Can anyone tell me how to get my baby back without judging PLEASE?

Independ"ant"

I just read your other post. Ignore those people judging you. You are their worst nightmare because they want a baby, can't have one and look at girls like you as their last chance. They are sick not you. You need to just go to an attorney in your state and ask for advice. Find one that will be on your side and never give up. The sooner the better because this agency doesn't want to give up their commission, the Pap's are desperate and will try to drag it out as long as possible so the courts will favor them. Its the oldest and most disgusting loophole they use. Good luck and never give up.
She is your child and no amt of paperwork can change that. Even if you did sign papers, you can fight them in court because obviously you could have been suffering post par-tum depression and you were coerced into signing over your rights. Pap's should not keep a child from their mother's despite their lost opportunity of finally being a parent. God would want that.

sunny

You don't say where you live--Americans don't often say 'prego'...so I don't know how to guide you.

If you are in the States contact these sources right away:

http://www.origins-usa.org
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.com

MayaInMN

I am going to answer assuming you are in the U.S. There are several things that aren't clear.

First, I am not sure if you have voluntarily given up or terminated your parental rights. If this has happened, there is generally no reopening of the case. Period. Of course there are some exceptions to every rule.

Second, another way for parental rights to be terminated is by the state/county terminating them. You say you gave up your child 3 months ago. I am not sure how old he/she is. In my state and most others, if a child is born and the mother is addicted to drugs or the child has it in their system, the child protection system automatically steps in and begins a CHIPs procedure (Child In need of Protectice Services). If this happens, the parent is placed on a case plan with the end goal being to reunite with the child. These case plans usually last for at least a year, but could be a little less or more. At any time during the plan, the parent can decide to give up parental rights. If the state/county terminates parental rights it is usually done by going through a court process -- several hearings and possibly a trial.

While this was not my area of expertise, I have, in my legal practice represented some individuals in the CHIPs cases.

Third, another important factor is the baby's father. Did he give up parental rights? Were his take? If not and he is stable then he at least should be a viable parent for the child. Courts and child protection must consider all other known relatives too if neither parent is acceptable.

I do think you should consult your local bar associations or legal aid. I wish you well.

Take care.

Doodlestuff

You need to get in front of a family court judge ASAP. The agency is going to put you off and slew you around until that adoption becomes final. It is in their interests to do so.

Santa's Lil' Helper

I am so glad your back on track!!!

Sunny has given you some great resources. May also add that I think you should petition the court and ask for an ex-parte order. You should also send a CERTIFIED letter to the agency. Write down dates and times and who you spoke with. Also you need to get a lawyer ASAP. Call your local bar association and ask for a list of pro bono (free) lawyers that have the practice area of family law.

JUST MAKE SURE YOU DONT GIVE UP, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT FOR YOUR LITTLE GIRL! stay away from drugs and get a good job and a place to live.

Camira B

I'm going to give you an honest answer.

It is going to be very hard. 8 months is a long time. If you were told this was to be a temporary situation, you can make a claim for fraud. If the PAPs are backing you up and it's just the agency causing problems, you have a better shot. If not, it's a steep uphill battle.

I don't know where you live so I can't give you specifics, but you need to contact an atty ASAP.

thefoxxww2

I didn't bother to read the answers - just your question.

I'm sorry you are hurting. I don't think you are a bad person. Congrats on your sobriety.

What you didn't say in your last post was did you sign away your rights to your child or is your child in some form of foster care. If you signed away your rights - you may be out of luck. Only an attorney can tell you for sure. If you can't afford an attorney - check with your local bar assocation - they will have attorneys available to you for free (or close to it).

If you have not signed away rights and you are not a danger to your child - I can't imagine why you wouldn't be able to regain custody of your child. Again, you will need an attorney.

Good luck to you.

~*tiN@*~

I only gave my son up for adoption because I was threatened and told if I did not I would regret it. .... Months later, the son's father died in a terrible shooting. I was told it was too late by the agency and I could do nothing about it. (They didn't care that I made my decision under "duress.")

Just me

I have heard some states allow three days after signing. Good luck.

nanna60

You need to go to the judge and tell him you need a court appointed lawyer. We had to do that when we were trying to get custody of my husbands children. Good luck.

Precious925

Well it all depends on your situation because I don't know how far or what type of situation you are in, but in order to receive your children you have to show some kind of stability in your life because in order to get your children you would have to evaluate self. So the first step is to make sure that you don't have any addictions whether it is drugs, alcohol, men, or etc. As you know you have to have income in order to support the children, so you need a job. The next step applies to housing because you need to establish a home for your children to live in, but the most important thing is to put all your faith in GOD and ask him (everyone in this world aspect GOD to just come down and give the person in need what they want or request at that instant but the truth of the matter is that GOD is not going to give you anything without you putting your hope and trust in him and you also have to try to be lead yourself in the right direction) and last but not least is never give up, nobody said it was going to be easy......

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