Did "nature" create infertile women to care for the children that are abandoned by their natural mothers?

Honestly I do think so. I think it is checks and balances and we have gone off with the infertilty treatments.

Lori A

I don't believe nature created most of the infertile women that there are today. I think our own government did it with its lack of concern about what is released in our drinking water and in our air.

LuAnne L

No I dont think nature created infertile women just so there could be orphans. Thats not really how nature works

Due August 26th w/ #2

No. Flaws happen. Genetic malformations happen. Nature is not perfect.

MamaKate

What you are asking is the same as the ridiculous idea that babies get "put in the wrong tummies".

Not all adoptees are "abandoned".

Not all women who are infertile were infertile at birth or from "natural causes".

Not all adoptions are "necessary" either.

23 year old texas female married

No nature did not create infertility. I am hoping the medical procedure I had done does. I opted to have tubes tied/clamped to sterilize myself because I didn't want to have any more children. So no my so called infertility was man made. I bore 3 children.

A lot of women chose to post pone having children until they are ready which is when their bodies are no longer able. I didn't post pone mine I simple want to be able to provide the best life for the children I have and hopefully take in foster children in a few years.

Nameless

No, fertility or lack thereof doesn't determine whether or not one will make a good mother. Infertility is one of the many difficult hardships in life.

Carol c

you're kidding, yes?

hope so because this question doesn't even make sense.

myst1998

Um....let me see.... NO. Nature didn't create infertility. Problems, illness, growth issues, prematurity in infants, STD's, infections and age are all responsible for infertility.

Its called life. Bad things happen. It doesn't mean infertile people can go and get another person's kid. Most 'abandoned' kids are not taken care of by infertile people anyway, they end up in the system. Many of the infertile people I have met decided adoption was wrong and stayed childlessness but also sponsored families in their own community to help them stay together. Now THAT is admirable!

Babies are cute and cuddly, supposedly are a blank slate (which has been proven incorrect) and one can try to create a fantasy world in which one gives birth to another mother's child (I say this because I have known adoptive mothers who actually did this, it was very disturbing). Orphans etc end up in orphanages and languish there for a long time. No one really wants an older kid which is sad.

So to wrap up, NO, nature doesn't create infertility. It happens like a lot of bad things in life like cancer, murder, child abuse etc. They are all horrible but sadly a part of life.

Randy B

Again, the assumption that women need to be infertile in order to adopt. My mother wasn't infertile and she had two children after adopting me. My wife and I have a middle child who was born to us while the "bookends" were adopted.

I don't think that anyone "created" anything or anyone of the sort.

Persnickety Snack

I don't think we humble humans have the right to decide WHY nature (or God, or whatever you want to call it) created infertile women (and men). All children have a mother. They wouldn't exist without a mother. And that will be true unless and until we start cloning humans, or find some other way of creating people without a living woman with a working womb. Children do not pop out of thin air in need of a stranger to rush up and claim them. If a child's mother isn't caring for him/her, there is a problem. Shouldn't we be trying to fix the problem, rather than re-homing these children without asking questions?

Mei-Ling

Absolutely.

After all, NO natural mother loves the child she has abandoned. SRSLY. Thousands of mothers all around the world do NOT give a damn about the children they abandoned.

Oh dang, you mean that's NOT what you meant?

Could have fooled me.

crzymmof8

I don't know. When we continued to have miscarriages and a still birth I felt so crazy. I had always wanted to be a mom. I remember wondering why God made me to feel so maternal and then I could not carry a baby. I worked as a pediatric nurse and watched all these happy couples with their children and just couldn't understand why I was so "broken". Then we had the kids who were so sick and needed foster homes. Some of them stayed in the hospital as there was no home to send them home to. My husband and I decided maybe this was what we were supposed to do. So we became foster parents. There were some kids who could not go home. So then we became adoptive parents. So I don't know if this is why we were infertile but I do know we feel very blessed with our family.

Flying Monkey #073177

Yes, nature sent you down from heaven above to save all the poor widdle babes with nobody to love them.

Feel validated yet?

gypsywinter

Yes....Nature..had other plans for you and that is to be the Savior of all those poor babies who were 'abandoned' by their cold/dead-hearted, abandoning natural mothers....who are all right now thanking Nature for creating women such as yourself who have a mission in life..to take off the hands of the 'abandoners', all of those 'abandoned' babies. We Rejoice, We Idolize, We Praise, We 'Abandoners' Welcome and Love no one better than you...Nature's Finest! I think I will make an idol in your image and get on bended knee every day...thanking Nature for your Worldly Presence!!

Feel better now?

ETA: OP.."PS I am not infertile. So many assumptions. If someone asks about infertile women... you assume that they are infertile. How ignorant.""

I think your question is Ignorant!!

â™¥â™¥Mum To Superkidsâ™¥â™¥

I highly doubt it. I think it's just one of natures quirks. If anything, it could be natures natural culling system, like diseases and viruses.

amyhpete

I don't think nature created infertility, and not all women who adopt are infertile. Sometimes it's a problem with the husband, but they aren't going to divorce their husband over infertility. In the case of my mom, she had a terminal heart condition that would have made a pregnancy life threatening to her, so they went to friends who were doctor and social worker to get clearance that her health was good enough to adopt and a short time later I became their only child.

My bio-mom wasn't infertile, obviously. She had me at 16. But when she was 30 and trying to have a baby with her husband, she had trouble and she adopted four kids -- twin boys then later a brother and sister -- out of foster care.

cantstopLinnyG

That's almost as ridiculous as when adoptive parents say, "this child is OURS", or "this child was meant for us."

Your adoptive child is not JUST yours, and sorry to burst your bubble, but a child is meant for the parents who created the child- NOT strangers. For some reason, you adopted the child. You were the next parent in line, the baby was the next one. Get over yourselves, folks.

To say these types of things, including "nature creates infertile women to care for the children that are abandoned by their natural mothers" is one more way to de-humanize a first mother, and objectify the adoptee. It's a way to justify the pain involved for yourselves and the adoptee. And the word "abandoned" is more or less a joke, too.

"Nature" created families to take care of their own. Governments and private industry stepped in and made it acceptable for strangers to adopt children. There is NOTHING natural about adoption....no matter how much we love our adoptive parents- they were strangers to us.

Serenity71

Nope, he just made women with the ability to care for children. That includes things like Multi tasking and wider Peripheral vision, and hormones geared for it to create the maternal instincts most women have, for some women these kick into gear when a baby enters the home. It's been know some adoptive mothers even lactate a little bit naturally when they begin caring for their child through adoption. The reasons for adopting a child are far more important than a couples fertility status.

sizesmith

No, a butcher of a doctor who couldn't tell his left or right when he took out the wrong ovary made me infertile.

It just happens to be that I adopted later, when I found the right man to spend the rest of my life with. It did happen that he's infertile from an accident in school.

God blessed us by allowing us to adopt, along with his first parents.

Philippa

No and I find your question offensive. I am one of those mothers who was coerced though you will find people here don't believe coercion happens and would prefer to accuse mothers of being abandoners or chossing adoption. My son's aparents gave up trying for a baby even though they could have kidsas there were problems so adopted then went on to have their own child. Life isn't that black and white.

tuesday101

umm, no. Genetic mutation, deformation. Call it what you want, but no.

I would rather think of it as: without pain there wouldn't be compassion.

Mrs.Kennedy

Am infertile but i don't think nature made me this way because there was a child out there waiting for me to adopt. At least that's not why I adopted

almostamommy509

i think so. and i like this question im sorry people on here are so serious and jump ur ****

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