DNA tests for my adoptive child?

HappyMomAnna

If he thinks he is the father he has the right to be involved with the decisions about his child. He can contest and fight any adoption plan.

A man does have the right to parent a child he believes is his child and if he is the biological father he has to relinquish his rights for anyone else to have the right to adopt.

If he is going to take this position eventually the testing will be done or not and everyone will know. You only have the decision of being pregnant, once the baby is born the mother and the father have rights. If he wants to exercise his rights he can. If he is the father he would have to voluntarily relinquish or be found unfit to parent.

He may not Have to Do anything or Pay anything or even see the baby--but, he may actually Want To! This baby is as much his child as yours.

Mom to Foster Children

Please know that open adoptions are NOT enforceable and that as much rainbows and ponies the adoptive parents have promised as soon as you sign your rights over to them - they can vanish without a trace.

~#1 Due Nov.19~

SHE WANTS A TEST...THEN SHE SHE SHE SHEEEE WILL PAY FOR IT..

Dont worry about the cost..and make sure you tell her that..

Say, you dont have the money for a test..but if you want the test you can pay for it..

and let that be that...

kateiskate

It is unethical for you to relinquish your child without the father's consent. If he and his family want to parent the baby, by all means, surrender your rights to him. But do NOT give the baby up to strangers when there are biological family members that want to parent it. That's immoral, unethical, and hurtful to your child.

merc8eez

If she wants it done she needs to pay for it all. Plain and simple! Tell her that straight.

iiidontknowdoyou

They have a right to know if it's his child or not. IF it is, they may want the child and you won't need to adopt it out! It would be better for your child to remain with family than to go to strangers! Do this for your child and what's best for it, not them!

Kristin

If she wants the DNA test, she can pay for it, not you. But, if it turns out to be his - she may want to adopt it herself (thats just a big MAYBE) because I can't think of any other reason why she would want a DNA test.

EDIT: Whoever said "it is better for a child to be with family and not strangers", that is NOT always true.

Btw, I just wanted to say it sounds like you are making a very smart decision. (don't let "ericlunacy" make you feel bad)

But, though you know it is his 100% - she doesn't have the proof you do (actually being there and such), so just because you know doesnt mean she will believe you

my Brooklyn Marie due 5/18/09

its not about what she wants its about u and him if he doesn't care and hasn't signed the birth certificate then you can do what you want.

ARMY*WIFE[brodys mama 4/7/09]

tell her "listen, if you want the test then you can pay for it. i am in no way shape or form paying 250 dollars for something that i believe isnt needed and that i dont care about having done. if you want to blow 500 bucks then that is your decision"

Strange on the outside

find a way to pay up

BraxOwl

She can not force you to do it, and it is not necessary. If she wants it, she can pay for it all. However I would not let her have that kind of control anyway, unless the purpose is to determine whether she or another family member will take the child adn then I would let her pay for it-IF you are willing to place a child with that family member.

Like another answer said, it is NOT always better for a child to remain within the family.

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