Can my friend have a baby for me?

mommy20

i don't know why everyone else is no negative about this. but no it's not illegal. but you should get a lwayer and discuss who is paying for what and papers will need to be drawn up. but ur lucky that u have a close friend that is willing to do that for u, becuase it's a difficult thing. best of luck and i hope it works out for u .

Possum

Please just stop - and think about the child here.

This child will be genetically linked to someone else - either one or two people - and you're perhaps going to pretend that this child is all of your own?!?!
All children are linked genetically to the people that produced them - forever.
All children need to know about those links - and be allowed to have contact with those links - throughout their life - for better emotional and psychological well being.
You seem to think that a child will not have a problem with this set up because he/she will be a baby.
WRONG.
I was relinquished at birth - and no matter how anyone talks about it - it hurts being given away by your mother and family.
Let alone actually being made for the simple purpose of being given to someone else.
I've missed out on growing up in the family I looked like / acted like / had talents like.
I felt out of place - my entire life.

Children are not gifts to be given away.

Read blogs written by surrogate children - they have many similar problems in later life as adoptees.

It's a lot of head mess for someone - simply because you want the child you always dreamed about.

Think.

Long and hard.

This is NOT all about you.

Harsh - maybe - but I know too many wounded adults - who were given away to adoption - simply because everyone thought it was the best thing to do.
But in the child's BEST interests - if it doesn't absolutely HAVE to happen (ie there is no abuse present) - separating a child from his/her family is a cruel thing to do.

I'm sorry that you haven't been able to have the child you've dreamed of - but do look into adopting from foster care - where you will find children that truly need a loving home.
That's what adoption should be about - not about finding a baby because you're sadly unable to have your own.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

http://sonofasurrogate.tripod.com/

do some research.

myst1998

Apparently it is legal but very unethical. This is purely a case of adoption for another's needs, not for the child's needs.

If you would like a child to enrich your life, you might want to look into the Foster Care system and enrich the life of a child who needs a loving home.

This world has become so much about 'take'... what happened to the 'give' part? As in give to the world before you take from it.

Mummy to be - 12th March 09 xx

No it's not illegal. It's called surrogacy. You would need to speak to a lawyer etc about all of the legal details i.e. who is paying for what etc but otherwise you should be fine. Surrogacy is illegal in some countries for money etc.

Look into it =] Good luck xx

okiegirl

yep it legal you would have to adopt the baby through privat adoption as far as i know

luvnbirth

yes..its called surrogacy

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