Do birthmothers think about there kids after they give them up for adoption?

A mother never ever forgets her child. I'm sure she thinks of her child on his/her birthday, the day she found out she was pregnant, when she sees other pregnant woman, when she sees children playing, etc. To give a child up doesn't mean to forget them.

Mei-Ling

My mother never forgot about me. Ever.

Mommy of John Michael (9 Months)

I gave my first child up for adoption because I didnt have money to support my child at the time. I think about her all the time I have an open adoption so I can see her and get letters also. My love never ends for my baby girl!

Just a Mom

Of course they do! Firstmothers don't quit loving their children when they give them up!

Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T.

birthmothers? I'd say the likelyhood is 100%. I'm sure they DO thnk about their relinquished child every day. Fathers, probably think about it alot too, maybe not as much.. Some fathers never know about the child.

Prija M

yes... they never forget them. My best freind has spina bifida and got pregnant. She gave up her baby and had her adopted she never forgot her

Lori A

I'm another one who never forgot. I have a hard time believing that anyone could actually forget. As far as fathers. My daughters father never forgot either. If they were never told you can't hold that against them.

snowwillow20

You are kidding, right?

Of course we think about our babies, how can we forget? We carried that baby for 9 months, do you think we are heartless? Just because we gave up our children doesn't mean we don't love them.

Stinky Pete

every second of every minute of every hour of everyday ..... and her daddy does too

Kiddo Back Home

i certainly believe so.

How could you not think about the child.
How could you not obsess over it for everyday of your life.

I think that somewhere out there, every birth mother is thinking about her child. I am certain that your mother is thinking about you.

allchildrenareangels

I am sure she does.

sunny

"Remembers" their kids?

They gave birth, they didn't have a lobotomy.

Louby B

Hi Darling,
Your question really touched me & is something so close to my heart.

I have a beautiful boy with whom I adopted as I knew I could not give him what he really needed in life, plus I had issues that I had to sort out.

When I decided to have my boy adopted, it was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. I felt my heart had been ripped out. There are many who cannot understand why birth mothers decide this, but many of us birth mothers do this for love not because we do not care.

For many years I would cry for my little boy, wondering does he look like me, what is he doing, are his parents looking after him. Everytime it is his birthday I would wish him a Happy Birthday, my heart would constantly ache for him, I vowed when he turned 21yr I would trace him down.

Well he has turned 21 & I traced him down, it was the best day of my life. We have met & speak to each other via email, he understands why I did adopt him to a loving family, which made me feel better as I wanted more than anything for him not to hate me & for him to know how much I loved him.

His adopted mum & dad have been very supporting & have been open with the situation. I am even going to meet them this Saturday which is going to be hard for both me & his adopted mum but I think this is the right thing to do as I want my boy to feel happy & loved. I do think that your adopted parents should be supporting you & maybe tell you the truth about how things were but in a sensative way & try to keep their opions to themselves, As behind many adoptions there are many real life sad storys in why a birth mother gave her so much loved child up for adoption.

It is so understandable with you maybe feeling not loved & maybe feeling lost, but I want you to know many of us birth mothers & I bet like yours never forgets our child, we do love & miss them & like me wish things could have been so different.

All the best darling xxx

Rowan

yes they do. I'm an adoptee who knows her birth mother, and she has told me she thought of me and my twin brother. Also, a friend i knew years ago gave up a child, and never forgot it.

Temperance

Of course she thinks of you. He does too.

Can you imagine what they must go through on your birthday? They love you. Sometimes I feel like you. I look in the mirror and cry. I wonder if they regret their decision.

She thinks of you all the time. I also know what it is like when you know that you birth mother has another child. I wonder why I wasn't that girl, or why that little girl got to be with her.

Hope I helped.

-Tempe

KP19633

I am sure your real mother and father think of you every day. They probably put you up for adption because they loved you so much, and wanted the best for you. I have cousins that are adopted, and my parents are adopting right now, and my cousins parents droped them off at a babysitters, and never returned. But I know that even she thinks of her kids. She wonders where they are and how they are doing.

MamaKate

I think of mine every single day.

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