Could you imagine this? please?

Imagine you have children, you get meningitis and are put on hefty medication, while in the hospital you acquire MRSA and become EVEN MORE sick, you lose 50 lbs. over a few months. You finally get rid of the infection and start on you way to recovery, but it's a long road.

You in-trust your children to "friends" who claim to want to help you. You are still very ill, with a great chance of recovery, just not tomorrow. You are pressured and held for half a day, with no means to leave and forced to sign relinquishment papers. You break free and call 911 to get the papers. Later you are told how selfish for wanting you OWN kids and guilted to sign again.

Remember you are VERY ILL. Lack of nutrition severely effects ones mental state. Just look at someone with diabetes. They can get in a fit and come to again in the same day.

So all the while you have a great chance for recovery, but are currently incapacitated. You are talked out of your babies while ill.

Could you even imagine?
Now this is not a real example, but Allison Quets, was SO incredible ill when she signed her relinquishment papers, there is no way she should have been allowed to make such a decision.

She would have had a great recovery and I doubt she would have ever done it again, so it's not like the kids needed to be protected from "potental future mental instability" like when she was physically ill and malnurished.

Can you even relate to how wrong it was to allow her to sign away her rights to her newborn twins?

If this was for the kids, then PAPs in this case should have care for the kids as agreed and when Allison was better, then visit the adoption possibilities. If it right and meant to be then whats the hurry?

By that standard, would should just be allowed to drug people and have them sign away their rignts too, even though they'll be clear headed in a few hours.

Andraya

This is basically what happened to me. Suffering from severe anorexia I put my son in care so I could get inpatient treatment for my disorder as it was affecting EVERY aspect of my life and I knew I had to be healthy to raise my son. Obtaining treatment ended up being far harder than anyone could have expected and the social workers used that as a way to coerce me into relinquishing my son. Illness forces you to realize your own mortality and limitations and I know that in my case it made me a very easy target. In my opinion anyone who is sick enough to need medical supervision should be allowed to heal before having to make any decisions regarding their children, within reason of course. Drug addicts and abusers are given longer than I was, the average is a year and I was given just under 8 months to obtain and complete treatment.

Maybe they see these kids as having less baggage; no concerns of abuse or neglect, so they make a more appealing "product" for the agencies and SWs to "sell".

Rowan

This is horrid. No one should be asking a woman in that state to be signing anything, and if she is, and does, the papers should be thrown out, as she was not in the proper mental tate to make informed, rational decisions

Felicita1

I remember this case. The lawyers applied to her what i've heard called "hot-boxing." You don't permit the mother to leave the room until she signs the papers, holding her there via threats and emotional abuse, while she's too affected by birthing hormones to be able to think straight. Several hours of this, exhaustion and sleep deprivation, plus the meds that many women are on post-birth, are enough to break almost anyone whose partner or other support person is not there to protect her. Florida lawyers do this in hospitals as well, as an acquaintance named "Donna" found out when they did this to her less than 24 hours after she gave birth while she was medicated to the gills. Wouldn't let her leave the room until she had signed papers. Some lawyers boast that the "decision" to keep a womans' baby is final several weeks before the adoption, and that once she's in labor or given birth they don't let her change her mind.

Kazi

People shouldn't be signing ANYTHING while under the influence of any medications. Period.

Gaia Raain

Let's not forget, she got pregnant via in-vitro fertilization. Who goes to all that effort and expense, just to give their kids away?

Thanks for posting this.

Serenity71

Shocking!!! This kind of stuff happened in Aust in the 50's-60's. No wonder we had sooo much reform here in local adoption. I pray that we never go back to those days. People wonder why we are so conservative towards the adoption process in modern times.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

"should just be allowed to drug people and have them sign away their rignts too"

well, sadly, that did happen to a lot of women in the 60's. then when they came out of it, they were told their babies were dead in some cases.

birthdad in hell

drugged or not. emotional abuse or not. no one can make anyone sign anything even with a gun to your head you got a choice. I understand hot-boxing, coercion and all that. i understand lies and threats while under medication but no one can make me sign! I would and will go to jail be dragged through the streets naked, beaten, verbally and emotionally tortured, threatened or anything else you want. but you will be disappointed and still have an unsigned paper at the end of it. yes my child is that important to me and no this isn't false bravado. 2 yrs. into the custody fight now.threats are just that threats. the attorney's and agencies do cross the line daily. they will not however go so far as to carry out half the things they threaten and they can't hold you forever but even if they did, as a parent I don't even have to think about it. my child comes first and nothing and no one can change that. my life for my childs rights is a no brainer on any day that ends in y.

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