Can you tell me more reason "why should adopted children be give the choice of contacting their biological par?

chris_cat

Because it is a basic human right to know your heritage, and in many cases necessary to know your medical history. Personally, I never felt the desire to shake lives up in that way - mine or anyone else's. But it should always be the standing right of an adoptee to seek out their biological origins.

RPMR

It is a part of their past and their history that should be respected! If an adopted child wants to meet or find out info on bio parents his/her wishes should be respected! I am an adoptive mom and I ask that to myself all the time: What if I found out I was adopted? Would I want to know where I came from? The answer to me is YES! The role of a parent (adoptive or not) is to love unconditionally and support his/her kids to became fulfilled human beings. If they need to meet their bio family to become all they can become and have peace why not support them? SOME adoptive parents fail to see that this has nothing to do with how much their child loves them. I have met many wonderful families (with adopted and bio children) some children wonder some don't.

Heather B

Because they deserve the same rights and same 'Freedom of Association' as every other citizen takes for granted

To deny a specific group of people Freedom of Association is discrimination of the highest order

Separate is not Equal

ETA: I see someone defends discrimination against a select sector of the population. Let me guess - an insecure adoptive parent!

The right to know the truth of your origins has nothing to do with how you were raised, how 'well adjusted' you are, how much you love your adoptive parents. When will people understand that for gods sakes.

Sophie

Their feelings are vital to their emotional well being. They should be the ones that feel in control of their lives as they grow older.

realmom lese

Because it is their truth. Because not knowing is a slow torture.

Lori A

.Civil rights, the same ones every non adopted person has. All men are created equal, and should all be allowed the same rights and freedoms. Like freedom of association.

Gaia Raain II

Why should non-adopted people be given the choice to contact whomever they choose, but not adopted people? What have adoptees done so wrong that they are treated as though they can't handle something as simple as having an adult relationship with their own relatives?

Philippa

Adopted children should be given a choice of contacting their natural parents. Some may not want to for whatever their reasons are so their feelings should be respected. Others want contact so shouldn't be denied the right to do so.

My son had to wait till he was an adult as his adoption was closed before being allowed contact and it was actually my family who made his choice difficult. He found them in 1999 and to cut a long story short they lied to him for 5 years by telling him they didn't know where I was. My family would have continued to lie if I hadn't found him in 2004 so he was very upset particularly when he found out that they hadn't told me that they had contact with him.

Flying Monkey #073177

Because I am a person, not someone's dirty little secret to be shut away and kept in hiding.

Because I have the right to MY OWN history and records.

Because my mother loved and wanted me but society and her mother took that away from her.

Because I loved my mother even before we "met" but society and her mother took her away from me.

Because family bonds and genetics can not be erased by a signature on a scrap of paper, I will always be who I was born to be and I deserve to see that reflected in the people around me.

Because we don't stay children forever and adults have to right to seek out and contact anyone we damn well please unless we are convicted of criminal behaviour. I am not a criminal and am sick of adoptees having restraints put on who they contact and when, I can't go get a restraining order put on someone I don't know so how can someone I don't know justify basically having one put on me based only on the fact that I am adopted?

SJM

Why not? Why should they be prevented from doing so? From what source is the authority derived to assign a fraudulent identity to an infant then forever conceal the truth of their origins from that person?

gypsywinter

"why should adopted children be give the choice of contacting their biological par?""

At first glance, to me...your question seemed as though adult adopted people should only have permission to engage in this 'choice'. But probably is not want you meant. I don't believe 'choice' should be a factor in the right to have free access to the original birth certificate. It should simply be so and should have always been..not only for the adoptee but for the original mother as well. Either an adult adopted person wants their OBC or they do not, that should be the 'choice'. I have free access to my OBC and don't have to present any 'reason' to obtain copies of...reason enough..I simply want it. Whether to keep for my own records or posterity, paper my walls, wipe my @$$ with, whatever. It is the recorded fact of my birth. Adult adoptees should have the same right as any other non-adopted person...without having to give a myriad of reasons why they should have it in their possession.
It is a lawful recorded fact of their birth...plain and simple! No other reasons are needed.

Taylor G

I was adopted and when I was of age I told my mother I wanted to meet the person who gave birth to me. I see her once a year, i just wanted to know if any illnesses, cancers, and stuff ran in the family. it was like seeing an older vision of myself.... weird.

Daniella

I believe it is their choice because some children are angry and they don't want anything to do with their parents, but some think differently and they might want to talk to them to know why they did it.
Some may want to reconnect. They understand the reasons for why their parents left them and they might want to have a relationship with them.

They should have the choice. The parents already made theirs. They gave the child away knowing that they might never see them again.

Gina

Just because you adopt a child doesn't mean that they aren't supposed to ever know or care who their natural parents are, what they look and act like, ect.

Everyone deserves to know where they came from!

Jennifer L

Children, adopted or otherwise, do grow up.

Everyone has the right to know the truth about his/her origins. People in a free society are able to interact with one another, without the state telling them who they can and who they can't associate with.

Since everyone who is NOT adopted has the right to do this, I suppose it begs the question: why shouldn't adopted persons have the right to contact their biological parents?

I think the burdan of proof here should be on the naysayers.

It is their (our) right to know that. Just because you gave a child up for adoption doesn't remove you from their lives. It's a choice that has many consequences and one of them is being found out by someone who needs to know.

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