to her a lengthy questionnaire she had come up with (using a PO Box and no last name, so she could cease contact if she wanted and not be harassed). She was only considering it at that point, and didn't want any pressure.

We weren't even looking to adopt, we just happened to meet her criteria, and her close friend and my close friend are sisters, so her friend recommended us based on my close friends descriptions and "report" of what we were like.

We answered her questions via mail, then traveled to meet her and his dad, then they traveled to our area to meet our families and see our house etc. All this before they decided they wanted to move forward with a possible adoption.

Also in my state it is illegal to advertise/solicit for a baby to adopt, so even if people here are looking to adopt, you wouldn't find them on any websites or newspaper ads. I wish this law existed everywhere.

We still had to get a homestudy etc. and do all the legal paperwork.

suzanne

There are a lot of ways to go about it. You can contact a lawyer nearby and they often have families looking to adopt. Also, you can look at www.parentprofiles.com online, there are at least 300 families on there who are all approved and waiting to adopt and you can contact them and ask questions, etc. What you are describing is a designated adoption, where the potential adoptive parents and potential firstmother have already choosen each other before they get any legal work done. If you have any other questions for me, feel free to send me a message. I'm in the middle of it all now and would be more than willing to point you in the right direction.

Katherine S

Its possiable to give your Close friends or relative the child um just becuse i think you want your baby to be with somebody that u no i mean like u can go see he/she

pink7sadie

Just curious as to why you don't want to go through an agency? They can be very helpful. Finding the right parents for your child is hard. Try going to a local councilor first maybe they can help.

I gave a child up for adoption. I chose a family that I knew. And we had a lawyer and a social worker draw up the papers. But before I even knew this family wasn't able to have children I went to a couple of different agencies.

Now with the adoption laws changing there is the possibility that your child will find you if s/he wants to. The only way you won't be found is if you specifically request not to be as of June 2009.

minmin

ask around...you will be surprised how many people that you already know that would love to adopt.

just make sure you are making the right decision before you go through with the adoption process because once you sign your baby away, you can't go back.

Nicole

Oh hun, I would avoid CraigsList !!!! There aren't the best couples on there. Think about it. Would a financially stable couple be placing a free ad for adoption? Not saying money is important, however there are some shady people on CL.
I do know there are sites that list prospective adoptive parents. I imagine you could just google it and find a long list of them. There are millions of people who are wanting to adopt a baby. They would need to get an adoption lawyer to make sure everything is legal, but there is no need for an adoption agency.
You may even consider calling the Dept. of Children and Families to see if they can help direct you somewhere.

mrs.bearpack

options:
have baby in nj and do safe haven (www.njsavehaven.com)

jashia

you might need to be careful using craiglist because its alot of evil out there but if your serious about giving up your infant call me 7047775601 i would likje to adopt an infant without going thru the red tape but it would have to be legal so there is not a problem with the law beczause its safer for everyone and it is legal. or write me on facebook jashia lennon-bey or call 7047775601 write to my jashialenbnonbey@gmail.com. or write to me apostle jashia lennon-bey 611 salisbury st., wadesboro nc 28170 let me know i would love to adopt an newborn.

bassnbabe2

I know that you are going through a difficult time. You may be upset by people judging you about wanting to give your baby up for adoption. I honestly think if you are thinking about adoption for whatever reason , you are doing the right thing by searching for options. I would like you to know that my husband and I are looking to adopt a baby. We are middle aged parents. I have one child who is 5 and would love a sibling. I can not have anymore natural children. I assure you we would be awesome parents. If you are interested in just talking or more information about us please email me bassnbabe2@aol.com. Good luck to you.

kelly dean

I really dont have any information on that but my husband & i are looking into adopting another baby w/o using an agency. We adopted a baby 3 yrs ago through an agency & it was very< very expensive. We got her & she is wonderful but we do not want to have to spend that kind of money again. We do not knowhow to locate women who want to put their babies up for adoption? Is Craigs list or ads in the news paper appropriate?

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