Confusing???????????

Katie T

If it is a legal adoption, it won't matter if she changes her mind. The baby will stay with the aunt who adopted her.

Minnimouse

Well, I am glad a close relative is adopting her, that is the ideal adoption in my opinion. The child knows her background and is with people she is blood related to.

It is tragic that the mother cannot care for her, but it sounds like she is very sick and needs proper attention so that she can learn to cope with her mental illness. She will need lots of support from her family and friends as she will not be able to have her baby back. But at least she can see her daughter grow up.

Proud AP!

I agree with Katie. If the adoption is already finalized or she has signed her TPR then there is nothing that she can do even if she is bipolar.

kateiskate

I don't think it is right for someone to take advantage of a mentally ill (bipolar) person by coercing the first mom into giving them her baby. It is immoral as well as unethical to try to hope someone won't change their mind about their decision. Such a decision should not be taken lightly and the "bipolar aunt" should be allowed time and space to really think about her decision without the rest of the family telling her it's for the best, and telling her she can't take care of the child.

I think the family should help your bipolar aunt parent her child. Help her get her act together, help her take care of herself, help her take care of her child. What your aunt needs is help, not to relinquish her baby. There is nothing that should be preventing a bipolar person from parenting as long as they have treatment including therapy.

kkbabyz

Have the biological mom declared medically unfit or you can ask her to sign an agreement stating that she wont change her mind but have it drawn up from a lawyer and have it state clearly that she doesnt feel that she can care for the child with her condition that way its a legally binding way of sayin that shes an unfit parent at the time being :( I hope the aunt shes better off with gets little Marley Marie

Julie C

Well, there's not much you can do now..but if there's ever a situation where the real mom is not taking care of the baby well, as bad as it is, you can call social services to investigate..if it really is a bab situation, they will take the baby and force the adoption by the other aunt. Its much better that your family try to do everything friendly though. talk to your aunt when she is feeling well, explain to her she will still see the baby, it will be easier etc. However, just because she is bipolar does not make her a bad mother. You can probably tell, but if she can keep things under control, then she can still be a good mother, with help during the bad times.

tish_part deux

i would suggest assisting your aunt with her child, providing her with support and not being judgmental.

you know...i know adoptive parents with bipolar disorder. but somehow, they are GREAT parents..

i'm confused too.

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