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spydermomma
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I think any sane and secure adoptive parent would absolutely want updated medical information. It can be scary knowing some things, but with most issues you can make healthy choices that will make for better quality of life, so accurate family history can be crucially important.
It might even be that passing on this information could be the first step towards open contact. I would hope so, for all concerned.
Good luck and hugs to you!
Andrea
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monkeykitty83
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I can't imagine why an adoptive parent wouldn't. I certainly would.
Why turn medical treatment into a crapshoot when you could have family history?
Personally, I would want all the information I could get, not just medical-- but even if an adoptive parent found the rest of it intimidating, getting medical just seems like a no-brainer. Having that is clearly in the child's best interest. |
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ladybmw1218
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This adoptive parent wants that. We have real relationships with our son's first family though, so will always have this.
I can't imagine parents not wanting the best for their kids..medical info is the least they should want.
ETA: It was only through direct communication with DS's grandparents that we found out that hypertension, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease leading to early death run in the men in the family.
His first dad didn't seem to recall this, or didn't think it was important or pertinent, as he never mentioned it on any of the medical history forms he completed in the course of the adoption. |
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BLW_KAM
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I wish I had my daughter's natural father's medical information, but he took off shortly after her birth. All we have is a name, a birthdate and a picture.
Because our adoption is fully open with her natural mother, I have access to information from her side.
So the answer is, "Yes, I do."
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Kazi
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YES. YES. YES.
As my daughter was born in China, we do not have a lick of information regarding her family's medical history. And I'll be honest, it scares us. Scares us for her. I worry about things that we would have been able to prevent had we known. I worry about all the unnecessary procedures she may have to undergo because we don't know anything. And I worry about how the lack of knowledge will affect her emotionally.
As for my son, his first mother was completely uncooperative and remains so. However, his grandmother has provided quite a lot of information and has promised to keep us updated as best she can. Obviously we are very thankful for that.
I cannot imagine an adoptive parent anywhere that would turn down medical info. |
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Jackie B
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If I adopted children, absolutely YES. What if this updated medical information could prevent or save the child's life? It would be selfish and not in the best interests of the child to be denied this knowledge. I'm not sure how it would be done, my guess is through the foster system (or original agency, etc.), if the adoptive parents feel threatened by direct contact with the birth mother. What kind of parent, whether adoptive or biological would NOT want to know pertinent medical information? If they don't and want to be surprised by a potential medical crisis later, they're crap for parents. |
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IDK!!
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I want anything i can get. |
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Torrejon
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Knowledge is power.
Only a really stupid person would refuse to know something of potential importance. |
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R
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At this point i would like any medical info. Our son who we hope to be adopting soon is from foster care. Bio mom has disappeared since hospital discharge dad is in jail. We have no family history at all. We don't know anything and would love something anything. It would also be nice to get updates but if she is this disinterested now i don't think i can expect anything later
I am just curious and you can email me so it is not look like chatting hopefully what info are/were you trying to get to your son |
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Freckle Face
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YES!!!!!
It is very very important for the sake of the child. |
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Indian-vision
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Yes i do!! I recently sent her update and asked her (our child's bio mom) to update her medical history. |
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Mary G
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Wouldn't you think that they would want updated information? I asked a similar question just now, adding that later medical history is important due to most young mothers being healthy and having no idea what can run in the family line. ie: breast cancer, diabetes, heart problems and the list goes on and on. Why subject any child to invasive testing when you can just ask the first family for updated medical information? My family has a strong history of breast cancer, heart disease and high blood pressure, I didn't know all of that when I was 21 and lost my child. But you can bet it was among the first things I told her! Why would anyone want to deprive their child of information that could impact their life in such a negative way? I do not however think a mandated update by law is a good idea. But that is a whole nother question! |
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ratel
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some parents might as it would be easier for them later on in case of emergency to tell the physicians their child's medical history. |
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I Love A Child With Autism!!!
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Absolutely, the more info the better. We are very luck to have access to all medical info from our one daughter's first mother. Since we keep in touch it is as easy as a phone call away and she is incredibly honest with us and the doctors!
I wish we were that lucky with our other daughter. Her first mother was unwilling to give us any info and has since broken off all contact. It stinks because she has some serious special needs and we have been fighting for 3 years and seeing literally dozens of doctors to find out what exactly is the problem. If we were able to obtain the info first hand our daughter would not have had to go through a lot of what she was put through.
Andraya, I am glad to see that you are in a better frame of mind today than you were yesterday. I tried to answer yesterday's question, but when I hit submit it was already deleted. Hang in there, you have a lot to offer not only those around you, but us as well!!! |
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yeahright
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I'd want every piece of information I could get. |
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Rowan
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If i ever adopted, i would love to have my childs medical history. "Why play with your childs life by hoping for the best?" I think if at all possible, it should be available. |
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littleJaina
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They want it! At least, I'd want it, and I cannot imagine any reason for not wanting all the information you can get! |
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sizesmith
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I would want updated medical information for my son. We're lucky to be able to get it, and to have had the family medical history for 4 generations. It's one of the reasons that I think all adoptions should be open, unless it is endangering the child. |
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Erin L
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YES!
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opedial
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I want it up to date by the minute if I could! |
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Serenity71
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YES! Why wouldn't any Aparent want to know medical if it can help their child. I don't know any Aparents IRL that want it all kept under tight wraps by government depts or denied to their children by Nparents.
(Not for myself but for my childs health, but if its something vital to a medical issue that presents itself to know if its in the biological family... I don't need to know anything else relating to the Nparents general private medical information.) |
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aloha.girl59
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I wish I had at least some of my son's medical information. I'd take anything I could get. |
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Angela B
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I would like to know so I can be an informed parnet when I go see my son's doctor. Especially in numerous cases it is important then the doctor and refine his assessment better and be intuned to certain areas.- |
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downwoman
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Idk I'm adopted, and they were never given anything even though I was like 10. They worry about my medical history, but we've been doing fine without it. |
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Bouvier
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Any information given ahead of time is best. That way, even if there is "worry" of potential illness due to genetics, we can research, explore possible options etc., SO YES! |
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Heather Leigh
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Absolutely. We had a medical scare this summer that ended up being nothing major, but knowing some of his Mom's medical history could have eliminated some testing. |
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mlb
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Yes it would be good for adoptive parents to have. My nephew was adopted from a foreign country and had to get all his immunization over again because they didn't know what he had or didn't have. It would of been much better if the records were sent with him. |
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Jennifer L
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YES!
I would be grateful for any updated medical information. |
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cheesy
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it depends on who the adoptive parents are. Some really want updated medical info. for the child just to make sure that the child is healthy while others dont really pay attention to that detail. It all depends on what the parents are like. |
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allchildrenareangels
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To me it would depend on the situation of the first mom. If she is in a bad situation that could hurt the child I guess I wouldn't want updates. If the first mom is a nice person and her situation won't hurt the child I think I would like to stay in contact via emails. So yeah updates on health history would be good. Good question.
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queennashiba
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are you giving your child for adoption? it depend if the child sick they will definitely need the child updated medical information if you find good one and they are despaired to adopt they will take the child for a full physical after the adoption is final good luck |
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