Child adoption....any views?

HappyMomAnna

If you are in the US the first thing to do would be to contact your local DHS office and ask for information about the next training for Foster to Adopt or the Adoption of Special Needs children.

http://www.childwelfare.gov/

Good Luck!
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Mom to Foster Children

Foster Care - is where the children are who need homes. This is where I would start - heck this is where I did start. Call you local Health and Human Services and they can set you up with the classes that you will need to take.

PhilM

Some reading for you:

* "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

* "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier

tu_amor_para_queso@att.net

I know it turns a lot of people off, but what about teenagers?

It's obvious some of the flaws that come with that idea: you can't raise and get attached to them like you would a baby or young child, they might be a bit rebellious, etc

But a lot of people overlook teenagers in orphanages. They have no hope. When prospective families come to visit, nobody looks at kids 10 and up. This is heart breaking. Being a teenager is tough enough as it is but having to live every day knowing a family will never want you because you're a greasy, hormonal, pimply, young adult is hard to deal with. There are a lot of good older kids out there that want to be loved too.

They might have a hard time coping with and adjusting to your rules, but generally they're so desperate (some of them) for a family, they're not very problematic. They can do chores, babysit, and if there's food in the house...they'll find it. You don't have to worry about midnight feedings with them---they'll take care of it themselves.

I do a lot of work with an orphanage and I talk a lot with the kids, especially the teenagers. It's heart breaking watching a 17 year old 6'1" football player with a 3.0 GPA keel over and cry because it's too late for him to have a Mom and Dad to cheer for him at his games. It's so upsetting to watch a 16 year old girl cry because when she gets married, she wont have a father to walk her town the aisle and dance with her at the reception.

I'm just saying...there are other options than young children and infants. All ages need to know they're wanted and loved though. Good luck.

rachael

local DHS....foster care. best suggestion ever

farm mom of 10

I've tried to answer this three times, and it wouldn't go through!!
I am a foster/adoptive parent, we've adopted three times through the foster care system. Two of our children were eighteen months and one was four years old when their adoptions were final. I have written some articles on it, one in particular about adopting through the state. Here's the link, both to that article, and also one to the rest of my articles:

www.associatedcontent.com/article/9495...

http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/150807/carla_raley.html

karencabc

I am also a 28 year old single female and have thought about adoption before too. I think foster care would not be a good way to go. Most kids in the foster care are in their teens, and I think you'd be better off adopting younger children or babies. You may even look into embryo adoption. That way you get the embryo(s) implanted in you and you get that special bond as the child grows within you. Also, it's not as expensive as regular adoptions and you will be saving a life.

I personally think you may want to wait a little while and try to find Mr. Right first (don't rush it, you want the right one). I mean come on 28 is still young. But either way, good luck!

agni

It is difficult to adopt a child if one is single. However, try to convince the matter, so that you can be successful in your mission.

S S

Legally it will be very difficult as the people responsible do not encourage adoption by singles.Hospitals, NGO's in your area can help but it will be a lot of hard work. Best of luck.

nice

just go to adoption agency and take it from there...

durdenslabs

contact your local social services & foster care facility. They'll tell you everything you need to know.

shushi

You have to visit near by social organisation. Every district has one I think in Gujarat.

They will file your application.Then depends upon your choice and availability of child they will get your home study report from your district head quarters by sending one officer.

Then they will give a child as foaster care.

After prescribed period of foaster care they will file an application in court and get the court order released in your favor to adopt that child .

You can then do the deed of adoption with that social organisation.

It is not so easy process as we generally thought of.

sizesmith

Are you placing a child? If so, there are thousands who want to adopt. Cafe mom has some good areas on it. Be aware that any person who contacts you to adopt a child should have a pre-approved, and preferably, filed at the courthouse home study already done.
The laws vary from state to state, and you'll need to look up the laws in particular for your state.

If you're wanting to adopt, there are several options. The best is foster to adopt. This way, the child will actually need a home. They often come with benefits, such as a state stipend, medical insurance, and more. Second: Agency adoption-where you'll spend 10's of 1000's to adopt a baby. Third: Less common, but if you know of someone who's willing to place a child with you, like a friend, relative, etc, then this is the easiest type of adoption, simply requiring a home study, and an attorney to fill out the paperwork.

Any adoption in the US (almost any) requires a home study, where the social worker interviews you, seeing that it's in a child's best interest to be placed with you. They'll also go through your home, and make sure that it's safe, clean, and optimum for a child. There are private social workers and there are ones for the state. The private ones for both private adoption and agencies costs around $1000. The one through the state is free.

Finding a child to adopt is the hardest part. Good luck in your processes. Education is the number one thing as an adoptive parent that you can do, to see adoption from all sides of the adoptive triad, so that way, you can be a better parent.

Daisey Duck

Talk to social services they can tell you what all is involved in the process, fees, background checks etc. You can discuss with them the age of the child you wish to adopt, the time frame involved and such. You have options here you can request an infant (which has a long waiting list), or you can go with an older child. Just go talk to them and see if this is the right path for you. Don't let others influence your decision on the age of the child you want.

Krissi

I think its a great idea for those willing to do so.
It gives a child who has grown up without a family a new start.
Hope it goes well.

Cutie

Go about adopting NOW . It's a slow process and try to get married or something ???

mini

aewsom thought
Its the best thing u can do .....
A self less deed....
Adopt a child u will get more then u give....
just try some govt hospital or child home to find details..
All the Best !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

emilyhev

im only 14 now, but i plan on adopting when im older,
maybe try watching the discovery health channel in the morning, they run a show called "adoption stories" and it'll give you some info based on the people's stories, i watch it all the time. ;) i hope to do an international adoption.

swapnesh_1983

it seems u r inspired from ANGELINA JOLIE and SUSHMITA SEN
well do u know any Orphanage in india for child?
u have to visit over there
u have to give the detail of urself
like what r u doing?
why u want to adopt child
etc etc
and if they find u r capable for being single mother than only they will allow u to adopt a child

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