Discrimination in adoption?

Gershom

Yes it makes sense to raise a child with two loving biological parents, but it never makes sense to take a child from one loving parent just for the only reason of giving him/her to TWO loving non-biological "parents."

I would have preferred to stay with my single mother because we had the natural connection of relation, i had no connection to my adoptive parents when we were matched, they were strangers to me.

My natural mother was all my infant self cared about and if given the opportunity, she would have done a fine job.

There is discrimination in adoption, a lot of it. To all parties. You are smart to chose not to adopt, the corruption is effecting all parties now, the potential adoptive parents, surrendering parents, expecting parents, and especially the adoptees.

Gaia Raain

Just responding to your edit here:

My husband and I might be considered middle class, I'm not sure...but if we are, we're certainly on the low end. Most adoptions cost about as much as we make in a year, and even the "cheap" ones (i.e. kids who are less "wanted", non-white, unhealthy, non-infant) cost about half our annual income.

And we're adopting.

Call your local DHS. They have fewer restrictions, it's free in most states, and you CAN find a child that you can care for through your state's foster care system. Not all of these children have RAD or FASD. Many of them are considered special needs just because they're older, or they're not white.

And for those who don't believe me, I have a friend who has adopted FIVE children from the Oregon special needs program (i.e. foster care), and only ONE of them had any major issues. And she adopted them all within a six year span. It's not that uncommon.

Of course, if you want a healthy white infant, and you're not interested in adoption for the purposes of giving a family to a child who actually needs one, then foster adoption isn't for you. Start saving.

ETA: I take it back. If you're sending abusive emails to adoptees, please DON'T call your local DHS. In fact, please don't adopt period. If you're planning to raise an adoptee, it might help to be respectful toward them first.

Heather B

I don't think there are many people grow up with two loving parents. It may start out that way but divorce is so common these days.

It's one of the biggest selling points in adoption - the two parents family. Shame it doesn't stay that way for long . . .

And adoption isn't a 'right'

ETA: Thanks for the abusive email. Nice.

sam22254

There are adoption agencies that will only adopt to couples mostly in there church. In fact if you read about this church the are told that if a single mother is to give birth try to talk her into adoption. yea it's best for a child to br raised in a 2 parent home but there is nothing wrong with a single parent with plenty of love to give raising a child either man or woman. But beleive it or not it's harder for a single man to adopt than a single woman. It's even getting hard for a single natural father to get to keep his child adoption agencies have more right to the child if the mother gives them the baby.

Bo Peep

are you sure that they do discriminate?

In the UK the youngest parent cannot be more than 45 years older than the child.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

ever heard of foster care?

because they think there is some age is to old to be a parent if that were true why do grand parents raise kids?

babybeth2007

u r right thats not fair

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